anyone been harassed by an obsessed ex-partner?

Question

one who won't take "no" for an answer?
what did they do and hwo ling did it take them to get over it?

Answer 1

yes a lot..

Answer 2

I was in a situation like this but it was an x-husband. He enjoyed getting physical and leaving bruises. One night back in September 1996 he called me and I could tell in his voice that it was going to be one of those nights. So I never returned home. He harassed and intimidated me for about 8 months and then it finally started sinking in. It wasn't till he started getting the message that I was done that we were able to get our divorce.

Initially I got an Order of Protection. Depending where you live you may need to file an initial report of harassment to get the ball rolling on the Order. All I had to do was go to a Women's Crisis Shelter and I had the paperwork signed by the judge that afternoon. 2 weeks later had to go back to court to show cause that I was still afraid of him and when the information was shown to the judge the order was reinstated for 2 years.

When he finally started to understand that I was not coming back it made it easier for us to talk. Even after all that we had gone through we are friends to this day and are able to talk and get along just fine. We both came to the understanding that he and I are just better friends than partners.

Answer 3

If this is happening to you right now, PLEASE contact law enforcement! Get a restraining order immediately. Save phone messages on your answering machine for future evidence. Then change your phone numbers! Move to another location if possible. Tell your family and co-workers (especially MOM and your BOSS) so that they are aware of this potentially SERIOUS threat. Take this behavior seriously, stay at a shelter for awhile if necessary. Too many women think that "he will get over it" and they wind up dead. Do the research. See for yourself. Get help, a big dog, a deadbolt lock, some mace, a cop friend, whatever. Watch your back!

Answer 4

not I -- but my best friend and one other have both been through it. One took out a restraining order but the ex was a neighbour and harrassed + threatened violence without provably breaking the order. My friend stayed with her children's father just to get away from it (much the "lesser of 2 evils") while making arrrangements to leave the country and move 10,000 miles away without a forwarding address (she is a citizen of 2 countries). The other called in the police bcoz he threatened serious violence and has been violent to others. They have erected a security screen to protect her and her son at home. She relies #1 on her intuition and #2 on this for protection.

Answer 5

YES, going back to 1999. I had my tyres slashed, notes on the car, they followed me after I left work. I also had threats, I got told to check myself as I had been infected with HIV on purpose etc etc. I then moved to a different area and again I got followed. However so that I wouldn't recognise the car following me a different car was used to follow me. So, as a last resort I brought forward my plans to move out of Wales by few years, I packed up, quit my job and left for Manchester. I told no one apart from family and 2 friends.

Answer 6

Uh .... you sound like an obsessive bunny boiler. Why are you being recommend and obnoxious to this guy? You for sure have your husband who did not think of lots of this "affair" and if something it seems such as you're being vindictive to the different guy for ignoring you after he found out that there grew to become into not something "real" on your relationship different than some titilating emails, some p.c.., and a few webcams. To me it seems such as you're taking your frustrations out on somebody else once you're able to be focusing your energies on your husband, who has for sure not purely forgiven your affair, yet in addition seems supportive of you. instead of thinking approximately the different guy, why not "save at abode"?

Answer 7

Yeah and the best part of it was she didnt want back with me she just wanted to be freinds which I didnt want because I found it to painfull and thought it would create mixed signals four years later i still get emails I am over it now have been for years I still find it bizarre though!.

Answer 8

Yes! some took months while a few others
took years!!! The last one lasted for a year,
then seemed to have disappeared,or I can
at least hope anyway,right?
No contact is best,and be honest and direct!!!

Answer 9

I have. It has taken 2 yrs and a phone number change to get him to lay off and I fear the dude Im with now could be a potential obsessed person if I ever left him....

Answer 10

yeah took me well over a year to get rid of him luckily he's gone as i threatened him with a restraining order.........that works. He was txting me still untill a few months ago (split3 years at that point) i changed my number......its all fine now all is good.

he stalked me called me with i love you calls and abusive ones once i got with my current bf same with txts.

I never let it seem as though i was affect too which got to him more......

Hope that helped a little huni
Best of luck

Rosa

Answer 11

yes. i broke up with my ex a year and a half a go because he was too possesive, and he texts me til this day, he knows im in a relationship but stil persists on trying 2 get me back, it makes me feel sick..