im going to marry with a guy his qualification is Dip in M.E.
i got engagement in 10th of September'06. I spoke to him over the phone
but im not that much attaracted his speech. He is not spoken to me nicely, i Feel he is shy type. This thing made me very hard and i thought of stop the marriage pls anyone sugest im correct or wrong?
2006-08-30 22:37:31 · 26 answers · asked by swetha 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
Do you even know him? Marriage is a committment between two people that love each other. Don't marry someone you don't love because it would most likely end in divorce. You don't need to rush into marriage.
2006-08-30 22:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by helenptrvc 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm assuming this is an arranged marriage, but even so if you have very negative feelings about this person, you need to be true to yourself. Maybe you will feel different if you get to know this person, but rushing into a marriage that doesn't feel right to you is just a bad idea all around.
You may get some grief from the families, but better that than a life of misery with someone you can't stand. If he's not nice to you now, why would you think he would ever be? If you really think it's shyness, you need more time to be sure. Again, follow you heart and head.
2006-08-30 22:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you even met this person? Life is precious and so is marriage - dont get caught up in the hype about being engaged etc. If this is meant to be you must truly love and respect each other and the only way to do that is to really get to know him before marriage - a rough patch now is a whole lot better than a life of mistake and misery. You will know when you meet the right person, in your heart. dont rush into this - marriage can be a very good thing but dont forget it is supposed to be a life long contract of mutual love and respect.
2006-08-30 23:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by PERCY L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really hurts when you trust somebody to the extent that you leave you parents and family for him and then you come to knw that it was a big mistake. i understand your feeling but what is bothering me is you got married just before a month and suddenly everything thing change upside down.why?why he became so unkind and rude towards you.i am not saying u r wrong,in any situation what he did is not at all acceptable.what i mean to say is may be there was a chance from your side where you would have managed to stand by him when he left his job.he left his job just because he wanted to give and spend time with you right? at last this is your life and you have to take a decision.my opinion on this is you should talk to him and both the partners's family should have a interference in whatever decision you both take.if the elders are involved he will be having fear in his mind so i hope he will not hit you again. just talk to him alone and discuss your talking with him infront of both the families including him sitting there. i hope it was a love marriage, dnt just let go your love, may be one day you will think "i shud have given just one single chance to my marriage." wishing you all the best for you future.
2016-03-27 02:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, need more information about your question!! I'm asking you if this is a family marriage arrangment done by your parents?? Or is this someone that you met on the internet?? If either one of these is correct then my suggestion would be to say NO on this marriage.. You are very young and you will have allot of time to get married, do not rush into a marriage. Find someone that you can date and grow to love and your life will be allot happier.. Good Luck...
2006-08-30 22:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he has DIP qualifications then he should not marry you. You should not marry him. What is DIP? Anyway if you have any doubts, pass this guy up. Just where are you from? Is this an arranged marriage.... how barbaric. If you have the choice don't marry him. If you have not a choice, Then you do as you feel you have too.
2006-08-30 22:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A maried life is a compromised life. You lose your identity. You live not only for you, but for your partner as well. If both make compromises then life become wonderful. Your view about this guy may change after marraige. However, if you have not met at all, try to have ameeting. Because nothing can be done in India after marriage.
2006-08-30 23:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by rups 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please wait and study before you take the final decision.
Because, for a girl, life is far more important
than that of a boy. Never take any hasty decision
on a relation intended to be life long. You have to find
out the inner personality & character of a boy
if it is not going to be an arranged marriage by the parents.
All that glitters is not gold, either. He can be even better
than his experessions. Think before you act.
2006-08-31 00:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by Vijay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you are prdetermined to break this marriage....Even I found so many grammatical mistakes in your sentence phrasing. So how can you claim that he is not having good communication just over a conversation on phone. Even if it is true, I feel a person should be judged by his deeds and not by other irrelevant matters...Looks and Communication matters but what if they are just to decept you??? Better if you meet him casually and then make decision considering your Parent's suggestion also...It's better to take their advice rather than logging such issues on net....
2006-08-30 22:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by Ajit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find a person who speaks very well and attracts you, do you think that he will be the best husband in future? Donot see the outside looks or how he talks to you, you can verify from his back ground by the known people about his behaviour. If it is good no need to think other wise you can maary him.
Literally I know my neighbour who speeks very nicely and so many ladies are attracted to him and his wife is the most worried women.
2006-08-30 22:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by nagarjunababu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋