ok, well im confused. i love my ex really bad but i hate her really bad too. i want her back but at the same time i just want her outta my life. i dont know if i wanna move on. well i want to, but lil things pull me back to her. ive tried getting a new gurl but to me no gurl matches up to her. im not sure how she feels about me.well she broke up with me but her sister says shes thinking about going out with me again.i asked my ex about it and she admited it. her cuzin also said that my ex said "if i want him back i could get him like this 'snap'", she admited saying that too. she acts like she dont want me no more yet her friends and family say difrently. i guess my question is, what should i do? has anyone else been thru this? should i just move on? how do i move on?
2006-08-30 22:32:55 · 17 answers · asked by pirate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when love takes hold,
it's your heart that take the reins not your mind.
If you want to move on, I suggest you get out of your shell,
get more new acquaintance and busy yourself with them.
Time is the best medicine for all heartaches.
2006-08-30 22:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by davmanx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on because she's only going to abuse you in anyway possible. She still has control over you, you don't have to get over her right away, it normally doesn't work like that. This girl doesn't seem worth the time of day either way. And i think that you love her so much you hate her! Normally the reason that people keep running back is because they are almost what they want and the don't think that the person is out there but really they are, you just need to look a little harder. Don't get back with her you will only get hurt trust me Ive seen this time and time again. How many times are you gonna let her hurt you? once should be enough!
2006-08-31 05:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by ~Bethany~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but this sounds very much like my teenage daughter went thru with her boyfriend. They wanted to be together but would fight and argue and bicker all the time, they would break up for a little bit and then want to be back together and try again and it was just a vicious cycle. My opinion, you are comfortable w/ the relationship. That is not to say it's a good realtionship. And by all means I am not saying you love her. I beleive you are comfortable and it's easier to go back to what you know, even if it may not be perfect then the fear of starting over. There is alot of fear involved in moving on because you don't want to walk away and not have things go well and want to come back but she will not take you back or vice versa. It's just the fear of the unknown that is holding you back. I think you know what you need to do just by the fact you are asking on here what to do. You are scared and dont want to have to make a hard decision and be held accountable for it. I think you need to suck it up, act like you don't care, get yourself out there and find someone else that is more compatible w/ your and maybe not so overly secure that she says she can get you back in a snap, as if you have no say in the idea. There are alot of women out there, I think you should take a few more for a test drive. Good Luck!
2006-08-31 05:47:17 · answer #3 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i could answer your question. you and me are one and the same. but ill tell you this. a bit of comfort. YOU WILL BE OK EITHER WAY. love fails sometimes even when both ppl care about each other. its just the way of the world. you just gotta do something but what ever you decide you gotta go 100% with it. if you want her back you cant think about the other road thinking about the other road will lead you to make bad decisions about a perfectly fine decision.
2006-08-31 05:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by doc2be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl is screwing with your head. She's playing russian roulette ther too cos you seem like you are on the verge of being quite violent. I am gonna say this FORCE YOURSELF TO MOVE ON. Wear an elastic band around your wrist and flick it every time you think of her, it is negative reinforcement and really may help. The girls sister needs to butt way the hell out, she is screwing with your head also by being the little go between. Be good to yourself and let her go. This advice is not for her benefit it is totally for yours.
2006-08-31 05:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on if she wanted to get back she wouldn't be playing games don't you men ever get it its about the control that's why you don't move on cause its a maybe from experience ill say get a girl and you ll see shell try to get with you again but ill tell you this much you ll probably end up getting hurt again
2006-08-31 05:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by chunkybaby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you dont want her, you think you do.
my advice is to shag as many girls as poss.
after a while youll know if you still want her.
the reason your ex says those things about gettin you back in a snap is because she still has control over your feelings.
if she thinks your over her, your in control and if you do get back with her, you call the shots.
be a man and dont any ****.
if you do take ****, then youll allways take ****. after a point in a relationship its hard to change the other person view of how to treat you.
2006-08-31 05:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by ARAN S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whow...hang on there a min...
take it easy...
i understand...live life as it comes..you dont have to go ahead and get things done...let them be for the moment..
when ur head clears up you will be in a better position to answer ur own qs rather than any of us....
take some time out...
all the best...
2006-08-31 06:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by v v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on by restarting to find a new girl , it may take some time but you will be more happy .
2006-08-31 05:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the girls world.. kinda confusing right but its really true sometimes they act diffrently on what is really inside their heart well might be she is confused that is why she broke up with you.. maybe you need to seat and talk about it. I meana seriously talk about it coz if ur actions hurt both of you well i guess its not good... remember your actions results from what is inside your heart..
hope you can fixed the problem up and Godbless...
2006-08-31 05:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_avenger21 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋