My friend said that she is planning on killing someone she knows and then is going to kill herself,she is always depressed and this person has made her even more miserable. She said she thinks about killing him all the time,what should i do?
2006-08-30 21:59:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well, you need to develop some diplomacy skills. And fast. Tell her, if she's concerned with her own future, she'll look at the big picture. How is sitting in prison, or being dead, for that matter, going to further any goals she's chosen for herself? If it's so important that she end up dead, why can't she leave this person for us to deal with, since we're obviously so much better at it? This person hasn't made anyone else so depressed that they became homicidal/suicidal...
Notice, I said the word 'future'. She DOES NOT INTEND to kill herself! She's trying to get help from you!
If she was serious about it, it would be done by now, and she would've left a note, explaining her actions.
My best efforts, with people like this is to grab a kitchen knife, and say, "FINE! YOU WANNA DIE? YOU'RE GONNA DIE!" and then chase them around the house with it, while they say, "NO! I DON'T WANNA DIE!" and then I sit down with them to talk about their problems, reassurring them I never intended to kill them.
I don't recommend this for you. What she needs from you, with little, or no diplomacy skills, is HELP. Start by asking what you can do to help her get out of this mess she's in. And be as sincere as you can in helping her. Be honest. She's up against a wall, not crazy. If you say something sounds like she's starting to crack, she'll take it at face value, without judgement. Help this friend of yours, to find peace in her life. If you were a better friend, you'd have figured this out by now.
Try to find the root of the problem, and address it there.
2006-08-30 22:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your friend needs psychiatric help so you need to inform her parents of her intentions and let them deal with the problem.You are not responsible for her actions or feelings she is and needs to accept this by telling you of her intentions she is passing all the stress over to you which is wrong and she is obviously crying out for help. If you are unable to discuss this with her parents then you must inform the police of what you know so they are aware of her intentions.She needs serious help for her depression also as this is causing her to have a negative and dangerous thought process.If she is that good a friend maybe you can inform her directly of the consequenses of killing someone and herself and maybe you could encourage her to visit gp asap.
2006-08-31 07:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by angelle_76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely tell some sort of responsible authority figure, and if you think you don't want to because she might get mad at you, she might get in trouble, she might not do it, or because your scared-- Ask yourself if she did go through with it, even if they didn't die, how would you feel knowing you had the information to stop it but didn't?
It really sounds like she's telling you as a cry for help, even if it's in a "casual" or subconscious way, so help her by getting her the help she needs!
2006-08-31 06:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone like a parent, or teacher or health care professional about this.
WHen someone makes threats to hurt others or to hurt themselves you tell someone.
This is a circumstance when you do not have to be confidential.
I have had people i know say things like this.
If they mean it they need to get help for them selves to deal with how they are feeling.
If they do not mean it they are being manipulative and demanding and you need to distance your self from them
You can still be their friend and support them if they are having mental health problems.
Being a good friend does not mean keeping bad secrets that could hurt them or others. It means helping your friend even if it means making them upset initially. WHen they are better they will appreciate what you did.
Good Luck,
2006-08-31 05:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by Bebe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sick or not, depressed or not, you're obliged to notify the authorities. She may accuse you of betraying her but if you consider her threat credible (which it sounds like based on your concern and your choice of words: "...she is planning on killing someone . . . ") then you MUST consider her safety and, of course, the safety of the individual she said she want to kill.
How reliable are her parents? At the very LEAST you should tell them. But for homicide, I say go to the police. Take your parents with you.
2006-08-31 05:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by cboni2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone you trust and call the authorities so you can get your friend some serious help to prevent her from hurting herself or anyone else.
2006-08-31 05:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by tifftazia18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the police immediately..your friend is a danger to herself and to others ...so before she does something she really does not want to do...get her some help if you really care...and do not hesitate...you could be saving her life and yours as well.
2006-08-31 05:31:27 · answer #7 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if this is for real, you should call the authorities, her parents, tell them what you know. If she is depressed you need to try to help her get help for her depression. It is up to you. Be a real friend and help her.
2006-08-31 05:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by NIck N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be Vigilant and alert someone in authority of your concerns and her intentions, at least that way its out in the open, be there for your friend, although it sounds like you are, sounds like she's having rough time
2006-08-31 05:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by sashlou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act now! A girl just stabbed a guy in my city the other day.
2006-08-31 05:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by x_ducati 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋