To all the Christians, please answer this.?

Question

Just a question, dont be offended. I am a free-thinker now, but i blif tt i was born Christian or was a Protestant at some pt of my life, most of my family members are. But even as a free thinker, once in a while i attend the churches when a friend ask me along. But no matter how many different churches i go to, they wld kinda be a little 'too friendly' and would ask me many questions and get hold of my number and name even though i dunno them well. Then i wld have the feeling of being 'forced' to attend and be a permanent church-goer whn they start to call me or text me. I like churches, but is the way they approach me that makes me a little scared. And many of my friends share the same experiences with me, so u cant say that im an introvert or an atheist. This does'nt really happen in other major religon for what i know. I dont have anything against christianity, in fact i wld want my kids in future to be a christian. Even my Christian relatives does'nt pressure me to that extent.

I am am residing in the south-east asia if it helps. So my Q is that r most Christians that demanding and prefers a dogmatic approach? Is this kinda fanatic pressure unhealthy if it gets to a certain extent?

Answer 1

Let's put this way. I, too, have that same experience of this 'too friendly' atmosphere to people hardly you consider 'friend'. My guess is as long as they are in the realm of christianity they seemed to imbue with them unsolicited quota to please God, their pastor/preacher and themselves believing they have done something extraordinary good for saving souls. Sometimes, it's irritating and overiding the very reason you visited church. But I know these people meant no harm and have all the good intention to help even without being ask. They only lack maturity and finesse to sell their faith to the outsiders.

Answer 2

Religion is whatever you feel is right.
How do you know what you feel is right? Haven't your feelings ever turned out to be wrong? Are you are saying that what you feel determines truth? If so, then you are putting yourself in the place of God, and looking to yourself for what you "feel" is right.
If religion is whatever you feel is right, then that could lead to chaos. What if some people had a religion where they felt stealing was acceptable? And what about lying and cheating? Would you trust someone who believed in a religion that felt it was alright to steal, lie, and cheat?
Hitler felt killing Jews was right. He was wrong. The Bible says that the heart is deceitful and untrustworthy (Jer. 17:9). If you could come to know truth by what you felt, then the Bible, which is the revelation of God, didn't need to be written. But, it has been written, and it has revealed that only God is the Source of truth, not your feelings.
I've never known truth to contradict itself. What if someone felt that something was right, and another person felt it was wrong? Would they both be right? If your statement is true, then how could there be a contradiction like that, if feelings determined truth?
All religions are different paths to the same place.
If all religions are different paths to the same place, then why do the paths contradict each other? Does truth contradict itself? Let's review the teachings of just three religions:
Buddhism is pantheistic and says there is no personal God and everyone can reach Godlikeness on his own. Islam says that Jesus was just a prophet, and not the only way to God. Christianity says that there is a personal God, and that the only way to Him is through Jesus (John 14:6). If these three religions are, as you say, different paths to the same place, then why do they contradict each other? Does truth contradict itself?
What about dinosaurs and evolution?
Even if evolution were true (it isn't - but just for the sake of argument), does that mean there is no God? How do you know God didn't use it to get us here? (I am not teaching that evolution is true, nor that God used it, which is called theistic evolution, I am simply reasoning with them.) If you believe in evolution, does that mean you aren't a sinner? God won't accept the excuse that you believed in evolution and not Him.
Have you examined evolution to see if it is true? Evolution is not all that you are led to believe. There are all kinds of problems in the fossil record. New theories are being raised all the time to account for why there aren't any undisputed transitional forms found between any species of any kind, anywhere, anytime in all the fossil record. But, you wouldn't know these things because you haven't studied. You need to know the facts about evolution, and you need to know the facts about Jesus.

Answer 3

You say you are a "free thinker" as if you could not be that and a Christian too...

That's pretty funny, AS IF when you believe in God you suddenly stop being a "free thinker"... Maybe some Christians "check their brains" at the door, but there's no reason to, because Jesus came to make us free when we were slaves. People are slaves to all kinds of things both physical and spiritual, such as houses, cars, wife, husband... intellect, pride... Jesus never even hinted that we should be anything other than free-thinkers. I encourage you to consider the words of Jesus Himself: Except a man be born again he shall never see the Kingdom of Heaven. If you will give your heart to Jesus, then life won't be such a bore for you. And you can REALLY start the free thinking whenever He extracts the lies from the truth so that your base of possibilites is narrowed considerably, making it easier to concentrate on the things that matter.

Answer 4

I understand your phenomenon well. The same thing happens in AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) and I'll telly you why: You're new, so you must not be truly "saved" yet, so they're determined to grab onto you any way they can, to make sure you come back so you can see how glorious god, being sober, whatever, really is. It's kind of like the first date with a girl who's really desperate to get a boyfriend. If you keep going back to the same church, they'll start to see you as a regular and (hopefully) back off.

Answer 5

It's not going to church every week that gets you your salvation. It is having a personal relationship with Christ every single day. Just because you go to some building every Sunday and get overwhelmed by people that are trying to be nice does not mean that you have been saved. Christ gives us an example of how to live our lives in the Bible; One of the most important things to take away from how he lived as a human is how he lived with others. He built a relationship with people. He really wanted to know people and help them. We live in a very shallow society that is afraid of its own shadow; afraid to show who we really are for fear that we might be judge here on earth. I can tell you that none of this matters in heaven. God knows us better than we know ourselves. Dont give up. I bet you will find a church that you feel comfortable. As long as Jesus and his Truth is the focus all will be well.

Answer 6

Believe it or not, I was once as you are now. I went to church and wanted to keep my distance, observe quietly and not really get to know the people. I didn't want people bugging me to come to church because I wanted to keep it at arms length and worship in my own space. There are churches out there for wherever you are. I went to a church who left me alone, pretty much. Then as I grew in the Lord, I began to understand that there was something missing, there must be something more. I didn't understand what I needed but I knew that church no longer had what I needed. Then there were several deaths in my family, my sister 36 (anorexia), my brother in law(stabbed to death) who was 35, a niece who was 7 (drown) a niece 17 (car accident). I was finally searching for answers. All died within 2 years. I went to a revival church and got filled with the HOLY SPIRIT, things have never been the same since. Now I want to hug people and welcome them to church.....I have changed...I am different inside. Please keep searching a church that suits you and when you outgrow it ,move on to better things. Go with God, and good luck finding HIM.

Answer 7

I'm in America, and this is true of certain churches here. I think it is unhealthy because you tend to think why are they acting so fanatical about my absence. I don't know about certain missionary churches over seas, though. I can understand how you feel, I felt this same way until a different preacher came. Good luck, hopefully you can keep your faith regardless. God bless.

Answer 8

I observed a guy run around the outdoors of a pool crammed with a non-Newtonian fluid as a result God is actual, and likewise the soul is an invisible organ interior the human physique that's teleported to a minimum of one in all 2 parallel universes, the two heaven or hell as quickly as we die.

Answer 9

Not all churches are like that, though some perhaps are. I am sorry if they have made you feel too pressured. Some Christians are pushy because they care where you spend eternity. Traditional churches are sometimes more respectful of your personal space.

Answer 10

I am Christian living in SG.

First of all, I want to apologise for any offence caused by overzealous friends who try to "pressure" you into going to church. I understand how you feel because it happened to me before. I think we sometimes overlook this part when we invite friends to church. However I hope you understand it from their viewpoint, which is, they care enough to invite you to church. I think you should know what is at stake, eternity with or without God.

Answer to your question, I am not sure whether most Christians are like that. At least those who are in my church are not. In future, please let your friends know how you feel whenever you feel "pressured", I am sure they will respect how you feel. After all, you have to want to believe.

God Bless!
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