OK...I'm super in love with my boyfriend..i've been with him for almost 3 years.. we have lots of problems cause he treats me bad...he has cheated on me countless times...in other words talk to other girls while with me... thats y i'm always calling him checking up on him, texting him,..i'm baiscally "crazy" in his words! and i dont wanna be like that anymore...and i dont wanna leave him either i love him to much....but i want it to be where he is calling me and texting me and checking up on me all the time..i want him to want me as much as i want him....I wanna be the ***** in the relationship and have control over him....the way he has me......but i just dont know where to start from and what to do?......Please help me???????/!!!!!!
2006-08-30 20:51:26 · 27 answers · asked by linda04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why are you so worried .......dump him 3 years is a long time....this is not a life.. this is not a relationship..i am sure you can find someone much better he is no good .......
2006-08-30 20:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath. Whew. I am worn out from reading that. I think that you are getting a little too caught up in this relationship. Life will be OK. You don't NEED this guy. Learn to be content w/o having to have a guy. You need to grow in being more secure. He needs space. That's not a bad thing. If he says you're crazy maybe it is a sign that you're puting way too much into this relationship and just need to relax/chill. Again, take a deep breath. Everything will be OK but you need to not get so caught up in all of this. If you depend too much on people you'll have LOTS of heartache in life. Learn to grow in confidence and to not have to need someone else's love, etc. You'll do fine I am sure. You sound like a good person... but are puting an aweful lot of energy into this and need to step away from the situation a bit. You'll drive him away if you're too "loving" on him. He'll see it as clingy and won't want to be around that. Be yourself... and yet pull back a bit in what you're wanting and expecting of him.
2006-08-30 21:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by take_me_to_the_beach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control people. What kinda relationship would that be? You both gotta sit down and tell eachother what you expect from the relationship. If they don't match, get out. Life is too short to waste it on being with someone you shouldn't be with. The reason is, the person you should be with is out there looking for you. Stop wasting time and go find him.
2006-08-30 20:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by leckie1UK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, when guys feel that a girl wants them that much, the SIMPLY neglect her. On the other hand, if you don't show it, or if you don't let him feel that u rlly want him, he'll start thinkin like....how can a girl not want me?! so that's when he'll start thinking of you, and start to think of ways to get you back to him, to want him as much as you wanted him before. So that's what you have to do..be there but hard to reach at the same time. And am tellin you that's not an easy thing to do!
Here's the thing...Guys are like babies and girls are like toys.
when a baby sees a toy that's one metre away from him he's so damn attracted to it and wants to have it by any means that's coz he CAN see it buy yet can't reach it. But what if:
1-This toy disappears from infront of him?! you know what they say.. ' out of sight, out of mind '
2- The baby gets to get the toy, he'll hold it for a couple of minutes then throw it away, he's got what he want and that's it.
So be like the toy that's one metre away...YOU'RE THERE BUT HARD TO REACH!!
GooD luck sweetie
2006-08-30 21:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by •NaNNou• 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to give you some use full advise I know you love him and that you don't want to leave him but you just want him to stop his cheating so you should try to make him jealous and maybe he'll want you back and if that don't work sit down with him and tell him how you really feel I'm sure he'll understand and stop what he's doing and sometimes it helps if you listen to what he have to say too but if he really have a heart and he loves you as much as you love him then maybe he'll understand that he's hurting you. I gave you something and I really hope this works out for you GOOD LUCK.......................... oh and I really mean it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Win his heart back!!!!!!
:D :-) :D :-) :D Good luck Hun!!!!!!!!
2006-08-30 21:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey u seem really in bad shape u!!!!!!!! i dnt understand y people like to keep control over the ones they love. live freely n let live freely... that's the best way to achieve ur bf's heart. If u will be constantly keeping a watch on him, he will run away from u the fastest n u will be the loser.... So, change urself first lili,,,
2006-08-30 22:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by Lovlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. listen boys are always selfish. if u always call him and always send him letters so he want's more and more. and if u are always after him so he will love that because he will c him self on u and say " waw man that girl is so deep in love with me" and he'll ignore you just 2 make u jelous and run after him. so i think u should play it back on him, that mean, dnt call him anymore and be wroude with him and dnt send him messages that's the way how u will make him ask him self" what wrong witht his girl, how come she's not calling me anymore or sending me msg's" and in this way he will call you and ask 4 you and send u msg because he will see the emptyness you leave in his life. go 4 it girl . and gd luck
2006-08-30 20:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by lastpub_87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey..let go.. if its really love he will come back and if not.. it was never ment to be..
Hint of problem.. he doesnt treat you the way he should.. Do you really want that for life? Love your self and walk.. give him a chance to show you how much he loves you.. You are smothering him at this point.. Love yourself more & let go.
2006-08-30 21:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by DearAbby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun if your relationship is like this already, i don't really think that it's worth persueing. and a man isn't cheating unless he's actually having sexual encounters with other women *or men, who knows*
i think that you need to put away your issues and he needs to let the control thing go a little or just forget it. cause by the looks of it, it's not going to work
2006-08-30 20:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These issues have more to do with you than your boyfriend. You need to look inside yourself and figure out why you are insecure and untrusting. If you push guys too hard, they will leave you.
I'm sorry to say, that you are probably the one that needs some counseling. It couldn't hurt anyway, could it?
2006-08-30 20:54:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are based on trust, if there is none, then all is lost, and it sounds that way. Untill you are able to trust your boyfriend, its best you leave it alone, its not wise for you or your boyfriend to live in this rediculas manner.
2006-08-30 21:03:26 · answer #11 · answered by princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋