Does he like me or does he just want body warmth?

Question

Alright, so I posted another thread which received many WORTHLESS responses.

I met a guy at a party 1 month ago and we made out while drunk. He asked for my number and since then we have hung out together about 5 times or so. What we usually do is I go to his house, he cooks for me, then we watch a movie and I spend the night WITHOUT having sex. (I am a virgin and I don't really want to lose it.) Last time I accidentally ended up giving him a handjob after he made out with me aggressively.

Tonight we were on AIM, and he told me he was studying and invited me over. I said I could not spend the night because I had an early class, so he said that I should not walk home alone that late, insinuating that he wanted me to spend the night. Then I made a remark about how I hoped I was not his "booty call" and he goes" what is that? I just invited you to study with me."

Clearly though, he wanted to hold me at night.

He has called me to get an application for employment at his work, and

we went out to eat lunch once. But most of the time he just invites me over so he can hold me at night. I am confused because he makes all the moves, calls me, IMs me, etc. and I am a virgin after all. So what's the deal? Does he like me or does he just want body warmth? Or is it both?

Also, he has only been in one relationship and has had sex with one girl.

I don't think he's a player, but I'm confused about the situation.

And enough with the patronizing people....and provide some real, non-facetious responses. I am a virgin, okay , and a junior in college. I doubt most of you could say that, so stop stoning me to death. (Refer to other thread for evidence of moronic responses.)

Poster 2: A piece of a** who doesn't give him sex?

Explain this to me....seriously too. Do guys use girls as teddy bears too?

Elucidate further.

To poster 3: yes, we have talked on the internet a lot....albeit, it's the internet.

Answer 1

You got to be kidding me..your just a piece of *** to him. He's getting it and you seem happy with it. So much for higher education. He's using you like the maxed out Visa Card he has in his wallet.

Answer 2

Don't know for sure. For some guys though, getting a virgin (especially in college) would be something to work for. Of course you'll play the part and say the right thing.. and keep pushing ever so subtly for that extra little bit. The fact that you first met at a party and made out drunk is evidence that you could possibly make another stupid mistake later down the road. The fact that you "accidentally" gave him a handjob is even more evidence. The guy has no reason to quit now.. just keep pushing toward the goal.

Try this on.. you've known the guy for roughly 30 days. You probably haven't spent 100 hours with him.. Should lay off the night visits and move the relationship to a normal day time relationship. You might avoid other "accidents"
Good luck

Answer 3

Well, you can't be sure, but why read so much into everything and just try to enjoy his company? From what you've described, he sounds like a guy a lot of women would want, especially since he cooks for you. Maybe he really likes you. Is he pressuring you for sex? If not, just loosen up a little, or if it makes you uncomfortable, end it! I really can't figure out why a girl who cares about her virginity is spending the night with a guy anyway.

Answer 4

From all ur description, it seems that all he want is quite physical.

Have he talk and sharing mind with you about life etc?

If u still a virgin, dont temp urself in a very tempting situation where u can easily lost, such as alone with him in one room, or quiet places ( as u said, u already give him hand job) Its just a matter of time u'll lose ur virginity if u keep on doing like that.

Always meet him in crowded, bright place. Get to know each other better in terms of characters.
Saved ur body to the one who willing to spend lifetime with u in marriage.

Have a blessed life :)

Answer 5

I bet he just wants to know u more but be careful u could end up being or giving in coz the way u put it u have asoft spot for the guy ,but he could be serios with u take ur tyme and whats the reason of telling him ur a virgin but if u enjoy his company well and good but reduce on those late night visits, but he sounds real

Answer 6

1st of all there's nothing wrong @ being a virgin. if you're happy being that way then y be ashamed. it's u who owns & controls ur body. i was 20 when i loose it because i believe im old & responsible enough to handle whatever the consequences maybe. and as for this person i believe he likes u but he is taking it slow. he has high respects for you and has concern for you. if he has no feelings for you then why would he call you and waste his time on you, am i right? just give him time. if he is worth the wait then go ahead. go girl.

Answer 7

Maybe its both...I would not be staying the night with him if as you say you want to stay a virgin...Things happen as you know look what you did for him!!! Date him and see where it goes, if thats what you want. He maybe just need buddy warming or he is really interested in you. The only way to find out is not staying the night, you may see more of him....

Answer 8

Enough.

You're grounded for life.

Jeesh. You claim to be a virgin but you gave the guy a hand job?

What next? Mutual masturbation?

How long before he pops your cherry?

Jeesh. Terminate your connection with the perv now.

Good Luck.

Answer 9

Why live like that
do not sleep with a man who is not your own
Look for someone evenly yolked
We are not live toys to play with
never feel sorry or compelled to be some
man's toy

Answer 10

You need to ask him. No one here can tell you what your body-warmth-provider hand-job-receiver thinks. We are not psychic. So go ahead, do the adult thing, and ask HIM.