Ok, guy I met a month ago....made out at a party while drunk, blah. He asks for my number. Since then we've hung out about 4 or 5 times, and talked a lot on AIM (yes, dorky). Anyway, it seems like all he ever wants to do is for me to spend the night and so he can hold me...last time I gave him a handjob on accident, after he had this aggressive makeout session with me.
I mean he does call me sometimes, just to talk, etc. He also called me to tell me to pick up a job application from his work. We also ate lunch out once.
But yeah, does he just want me as a cuddle buddy or what? And does he actually like me?
For example, tonight he was studying and invited me over to study with him, so I told him I can't spend the night because tomorrow I have an early class. I said I have to leave by 1 AM, and then he says he doesn't know when he's going to bed, but probably earlier.
BTW. I am a virgin, he knows it. I am a total prude, and he is NOT a virgin...but I am one.
2006-08-30 19:45:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Real answers please.
2006-08-30 19:50:28 · update #1
Are you guys drunk or what?
It's called reading the entire question and stop providing worthless answers.
And yes, a handjob isn't really anything....sex is, in my opinion.
2006-08-30 19:52:21 · update #2
yeah right
2006-08-30 19:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by Deb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember you said:
"met a guy a month ago...made out at a party while drunk, blah.."
Usually those guys are NOT the ones who are going to be sticking around very long. It sounds like he wants to "spend the night" to probably do more than just hold you...especially since he blew you off about studying.
You've got to remember most guys (especially college age guys who you meet when you're drunk and make out with) are after one thing or another....and I think you know what that is. By spending the night with him and allowing him to "hold" you, then you are letting him know that it's ok to be that close. Soon enough he will probably expect a bit more.
I would let him go. If he's interested he should respect you and your wishes and will sooner or later come knocking and it won't just be for "rolling around". That way you can find out if he really does like you or not....in the DAYTIME.
If all you want is a "cuddle buddy" then go for it, and if all you want is someone to roll around with then go for it. But quite frankly this relationship between the two of you has already started off on the wrong foot and you need to identify what his intentions are with your acquaintanship.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-30 19:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jody C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello. It sounds to me like he really cares for you. He really seems to respect the fact that you're a virgin, and that you'll only go as far as heavy makeout sessions and accidental handjobs. You sound like a very virtuous young woman. In fact, I'd be proud to take you home to meet my parents. Anyway, just by the fact that he sometimes calls you means that he cares for you deeply. If this guy is a real stud, make him stay by going all the way with him. This will tell him that you really do love him like he loves you. This sounds like a match made in heaven. Go pick out that wedding dress, girl!
2006-08-30 20:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound very confused. You say you are a total prude but you seem upset that he hasn't really tried anything with you. Maybe he loves you and respects you. Why don't people get it until it's too late? If you don't want more than this then appreciate what you've got. If you do want more then tell him.
2006-08-30 19:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by DJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows you are a virgin, he just wants to be the guy that nailed the virgin. I think that that is an accomplishment that they take pride in. Believe me, I know that from experience.
2006-08-30 19:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by jaded 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've just illustrated how you are NOT a total prude (hand job anyone?)
So do the adult thing and ask HIM whether you are cuddle buddies or not.
How are we supposed to know?
2006-08-30 19:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by suzanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come I never get accidental handjobs?
2006-08-30 19:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by Big Thinker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
express ur feeling....
no 1 knw the others ppl thking without communication...
try to settle the relationship between u both,then talk other....
2006-08-30 19:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by sack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand in front of him stark naked
and say he can enjoy all the goodies
he'll get the idea
2006-08-30 19:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by peter gunn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it in. Get squirrly
2006-08-30 19:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by zetser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋