I always have a wall between any guy that i get to know or date. Fearing that they will hurt me bad
2006-08-30 19:44:15 · 12 answers · asked by Belle 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I sense that you have been hurt before.
Putting a "wall" between you & any guy, is not helping in your relationship. If the guy feels that he cannot be part of your life, then he'll move-on. Nobody wants or can maintain a relationship with a constant stranger.
i'm not asking you to put 110% into every relationship in the begaining, but slow learn to open yourself up. Communication is the key.
I'm sure you will have friends to fall back-on if things don't go well.
Well, good luck n cheers!
2006-08-30 23:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously not happy with your present fears...so you have to grow up and let go...or forever be on the out side looking in.
The way you avoid getting hurt (there are never any guarantees) is by not being gullible and not being so quick to fall in love. There is never a need to rush into any relationship. Always take it slow and really scrutinize your dates. Don't trust them or anyone unless they earn that trust. Always make sure that YOU control your life and never give that up to any man. Remember to love yourself first and "to thine own self be true".
You might also want to venture to your local library and research a few books on self assurance...how to get it and maintain it. Ask the librarian to help you.
You need not go into a shell because someone mistreated you. This is the real world and you have to learn to live in it. Use common sense in your judgment of people and follow your gut feelings when push comes to shove.
You deserve to be happy...only you can make that so.
2006-08-30 20:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to trust anyway. Understand that it may be risky to get your heart broken but also maybe worth it if he gets to know you without all your defenses up. Just loosen up and have fun. You might meet someone you might not. Life is about taking risks.
2006-08-30 19:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by ♥c0c0puffz♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go looking for anyone. someone will come to you. dont be afraid of wallflowers or the nice ones just because they may not be the "coolest". the tend to be more "real" although this wont guarantee that you wont get hurt, it lessens the chance by a lot.
2006-08-30 19:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by carlos r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get hurt life goes on !
2006-08-30 23:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by pharaoh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all get hurt in life but learn to live with it and move on........Just live your life and enjoy
2006-08-30 19:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No lost no gain! If u dun try how would u noe whether will they hurt u?
2006-08-30 19:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by D@ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
letting people in your life doesn't guarantee that you won't be hurt. it's part of life..that's how we become mature and wise. trial and error, u know.
2006-08-30 20:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move with guys with well manner.. you should maintain a limit with them...
You should know what is good and bad before go with them..
My advice better maintain distance with anybody... thats good for your future
2006-08-30 19:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by Ananth P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chance or your not living life to the fullest.....
2006-08-30 19:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋