I Need Some SERIOUS advice?

Question

I met this guy online10 months ago,i REALLY didn't want him to be my boyfriend, bt he bcame my boyfrnd, he's really cute & we have seen each other by pictures.My elder brother has already met him.Bt my friends & Parents hate him cz we met online and they always tell me to stop this.But I cant do it!!! Am I doing something wrong???? Please help me. I really can't stop this.

Answer 1

HEY! that's a question just up my alley..I married a someone I met online! What's the difference if you meet someone in a room or online? If He is a decent person, then why not? Just date a long time before you make a serious commitment to each other. Just as with any other relationship!

By the way, not only did I marry a man from online, I even moved to the country he is from! I'm American and moved to Norway since my wonderful husband is Norwegian. My parents weren't too pleased after we became a couple either, but they got used to it. We've been married for 7 years now and have 2 kids.

Answer 2

To me, this is one way that computers and meeting others, has changed the whole dating thing. I mean, years ago, to say you had a boyfriend and you never met? That just would have seemed weird! However,nowadays, this is what is happening, right or wrong. How old are you? How old is he? Is there a major problem?Is this relationship online affecting anybody to a negative way? If you are old enough, and know what you want and who you want and you are happy, feel good, and having fun, then who are you worried about?You aren't hurting anybody! I would say, unless there are some issues here that you aren't speaking about with your b/f, and the situation of meeting online, then I wouldn't worry about what your parents have to say or anybody else! I would concentrate though on meeting one another, face to face, very soon. To see, if there isn't just chemistry online but in person. I think that's so important!!! Just make sure that you meet one another, either with other people nearby who you know well or in a very public place! I wish you the best! Good luck!

Answer 3

First, you don't know that he's even your own AGE!! The pics you're seeing could be anyone. Why has your brother met him and not you, or do you mean they have talked online? Your friends and parents are just scared for you, honey. This person could be some nutjob pedophile - there's no way you can really know if you haven't met him face to face, which you SHOULD NOT DO. Find a bf at school, not online. No one online is ever who they seem to be really, and anyone LOOKING for girls online to be "friends" with is usually a pervert. Be Careful!!

Answer 4

Can you please tell me how on earth someone can become your boyfriend if:

you haven't spent any actual time together
you've never held hands,
you've never sat and talked face to face,
you've never gone to the movies,
you've never met his friends or his family,
you've never sat across from him in a restaurant or next to him in church,
and you've never been to his home.
This is not a boyfriend. This is a stranger that you are having conversations with via a computer. It's not that you are doing anything wrong. The fact is that you aren't really doing anything at all except foolisly sitting in front of a computer reading someone's words that may or may not be true.

Answer 5

I met my fiance on-line and we are doing fine. Is your BF hiding something from you? Your friends and parents don't like him because you met him on-line? That's crazy! Unless the BF is married or using on-line for meeting other females, I think you are okay. Some people don't realize that the way to meeting ppl is changing in our ever evolving world and we are developing new ways to meet. I know lots of people who have met and married and are very happy and had it not been for the on-line services they would never have met. I do think one needs to be very,very selective and maybe everyone is sensing something that you are not. So check with them to make sure and if it's nothing more than that...I say stick with him. One question though. Why haven't you met him in person and your brother has? Sounds fishy now! Tell me whats up with that?

Answer 6

I met my girlfriend online in August last year. She wasn't my girlfriend for quite a while. We flirted online for a few months, until finally I realised we were talking non-stop, and that it was more fun then talking to any of my past offline girlfriends had been. I finally said I loved her and she said it back. Last month I flew to America and we had the best week of our lives together. We're planning to move in together after Uni. So online relationships can work. But it's extremely easy to be not what you seem online, so be wary. If you really, really like the guy, meet him, in a safe public place. After that, you can decide. In the mean time I suggest you see other people casually (until one of you can afford the flight) or at least tone down the online relationship.

Answer 7

Do you see this person offline? If NOT, how can he be your boyfriend? I think that maybe if you would meet someone REAL, it would take your mind off of meeting people ONLINE and start a real relationship. You don't say how old you are, but how do you know this person is REALLY who he says he is? I could get tons of CUTE pics on my profiles and who would know the difference? Wouldn't you like to go out on a real date? I don't see how you can consider this person a b/f. Try staying off the computer for a bit and get out and mingle.

Answer 8

hmmm....

My wife and I met via the cellphone so your situation is somewhat similar.

If you are under 18 then you have to obey your parents because the internet is not really a safe place to meet strangers. Some are lucky but most are not.

Now if you're old enough, then just be careful and think with your mind rather than your heart.

At least in this situation.

Good Luck. God Bless and Peace.

Answer 9

I have been married 4 years to a man I met online through a poetry site. I would suggest that your parents make an effort to get to know your friend before passing judgment. But before that, perhaps YOU should meet him (In person--instead of just via pictures and your older brother).

Perhaps let your parents know that meeting someone on line was not the best case scenerio, (Because it really is a recipe for disaster), but now that you are invested to this extent you really need their opinion of him in person.

Answer 10

The guy you chat with online and the real guy may not be the same people. When a person is on the computer they can pretty much be who or whatever they want to be. There are a lot of sicko's out there that use the internet to committ crimes. What did your brother think of him? Be careful.