We have been dating for 4 years, love each other very much, lot of trust share many similarities. But, she doesnt like sex. we do it maybe once or twice a month. Shes never interested! i have to give her oral to turn her on everytime, and we both are getting tired of it. We did it more frequently before and she had orgasms most of the time, Yet she admits that she never really liked it.
She doesnt watch porn and she doesnt want to masturbate no matter how much i encourage her to.
I love her too much to part with her but this thing is killing me..
How can i get her to like sex? Help!
2006-08-30 18:35:31 · 11 answers · asked by fernandes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How old is she? Hormones can be major player in the sex drive area as well as depression. Have her see her gyno or MD about having her hormone levels checked and then treatments can be discussed. Pre-menopause kicked my butt and I lost ALL drive but a visit to my gyno and some tests and meds and my boyfriend and I are both very happy again. Sex, unfortunately is a very crucial part of a relationship. Not wanting sex leaves that partner feeling depressed, frustrated and with a sense of something being wrong with them. Being the rejected partner leaves them feeling frustrated as well with feelings of low self worth and that the other partner isnt attracted anymore or in love anymore which mostly simply isnt true. Get the tests done..it sure can't hurt and taking the pressure off of both of you will help ease some of the anxieties associated with your infrequent sex life. Good luck; I sincerely mean this; I konw how this can affect a relationship.
2006-08-30 18:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by dusty_roade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be a self-image issue. Does she like herself and her body? If not, she may not feel worthy of the joy that lovers can experience from sex. Does she feel that sex is solely for procreation? I do not think that you can make her like sex. What do you think is the barrier that prevents her from being in touch with her sexuality? You said that you did it more frequently before--before what? What didn't she like about her orgasms? These are important questions that you need to find out. Does she want you, really want you--is there passion in her feelings? An option which I neither feel one way or the other is a sex therapist. If sex is not important to her, the road ahead does not look promising. Good luck.
2006-08-30 18:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dude, but there is nothing YOU can do. It is all with her. If she doesn't want to explore why she has the feelings she does, then she will never enjoy or like sex. The only thing you can do is show her that you love her and support her, despite the lack of physical contact.
2006-08-30 18:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by savvyd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont it to her. make it a playful game. just b cosy wid her and make her excited by playing wid her ears ,carrasing her body, licking her all over ,passionate kisse and may b a bath 2gether and just dont **** her ,leave her like that,do it twice or thrice and i am sure the forth she is gonna force to make her *** fully. it can b possible that aft u hav gone she mgt masturbate to satisfy herself.for this u need to hav control on u.but control of sumtime can bring results for longer happiness
2006-08-30 18:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i feel sorry for ya.. girlfreind dont like sex and u having a hard time getting her to do this and that umm well let me see u can try taking her to some doctor who helps in sex or a like pychiatrist or do it yourslef and Just try your best to make her like sex.. ask her why she dont like sex and ask her what reasons why she dont like it... then maybe u will get somewhere with her
Goodluck
2006-08-30 18:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by Sean S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs a sex therapist. They can really be successful In that type of sexual dysfunction.
2006-08-30 18:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex? it seems to remind me of something...next
2006-08-30 18:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by unknown u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say it, but maybe she's not attracted to you n e more.
2006-08-30 18:45:31 · answer #8 · answered by ms_mashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe that's not her hobby. . .or it just depends on her mood. .. don't force her if she don't want you to.
2006-08-30 18:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by 'Lil bhEb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Can't.
2006-08-30 18:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋