Why do so many parents dont like their kids?

Question

I've noticed that many parents simply can't forgive their kids.Many seem to be proud of the punishments they give to their children. A lot of times I've heard a parent say AH! I grounded him for a month, like gloating over the suffering such punishments cause. Such parents feel like a winner when they punish. I guess they dont worry about their kids best, but just want them to behave as parents like. They dont seem to worry about how their kids feel
When a kid is sidetracked, parents should help them top change, instead of degrading them. Everyone makes mistakes , parents should understand this truth. And so, should help their kids to become good kids again. But in such cases many simply humiliate thir kids, parents should always give them another chance. What will motivate a kid into a right track If he/she u knows his/her parents will never forgive you and will never trust them again? Parents make mistakes too. No wonder there are so many resentful kids

Answer 1

They don't like their kids because they shouldn't have become parents in the first place

Answer 2

Parents don't hate their kids. Kids don't come with a how 2 do it manual. V just want the best for u.Caring 4 u puts us in a tight spot at times & we over react not knowing how to handle the situation. V feel despite the understanding, rules .. Kids continue 2 make mistakes so v start stressing on 1 point just so the message of what v r saying gets across 2 u. V have your interest at heart & do not want u getting hurt .I'm sure your parents 2 love u. I felt the same when I was a teen Now with kids of my own I realize my parents behaviour for I'm the way they were. A kid is ALWAYS very special 4 it's parent. It's just love, concern that makes them behave that way.

Answer 3

I punish my kids because if everytime our kids did something wrong we said "ok now don't do that again, that's not very nice," we would be walked over our whole lives. There is a difference between abusing kids ands punishing them. I was grounded and it taught me that when I broke a rule there was consequences, just like in the real world. If you drive drunk or steal a pack of gum, you will pay for those crimes. Just because I punish my kids doesn't mean I gloat over it. I have told other parents what I did to my children as a guideline if they are wondering what to do with their child. And just because I punish them doesn't mean that everytime one of my 4 children says "I love you mommy," doesn't melt my heart. I love my children very much and I don't like punishing them and seeing them unhappy but I would much rather do that then have them hurt themselves or someone else. And when my children do something good they get "good punishment" as I call it. All parents are different your parents are different from the way you will be too, and believe me, your mom will let you know when you aren't doing what she did!!LOL!!! Just live life to the fullest everyday and live to see another day, we're not guaranteed a full 70 years on this earth of ours so live everyday like you're not gonna see tomorrow. Tell your parents how you feel and TELL THEM THAT YOU LOVE THEM!!!

Answer 4

Spoken like a true teenager! Kids need to learn that actions have consequences and how are they supposed to learn if they aren't disciplined? Parents who love their children try to teach them right from wrong and when a child does something wrong they need to be punished so that they know it's wrong and hopefully won't do it again. It's called learning from our mistakes. This is how parents help their children get back on track. As far as trust and forgiveness goes, parents will be willing to forgive and trust again but the child has to work to gain the trust back. It's not automatically given and it shouldn't be because then how would the child learn?

Answer 5

I guess everyone thinks their way of parenting is the "best" way unfortuantly it comes down to a competition many times. Sometimes I see family members comparing their kids and trying to figure out whose kids are best behaved. then what happens is the punishments become worse because everyone wants the "best child" It is unfair and not right but I believe that is part of the reason that parents do the things they do. They want to look good to the rest of their family members.

Answer 6

there are a lot of parents that go to exstream to punish their kids but some parents don't. I punish my kids to make better people out of them' to teach them from right and wrong. for one I punish my 16 year old if he brings a -c- home on his report card' he is in the 11 grade and he has made one c in 11years that was in the 4 grade he knows if he brings bad grades home he will be punished.and it is because i love him and want him to make a good life for his self. I didn't punish him for making the c in the 4 grade and i told him i wouldn't because it was the year he started changing classes and a big change in his life so he got another chance and hasn't made another c because he knows he will be punished,so what do you mean with your ouestion?

Answer 7

There are different parenting styles one of them being authoritarian. Which sounds like the kind you are talking about. They basically issue orders and if they aren't followed to the letter, punishment is what follows. It's not that they hate their children so much as it's that they don't know any other way to parent.

Answer 8

I grew up with a set of parents that fits this description. And at my age now,,,, the things i went thru with them,, always reaching out for love and not getting the security back that a kid craves. It still haunts me to this day,,, and I have no relationship with my mother. My father is gone now. When he passed,, I didn't know how to feel,, because of how I was treated by him. This kind of crap stays with you inside.
I have a great life now,, thank goodness,, and I don't dwell on the past,, but it's STILL your parents and you yourself can't believe they did you that way. Dang,,, I cold go on and on,,, but I think my points across.
Good points in your question too.

Answer 9

most times what you say is just a reflection on how those parents were raised..... we are a lost generation of ppl.... and I dont mean any certain age group..... I mean the whole human race...... as ppl we have misplaced our compassion and respect........ we have forgotten how to be *in love* and *to love* unconditionally..... we older have forgotten the basics of youth, and the youth have forgotten the basics of being youthful...... 12 wants to be 20 and 20 wants to be 30, etc....... we grow old with the setting of the sun and awake to impossible oddes..... the pressure mounts during the night and with morning brings the same ole grind of life....... we need to take the time to slow down, talk, listen, and watch each other....... the problem is parents push the child to grow up, then while the child is trying, the parents resents the fact they are...... making mistakes is part of growing up...... but in todays world, the mistakes I took 10 years to make are now being made in 2........ *sigh*.......... God bless

Answer 10

I wud not say they dnt like their kids. It's just that mayb they think it's the best way to put the kids on the right track and mayb when u will be parent one day, u will understand and resolve ur own question.