Me and my fiance have decided to get married on 4th of july but im only 20 years old is that bad to get married at that age?? Plus i have triplets by my fiance!!!! PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!
2006-08-30 18:28:34 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sounds like you are more than past ready to get married. Congratulations on your triplets - I have twin 11 month old grandsons, they are so fun! 4th of July - great way to make sure he never forgets anniversary - at least no good reason. Good luck & have fun planning wedding.
I got married right out of high school at 17 yrs old, 33 yrs ago, college was tough & we were poor but I would not change a thing. 3 children & 7 grandchildren later & I love him today more than 33 yrs ago. It was nice no marry off the last one. Quiet now. LOL
2006-08-30 18:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer the question of weather or not it's the right time for you to get married. Age is just a number.
I will say though that 20 is very young and as you get older you will change. In five years you will be a completely different person. So something to consider is potential of the man you intend to marry. Do you believe you will be able to grow and change to together? If you have doubts take them seriously.
Premarital counseling is great thing to do before getting married. This helps both of you sort out your issues before hand. Going into this next phase of life with realistic expectations and the tools to communicate is very important.
No matter how long you've been together marriage changes things. A good marriage is lots of hard work made easy by unconditional love & compromise.
If you're sure. Go ahead, follow your heart. If you're not, take the time to honestly explore you're feelings. You know the saying "fools rush in". Good Luck. Make it count.
2006-08-30 18:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by genuine1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another question by someone so obviously painfully immature that they cannot decide when they should get married. And you have triplets! Even worse. Dear, what in the Sam Hill were you thinking when you were having relations with this man? Obviously, you used no protection. And now triplets. Twenty is practically a child and I hate to think what you will be asking us next, but I have a feeling it will be: Should I divorce my husband? Geesh!
2006-08-30 19:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrulation on your WEDDING and for three babies that's are on they way in this world. Look It's not age limited on getting married. You loved him and he loved you that all It should matter love is a beautilful thing. As long you and your fiance have alot of respect for each other and keep a communication are opening and have trust and honesty everything will be alright. Just have faith with the lord an Always keep GOD in your heart and first in both of lives and as well for the babies.
2006-08-30 18:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by ronrmrll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that the both of you have decided. What are all the doubts for? Marry the man, girl. Love has no limits on age or how many kids you have. In this day and age we are blessed to even be considered to be wifed... many men just want to make babies and run. I am sure you love him unconditionally and he loves you the same. Go on and allow God to bless the union of two soulmates. Congrats!!
2006-08-30 18:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by EDNA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife was 18 when we got married. It totally depends on your maturity level. Are you ready?! That is the question. Age is just a number and does not matter. Since you already have kids, you probably are already setteled. If you really LIKE your fiance..not just love..you will probably be ok. You gotta really like someone to put up with the things men do. You can love someone and not like them as a person...just remember that!
2006-08-30 18:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by PlanetNewOrleans.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doubts indicate that you don't want to get married. People who are truly in love never have doubts. I think your triplets must be enough to cope with at your tender age, after all building a really happy marriage is very hard work. Please don't get married because you think you should or allow other people to pressurise you. Best wishes.
2006-08-31 01:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats!!!!!!!!
If u love him n he reciprocates, there's no great issue... Plus u have the children to take into consideration... Being single parent is not that easy. U need him n the kids as well. n if at 20 ur already mother, it won't be a big deal to be wife. Good Luck.
2006-08-30 18:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by Lovlyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are twenty which makes you an adult. You are a mother of three which makes you a very busy adult. Now all you have to ask yourself is do you love your fiance, and do you have time for him in your busy schedule. You already have a family of three, what's one more baby. Congratulations, don't question things so much, go be happy.
2006-08-30 18:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are not sure about the whole situation. Make sure to think it through. I'd hate for you to get into something (relationship) you weren't prepared for. Congrats on the triplets though.
2006-08-30 18:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by BONNI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋