Christian/Atheist Relationship.?

Question

If you a christian knew of another christian in a relationship with an atheist . What would be you first thoughts once you learned of the relationship ? Then what would you say to the christian or atheist of the couple? If you wouldn't care thats fine too . Same question for atheists . What would you think and say ?

Answer 1

I find it funny so many say it would lead to discourse. One must think we cannot act like adults and respect beliefs other than our own. I've been married to a christian for 7 yrs and belief systems is not a problem at all. It is only a problem if you wish it to be, if you wish to use it as a crutch to lean relationship problems on. No relationship is problem free, but just because we don't have the same belief system doesn't mean we can't get through them same as anyone else.

I respect my husband and I respect that he is a unique individual and that includes his religion.

Answer 2

I have been seeing an Atheist for 9 months now, she has high moral values, kind, giving, honest etc.. basically drama free she is confused because as a child she was abused then she married a controlling Christian man she had to finally walk away from after 18 years and 4 kids who are all Christians.

As much as I like her or may I say love her, I'm afraid it will not end up a marriage in Harmony and could be wasted years for both of us if we continue

God promised if two would agree on anything with faith it will come to pass, to think I will spend the rest of my life with no one of faith to agree with me does not hold a good future.

I don't judge her, nor does she me yet she does judge other Christians and that bothers me.

Answer 3

Generally, a mixed Christan/atheist relationship will not work.

Whether you realize it or not, one's religious faith (or lack thereof) as a child establishes one's moral and ethical compass. Two individuals who have different standards in their moral and ethical beliefs will find it difficult to get along after the love and romance have lost their luster. If they cannot communicate about sensitive matters, or find that they "tip-toe" around issues to not offend each other, that relationship is going to be fragile, at best.

Even the concept of marriage is going to be fundamentally different to each person. A Christan sees it as a sacrament of God, while an atheist may see it as a legal proceeding. Can a relationship of this nature last when each person in this union has different expectations and ideologies? Not unless one changes. At some point, a moral or ethic issue will have to be decided upon. (ie, when to have children, how many, a child's education, etc.)

Quite frankly, no relationship can survive any great lengths on just love and romance, even if both are Christans. Though society claims that it wants "nuclear families," it does nothing to promote them. In the case of a Christan, the strength and endurance comes from a fear and love of God. There is a great deal of truth in the saying, "A family that prays together, stays together."

As to what you would say? It depends on how well you know these people.

Answer 4

The first thing that comes to mind is: "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?"
2 Corinthians 6:14

Another verse that comes to mind is: "Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?" Amos 3:3

I believe that if two people don't agree on religions, it can be messy. As a christian, I would need a spiritual leader and helper.
I'm not sure about your friend.
If it were my best friend, I would kindly remind her that she needs a spiritual leader (as she has told me many times herself) and help her get over the guy.
Not saying they can't be friends. If they remain friends she could reach him, perhaps.
But it's not healthy for a christian to be in a relationship with a non-christian.
People may say it's ok. But it's hard to be one flesh with another person when one part (your part) loves God and the other part (his part) doesn't believe in Him.
That would be hard living.


My Aunt is a christian and she married a non-christian.
Finally, after SOOOO long, he accepted Christ- AMEN!
But she says that it was hard for her when he wasn't a believer.
If this person is a christian, she (or he) will trust that God will bring along the right person :) I would also bring that up to my friend as well.
God does not wish to give us heartbreak, but He does give us our own choices.

Answer 5

I'm an Agnostic and my ex was very Christian. However, that's not the reason we broke up. The religion thing was never really an issue for us. I think it can work as long as the two people in the relationship are willing to try.

Answer 6

There is a scripture that deals with this issue specifically. It says; 'do not be unequally yoked together with an unbeliever.'

I think this happens a lot. A Christian likes an unbeliever and starts spending a lot of time with them, then they either reject their faith or rebel against sound judgment and marry them. The reason we're told not to be yoked with an unbeliever is because the two are not in step with each other. The one will become more committed to the will of God and the other will become more rebellious to the will of God.

This will be a major problem when it comes to raising kids, or tithing, or a lot of other things. I blogged on this topic at http://judgeright.blogspot.com. You can find it under the post labeled Inter-Racial Marriage. Very important issue.

Answer 7

Atheist - I don't judge people on their religion, so I would be fine with it! I would gladly date a person of pretty much any religion.

:)

Oh yes, apparently this is what an angry atheist who hates all religious people says *rolls eyes*. The stigma vs. atheist is a very good reason NOT to become a christian.

Answer 8

Some of my friends are atheists at my school, I'm Christian and we are fine except when we discuss about religion of course

Answer 9

That type of relationship won't work because these religions are too extreme opposites

I think each person whether they are a christian or an atheist would tell you something different based on their own beliefs.

Answer 10

If the atheist was in every other important respect of good character with virtue and love, then I would believe there would be a good chance that the atheist in time would come and discover his/her own spirituality and even if there was never perfect agreement , growth and understanding would have been fostered by their union.