my family is falling apart?

Question

my sister is 15 years old and she ditches school all the time..my father who is 'nuts' always slap her on the face when she skips school..today, my father knows that my sister skiped three days of school and my crazy father went furious..(me,my little sister,my sister and my mom never agreed on anything that my father does. My mom and dad always have fights with each other...we wanted our father to divorce our mother but he refuse to do so...I never felt the love from my father..)and then he chased my sister out the house and told her to live somewhere else..so,she went away.. a couple of minutes later, my mother went out to look for her..shokingly,my sister cut her wrist (trying to commit suicide)luckly,she 'hit it the wrong way'.....my family is falling apart.. what do you suggest i do as a son to my father??

Answer 1

Your father is not acting like a father and you should call the police or Child Protection Services. You are a guy, you cannot tolerate your sister being abused this way. Don't get violent yourself, but call the authorities. It is illegal to hit her the way he is doing and it is illegal to kick her out when she is under 18. It is also dangerous, as you have found out. It is too bad the adults aren't doing their job, but you may be the most mature person in the house. You can call CPS anonymously to talk to them about it before you actually report it, if that helps you. Or talk to an adult at school. You have to protect your sisters, both of them.

Answer 2

Since it's been this way for so long, I'm not so sure that there is a heck of alot you can do to change dear old dad. However, that doesn't mean mom can't get out. Your mother hurts every time he hurts one of her babies...no matter how old they are. She needs to put her foot down. You guys seem to have a lot going on, which isn't always a bad thing, but it's bad in your case because everyone is going in different directions. It's quite obvious dad has a temper problem and that he reacts without thinking. This is not a good environment for you guys. Standing up to dad is only going to add fuel to the fire and put you in his direct line of backlash. You are going to have to find an outside source for help. I would start with your guidance counselor. I know, you are probably rolling your eyes, but honey, you have to start somewhere. You family needs some serious help. I'd also have a heart to heart with your sis that can't seem to stay in school. Running away isn't helping her any or your family, and if she wants to eventually get out of that house and do something with her life, she needs to finish school first.

I wish I better answers for you honey, but I'm not there in the midst of it and can't give you a solution without knowing what caused dad to be this way. You did the right thing in asking for advice, now just take it one step further and tell someone who can actually be there to help you get through this without losing your mind. I wish you well sweetie.

Answer 3

Well, things sure are in a bad way. My heart goes out to you, these are the people you love. Sounds like your father is the source of all the problems. You can be as supportive as possible to your mother and sisters, try talking to your dad if you can pick a right time, explain his actions are not making things better but only worse! Have you thought of reporting your father to a child welfare agency? Sounds harsh I know, but if nothing else works it is an option. The shock may wake your parents up (including your mum as she is allowing this to continue), welfare can also offer help to parents who are not coping. Over all you will learn from all of this, when you marry and become a parent im sure you wont follow this same path.

Answer 4

Your family needs help.. your mom need to play big role in this.. i understand your situation. Your mom has to be strong. Cos you are in no position to ask your father to divorce your mom. If your mom and dad have fight tellyour mom to ignore your dad cos things will cool down if one party don fight back. Sometime father don show their loves. Some father communicate to their love one in a unique way. You have to understand your father. You have to break the ice, talk to him if he in a good mood. Tell him how you feel. Your mom has to always stay cool in this matter and I know it is not easy. Only your mom can change him and no one else.

Answer 5

As the son,you can`t do anything your mom is the one who has to be the adult if she wants out there is a safe house for you all if he is voilate and there is always a way out,if you do anythign to your dad you could be charged don`t let you dads bahavior rub off on you,u sound liek a good person who cares about his family

Answer 6

your whole family needs counseling if your father wont go then the rest of you need to go there is more to your sister skipping school than you know and if your mom can't or wont stick up for her and get her help then your familyy will fall apart so go and get help even if you have to go and talk to your school counsler they will be able to help you and maybe even help your family also good luck and my prayers are with you and your family

Answer 7

Call the cops and tell them that he hit your sister he will be put away for child abuse then get help from a family counslelor.

Answer 8

YOU GUYS NEED HELP AND FAST THAT SISTER OF YOURS IS GOING TO BE SO MESSED UP AND YOUR DAD HITTING HER IN THE HEAD AN-IT HELPING HELL IF ANYTHING IT'S MAKING HER WORST SOMETHING IS GOING ON AT SCHOOL PROBABLY THAT WHY SHE WANT GO AND WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS FIND A GROUP IN YOUR TOWN THAT YOU ALL CAN ATTEND AND WHOEVER DOESN'T GO THEN HELP THEM FIND SOME PLACE ELSE TO STAY BEFORE YOU GUYS KILL EACH OTHER OR THAT SISTER OF YOURS KILL HERSELF GOD BLESS YOU CHILD

Answer 9

How old are you ??? If you are old enuff get a counsellor home and
make all of them sit and talk. Maybe if you are old enuff, u can stand up to your father and ask him to stop being an absoloute ***.

Answer 10

Th first thing that needs to be fixed is that father!Im sorry to sound rude, but he needs to be out of the picture immediatley.