Well let me tell you something i'm currently talking to someone over the internet that has lost her husband in a car accident in april and we started talking in june and instantly i knew she was it she was the one and we both fell in love on the same exact day with one another and we have been so close since we've talked on the phone and our relationship is so awesome but from time to time she gets really depressed i mean like real depressed to the point where she won't talk to me for a few days and when we set a day to meet she ends up canceling and this has gone on for almost 3 months now we both tell one another i love you and i've never been so close to someone as her and its killing me that she is going through something so hard and i'm not there to help her hold her give her my shoulder to cry on and as i'm speaking of this i am crying because we are not talking right now she doesn't think we should talk anymore and i've told her that i'm willing to wait for her and that i'm going to love her unconditionaly i don't care about if she has flaws everyone has flaws i want to love her like no one else can and ever will and i know i'm able to do that i want to pick her up when she is down on her knees crying i so badly want to be there for her but she just pushes me away and i'm at my wits end i'm sticking with her no matter what even though she hasn't talked to me in a few days i just love her so much and i know God has blessed me with such an amazing angel i would take a bullet for her i would shove her out from in front of a train and be hit by it to save her life there are no words that would explain how deep my love is for her and she doesn't understand it i know if we would meet i would make her 100% and thats her excuse is thats she isn't 100% and she can't give me all of her and maybe thats true i don't care i'm willing to wait for her...
2006-08-30 18:00:34 · 12 answers · asked by Brittany's man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
AWWW , how cute! well here is what I think you should do. SUPRISE HER..she NEEDS to see you. she wants to be hugged and loved, take roses and chocolates and go suprise her, dont stay unless she wants you to, but let her know you came by only to let her know that your willing to put in a 140%. Say: I came here to tell you I love you, not to make you spend time with me, I'm here for you and to show you I'll be here no matter what and I want you to take your time... i hope this works out..please tell me if it does!!
2006-08-30 18:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by yourgirl11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first please use a little punctuation, very difficult to know where you are beginning or ending.
And I can clearly see that you are head over heels but maybe she isnt all she is portraying over the phone. Because when a woman meets someone she thinks is the one she doesnt wait around only to let someone else snatch him up.
Or it could be that she needs more time. She lost her husband that could require at least 12-18 months of recovery. That was a piece of her and her life. She may not trust in anything anymore and is unwilling to lose another "husband".
But if this is what you think it is be persistent. Let her have a days when she doesnt talk to you and talk to her when she is willing. Eventually if this is meant to be all things will fall into place, whether it be tomorrow or next year. I would think a love like this is worth the wait.
2006-08-30 18:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by lalala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone else, Try not to let your emotions get in the way. You never really know a person until your around them alot. On-line , on the phone; You can be anyone you want, almost like a fantasy for some, a game for others, Painful for those that are for real. If this person was real about you, they would care enough to let you know something, without excuses. She's told you shes not 100%, don't waste your time, There's a lot more out their. Good Luck.
2006-08-30 18:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by angelw/brkwingcrookedhalo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop. Think, think, think. Wether you or her know it, she is grieving, she is vulnerable, and she is soooo confused. Be a friend. She needs a friend, not a husband. She just lost one. It takes at least two years to come to after a loss of a spouse. i know I lost my husband and I latched to any man that smiled at me, I hurt so bad, I thought"someone" had the power to make me feel better. Today I realized there is no such thing, only time, and time alone is what she needs right now, someone that can provide comfort with no strings attached. How old is she?, and how old are you?, is there children involved? How long were they married?
2006-08-30 18:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by twelfntwelf3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, that is very powerful.
She needs time to grieve her loss. I lost a son and I understand the extreem grief.
You are also dealing with a situation where you have fallen for each other but haven't physically met yet. Please be cautious.
Not all internet love makes it.
She also needs to grieve before she is free to love again.
And she just might need you to get through this....or she may not.
Until you meet each other, the talk about being in love probably needs to slow down. And it seems it is time for you guys to meet asap. Then go from there. Please be cautious with both of your hearts.
And because of her loss, she might be very cautious about moving on. Give her time and patience
2006-08-30 18:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she just lost her husband then you better give her time and space because she is missing him. Things may and may not work out for you. All you can do is be patient and wait. When things calm down she may just want to be friends . She is on the internet just trying to talk out her fears and calm down. So you just be careful and realize that one day it may all end for you too , if not then good for you. Good luck.
2006-08-30 18:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the 100% that she can't give you is her heart, because it still belongs to her husband even if he is not with her here, he is still in her heart, and it scares her to be falling in love with you.. Take your time, and don't push her and give her some space and take it from there, let her know that you are not going any where, and you will wait until she is ready... Good Luck and don't push her
2006-08-30 18:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ok you really like this girl.
Show her this exact question that you just wrote if this doesnt make her want you nothing will.
The biggest gift in love is listening.
You need to listen to her feelings right now and be there for her
2006-08-30 18:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by ukfansc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are coming on too strong for her. If you love her be patient, don't pressure her. I hope it's not too late for you. You seem to be obsessing. I think you might be frightening her. Take a step back for a while. If she loves you she will come back. If she doesn't, well, it's for the best that you move on.
2006-08-30 18:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
soul mating plz love her
proceed
2006-08-30 18:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by dflp 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋