It has gotten so bad I joined an adult friends website and contenplate meeting up with a couple of men. I have had dreams about sex, and actually had an orgasim in my sleep! I have been unhappy with my b/f for a long time due to his low wages, lack of motivation, weed smoking, breaking the law , irresponsible playing playstation ***.I am a good mother, full time student and work full time and I deserve better! I just can't help wonder what a new man would be like, I have met someone even if it is for "fun". Is this wrong considering my boyfriend and still have active "relations"?Since he is no good and I want him to leave but financially he won't am I justified to seek a new relationship? I have tried to focus my attention else where but I can't seem to shake this feeling. What should I do?
2006-08-30 17:32:04 · 8 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No it's not wrong to think this way. You know in your heart of hearts that you're way better off without your boyfriend. If he was "the one", you'd never dream of being with other men.
As far as I can tell, it's no wonder you're feeling this way, you don't actually have a man in you life, you have another child. He needs to smarten up and support himself, he's an adult and it's not your job to be his "mommy". Dump him! He's a useless loser and you don't want him dragging you down as you climb to the top!
A strong independent woman like you doesn't need a man, you can make it on your own. You're instincts are telling you to leave, so listen to them, they are absolutely right. You've been selfless long enough, it's time to reclaim your life! Follow your dreams and find that awesome man!
You're an amazing woman; being a mom, working full-time and going to school full-time is very amazing! You ought to be very proud of yourself! You've far outgrown this man, it's time to move on. It's not your job to look after him, look after yourself and your child(ren). Like you said: you deserve better and I strongly believe you will get better!
2006-08-30 18:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your boyfriend the father of you child?
If he's not then you have absolutely no ties to him and no reason to stay with him. He's a loser. Sorry. You know you can do better so do it (although probably not going to find much better on an adult website, you're just trading one loser for another. One set of problems for another set)
If he is, then you've got a problem.
2006-08-31 00:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by loves2fly84095 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you picked winner....starting something now would be like pouring gas on a fire. How about finishing what you started before moving on? Or are you just looking for an excuse to be a ho?
2006-08-31 00:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HOW YOU FEEL IF YOU
ARE NOT GETTING WHAT YOU NEED AT HOME THEN YOU
WILL GET ELSEWHERE. BUT SINCE YOU ARE IN THIS RELATIONSHIP . THEN IF HE THE FATHER OF THE CHILDREN
THEN HE WILL ALL WAY BE IN YOUR LIFE. BUT IF NOT
THEN IF YOU ARE UNHAPPY WITH THE SITUATION THEN
ONLY YOU CAN GET OUT OF IT. DO NT STAY IN THIS
IT WILL ONLY GET WORST. AND IF YOU ARE ALREADY
THINKING ABOUT IT YOU WILL EFFECTIVE ACT ON IT.
2006-08-31 00:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 thing at a time......... you need to end one relationship before moving on to another..... he has no choice if you want him to leave, or if he wont, you need to.... you do NOT love him so what is stopping you from moving on and finding happiness ?? it is not fair to you or him or to your child(s) ....... living the way you are is just NOT right............ God bless
2006-08-31 00:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have fun.
Don't forget the condums.
2006-08-31 00:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK U NEED TO JUST LET HIM GO. HE IS NOT WHAT U WANT AND IT IS A WAIST OF YOUR TIME. U COULB BE WITH SOME THAT IS GOING TO MAKE U HAPPY...... LET HIM GO....
2006-08-31 00:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by TANNER GIRL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the *********, I say. He sounds like a total loser to me.
2006-08-31 00:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋