Aren't parents suppose to show respect and then children reflect that back?

Question

Seems to be when I demand respect, parents say that no i am the child and THEY get respect and i don't have to

Show respect= Get Respect

Teenagers should get respect and understanding !!! Then they reflect that back

Those that think that children HAVE to show respect first than parents... its not right cause why do you think TEENAGERS are so messed up today hello! I mean parents show their kids respect and then your kids show back respect... thats the way it is thats why there is so much rebellion

Answer 1

No! Your parent are the point of authority in your household therefore they get respect. YOU are the subordinate. You EARN your respect.

What in the world is wrong with chirren these days...

You need your behind beat.

Answer 2

It's a normal part of growing into an independent adult. Your parents love you, but they are not ready to cut you loose yet.
If you can control your temper and show them respect in every case, even when you don't agree, it might help. Probably the best way for you to handle it is to let the arguments die out naturally and then try to discuss things in a reasonable way, when no one is upset, and likely to say words they regret.

Unfortnuately, some people seem to go through life in a state of arrested maturity. Since I don't really know anythnig about you or your parents or about the situation, I can't be specific. Adults are often like big children and react with inappropriate emotions. Even when you are in your 30s or 40s you can find them reverting to bad old habits and treating you like you are still a baby. Actually, you will always be their baby and they do love you.

I went through this with my mother until right before she died (I was 30) and she saw me caring for my son who had a rather severe form of epilepsy. (He's been cured since and outgrew it.) My father also bitched and moaned for many years after that until I called him one day and told him that I had done the very best I could to raise my son (I was divorced), but why did he always point out the bad parts, when I had achieved so many positive gains. He never gave me credit for the good stuff. He thought about it for 3 days and called me back to tell me I was right.
In any case, you are right. Everyone should show respect. When you become a parent, remember this and allow your children to grow in love and respect. It doesn't mean you have to let them do whatever they want. It means you will have a very close and loving and respectful relationship with them. It's great that you can think this through and not repeat the bad patterns your parents may have raised you with. They only know how to raise you by the way they were brought up.
Hugs.

Answer 3

It's a two way street -- especially when you are older -- respect should beget respect.

One can't demand respect -- either an adult from a child/young adult -- or a child/young adult from an adult. You need to all find a way to communicate together without taking things personally (I stress *all* -- parents need to do this too) --

if adults aren't used to "listening" to a child/youn adult's side of an issue -- it will be difficult to try -- but it can't be done unless everyone agrees not to escalate and take things personally. If you are irritated because your dad takes the remote and starts changing the channels while you are watching your favorite show, throwing something across the room and screaming "I hate when you do that!' isn't going to make him stop (I used an example from my own childhood -- except we didn't have remotes back then *grin*)

In any case.... listen to what your parents say, and try and see their side, and be patient with them -- if they don't do the same back you can't really change the way they are, but you can change the reactions you have to the ways they treat you..... which paradoxically, may change the way they react with you....

Answer 4

It's a two way street. Children have to respect their parents, but the converse is also true. Parents have to love their children and nurture them. They gave them life, but we cant fortget no one asked to be born. Nurturing your child is not a favor but a duty.

Parents who say they don't have to respect their children are only biological and financial parents. If u dont intend to respect your children, then why have them?

Answer 5

i do no longer comprehend how previous you're or your mothers and fathers, yet i'm able to assist you to already know from very own journey that when your between the a while of 13-20 your mothers and fathers are generally nuts. the quantity of situations me and my buddies have been made to cry on our birthdays and different significant activities by utilising our mothers and fathers is unreal. in simple terms forget approximately them. heavily, it gets greater useful. mothers and fathers each and every so often act greater immature and hurtful than they comprehend. And purely while they start to unfastened you to boys/women and "existence" often- do they start to return back to commonly used =) They forget what it is decide for to be youthful. you're no longer the only one. stable luck!

Answer 6

As a parent trying to mend my evil parent ways, it's hard.

My parents were the way they were, and I really only have them to blame for my parental ways. I died the first time I heard myself use one of my father's lines.

Thanks to counseling that was supposed to be for my son, the parents got some new rules to learn. Hopefully you will be able to improve on your kids, and in several generations maybe families will learn to get along better.

Answer 7

You can't really demand respect can you? Don't you have to earn respect?

Answer 8

You are the child and they are the parents and you will live by their rules until you are old enough to support yourself and move out. That's the way it is.

You owe them respect for taking care of you, providing for you, paying bills for you, feeding you, clothing you, housing you, nurturing you, etc.

What have you done that deserves their respect?

Answer 9

I GIVE MY KIDS RESPECT AND THEY GIVE IT BACK. THEY ARE 7 AND 12. MY MOM GAVE ME NONE, IT WAS"IM THE MOM, YOUR THE KID" SO I SWORE WHEN I HAD KIDS I WAS GOING TO GIVE MY KIDS RESPECT. I STILL DON'T LIKE MY MOM TO THIS DAY AND REMEMBER ALL HER B.S. ABOUT THAT. SHE WILL STILL COME IN MY HOME AND GO THRU DRAWRS AND SAYS" I'M YOUR MOM I CAN DO THAT" I SAID "GET THE f--- OUT OF MY HOUSE.

Answer 10

Respect has to earned, it is never given unconditionally. AND it is a two way street.