I have an adult child.
2006-08-30 17:01:52 · 5 answers · asked by einzel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk honestly with this adult child and let them know that you would appreciate if they came over more often to visit you. Also please don't throw any guilt trips their way as they will only resent this type of game playing. So communicate with this person. Let them know how important they are and have always been too you. That your not going to be around forever and would like to have the opportunity to see more of them. You can phrase this type's of statements without making them sound like guilt trips. Best of luck to you and your adult child.
2006-08-30 17:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some soul searching. Are there things that you do that make it unpleasant for your child to be in your company? Myself, I love my mother, but dislike visiting her. I visit her occaisionally out of respect because she is my mother, but, it is not pleasant for me to be there. Why? In my case my mother complains, and complains, and complains. I have a brother who is not very ethical and she tells me all the great things in her mind that he is doing----she has no clue. My mother is quite overbearing and caused my wife of 30 years a great deal of grief.
So, again, do some soul searching about what kind of relationship you have had with your child all of his/her life. If possible, you could make some changes and see what happens. You could ask him/her the reason and I'm sure you will get one, however the reason may not be accurate as your child may not want to hurt you or realizes that you will never change so what is the point in risking estranging the relationship even more.
I hope things will change for the good for you.
2006-08-31 01:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Augie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, please don't use the guilt method! Most of us are super busy these days, so it's a good idea to actually schedule time with your child. Shouldn't have to, I know, but getting them to actually write you in on their calendar is the surest way to make sure nothing else is going on that day and that nothing will come up. Plan something like a day out, or ask them to help with dinner. If there's something specific going on, it's a lot more interesting than just saying "hey, come spend some time over here."
I'm sure your child isn't avoiding you on purpose. I even have to schedule "appointments" to meet up with some of my best friends for dinner.
2006-08-31 00:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by KyLeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all wish we knew that answer. My husband has a 24 year old son who we rarely see. He did come by this weekend we invited him over for dinner.
2006-08-31 00:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If their not visiting there has to be a reason. Address that, and your problem will be solved.
2006-08-31 00:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋