My sister in law is always trying to get attention from everyone, she makes her medical problems with her pregnancy and with her daughter worse than what they really are because she wants all the attention, to make things worse she is always competing with me and with my daughter over everything even though theres no need to because her daughter is favored by her mom and dad over my and my husbands children. She's always putting my daughter down and making comments to others about her daughter being "the good one." I dont try to compete with her but sometimes its hard not to when she is always degrading me and my kids. It hurts my feelings but I ignore her for the most part but its getting to be to much... the only time I really say anything is when shes putting my son and daughter down because of the effects it will have on their self esteem... how do I handle her stupidity while keeping my sanity in tact.
2006-08-30 16:53:18 · 6 answers · asked by hearts_bleed_dark 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She probably acts this way because she feels inadequate or jealous of you, your children, and your family status. Often times when people feel jealous one way of coping is to insult the object of those feelings. Seeing as how this is your husband's sister, HE should have a talk with her about her immature and hurtful behavior. If that doesn't work, limit your and your children's exposure to her. It's not worth harming them just to be around someone like her.
2006-08-30 17:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by Babel Bella 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why do you go around someone so evil? respect your self and your children and avoid the noid. the others in your family will adjust or not, but your kids will skip the trauma and heart ache of being put down and abused by some one they should be able to look up to. send untagged/signed gifts and cards to the children she has, and tell your brother that you love him but can not abide the hurtful nature of HIS CHOICE OF MATE. I celebrate Tuesdays and unbirthdays with my mother(dad's passed on now) and they say NOW that is that it is nice to get a chance to focus on each child's family with out felling like we are 6 and 7 again. over time they will see that it will be better for all concerned, and that your children deserve to be excepted and loved no matter who else is around. I hope this helps
2006-08-30 17:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by scornedgypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with her openly and honestly. Tell her how she is making you feel but be respectful. Don't get angry or raise your voice. Make sure you are calm and direct with your speech. Even if she lashes out at you don't respond in kind. The important thing is to get your point across in a kind and respectful way. If she doesn't respond or worse yet responds by being even more competitive, limit your and your children's association with her as much as possible. But try your best to work out your differences as adults.
2006-08-30 17:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by mufasa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone is destructive, stay away from them. Frankly, your husband should step up and tell her to leave his family alone, but if he won't, you need to just remove yourself and your kids from harm's way. Don't go where she is.
2006-08-30 17:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get her 1 on 1 and have a little chat, if that doesnt work knock the crap outta her and tell her to wise up.
2006-08-30 17:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by bigbadb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her attempts for your attention change the subject when she starts.
2006-08-30 17:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋