I love him and i don't know what will happen to me if i let him go...
we're not yet in a relationship...and we were not dating...but he is showing me that he cares for me and he likes me....but what if suddenly he ask me if i want to be his girl friend....i will definitely say yes...but....my parents doesn't want me to have a bf. Becoz they don't want me to experience what my sister experienced in a relationship. What will I do????
2006-08-30 16:45:39 · 16 answers · asked by Girl_InLove16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow. First, you're not your sister (that wasn't much help, I know). Second, you need to live your own life, your sis made mistakes (or something awful happened that wasn't her fault). Hopefully you won't make the same mistakes or, if it wasn't her fault, hopefully whatever happened to your sis won't happen to you. You need to grow, that's what being a human is all about. Dating, loving, trusting, hurting are all part of growth . . .
good luck.
2006-08-30 16:49:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should obey your parents - but maybe you can reason with them. I know in some cases that could be close to impossible, but if you are really in love with this guy - then it's worth a shot right? You have to experience things for yourself, and learn from your own mistakes - not your sisters. I just turned 18 a few months ago, and over the summer i've fallen in love with a wonderful guy - I've just recently learned what love really is, and even though it can be painfull - It's all worth it in the end. When you're with the person you love, it seems that nothing else really matters... It's just you and that other person, and for that time, however long it may be - everything seems to be right in the world. This is YOUR life, and you have to make yourself happy. My advice would be to keep it on the "DL" around your fam, but still see this guy - maybe you two will become great friends! Good luck.
2006-08-31 00:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on how old you are. If you are over 14, I think it's okay to have a boyfriend. Some parents are kind of old-fashioned and they don't want their daughters to get hurt, but they will get hurt more if they don't learn things on their own. Talk to your parents, tell them that you're not your sister and you feel that you are ready for a relationship. If you like this guy, you should introduce him to your parents. If your parents still say no, then, if the guy likes you enough, he would be willing to wait.
Good luck!!
2006-08-30 23:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As horrible as it sounds.... you should listen to your parents! No one ever wants to believe their parents are right, but once you're grown and you have the chance to look back on everything, you'll realize they were right. It's a parents job to protect you and to keep you out of harms way. They have been down the same road before and now have the ability to predict the outcome of many situations. They may not always be right, but I bet you this time they are! Besides, you're young and you have plenty of time left to experience "love". Don't rush it. When it's meant to be, it will happen. Enjoy your youth and your freedom because one day you'll wish you were young again!
Good luck!
2006-08-30 23:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by Shellbus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know EXACTLY how u feel. I have the same situation but my rents just dont think I shoiuld date at ALL! If he asks you first start cleaning up ur behavior and helping around more. Then tell you parents that you would like to have a talk with them. Tell them that u have really been growing up in the last few weeks then tell them that before they say anything to let u talk. tHEN tell them that somone asked you out and you really like them and before they say you cant if he can come over so your parents ger to know him and then maybe they will let him take u to dinner after getting to know him!
Hope this helps and good luck!
2006-08-30 23:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take things slow. If you are old enough to be in a relationship then explain to your parents that they can't protect you from life. Just because your sister had a bad experience that doesn't mean that you will. If you are not old enough to be in a relationship, then just be close friends with the guy until you are old enough.
2006-08-30 23:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by annette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can just give up on him no you two love each other it sounds like and are taking things cautiously and slow which is good and if you two were to start dating then just continue to take things slow and your parents cant expect what happened with your sister is going to happen with you no one can predict how a relationship is going to work but the two in the relationship
2006-08-30 23:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by smrtgrl01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay attention to your parents, you will have many crush's in your life time, right now your going through your baby love stages.
2006-08-30 23:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents your not your sister. Also, use whatever happened to your sister, in your relationship, so it doesn't happen to you. Be smart.
2006-08-30 23:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by PeachyFixation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to obey your parents until you are 18. You have plenty of time for boys.
2006-08-30 23:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋