Think about it, I am 27, getting seperated from my husband, and I am 5 months pregnant. Who is going to want me now? I mean I can not "divorce" him til after the baby is born and that will take time in itself. So who will want someone who is prego and still currently married?
2006-08-30 16:44:32 · 17 answers · asked by harleyweightintx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are seperating because he chose his mom over wanting a life with me and the baby. He has let his mother call me every name in the book when we have been on the phone together and so I made the choice to not let my child and me be with someone that emotionally abuses me and blames me for everything that has gone wrong in his life. I know that I can be a single mom and be a GREAT ONE. I do love myself and have confidence in my thoughts and decisions but that doesn't mean that I do not want the companionship too. It is hard to go from being with someone for 2 years to no one. I mean I have tried everything to make sure that I did not give up on my marriage cause I am not a quiter but I can not do it by myself. I think what I miss the most and want the most is just a person to talk to about everyday things and feel that companionship that my emotions need at the moment.
2006-08-31 09:01:12 · update #1
You know I was there where you are once. It took me a while to figure out that I had to get excited about my life, and get excited about me, and then others will be excited to be around me. Once I stopped playing the victim, and started being victorious over my own life, it was a piece of cake from there. I have been married for 20 yrs now, and I am still very happy!
Good Luck my friend.!!!
2006-08-30 16:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by easygoingfemale44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off think you should perhaps stop feeling sorry for yourself. Because you know as well as I do that there are people in a lot worse situations that you are at present. I know it's hard to imagine that things will improve but they will. And dating a new mother who is separated, well there is nothing wrong with that. As a matter of fact I'm willing to gamble that some guys would appreciate a lady like you. Someone who has the character to deliver a child and raise it independently, shows that you are strong willed. So please relax and believe in yourself and realize that when the time is right you will meet someone who will indeed sweep you off your feet. Sorry if I was a little rough on you but the facts are the facts. Best of luck to you and good health throughout your pregnancy.
2006-08-30 17:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound harsh....but why would you want to jump into another relationship??? Your not even divorced and your wondering who's next?? Your going to be a mother....that's your priority now. Love your child, and get you life straightened out And who would want someone pregnant and married?? I'm thinking he isn't going to be the best prize in the box!! So take the time to work on yourself. Then ask yourself who would want a strong independent single mother?? You just increased your chance for a successful relationship. Good luck.
2006-08-30 17:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound mean or anything, but why are you worried about it? Now is the time that you need to be working on getting your life together, and getting used to being on your own. Being a single mom is no easy feat, I promise you that. Why complicate things even more by dragging yourself into another relationship?
When the time is right for you to get re involved with someone, that right someone will be there for you! Slow it down for now, and concentrate on making a life for you and your baby! Good luck to you!!
2006-08-30 16:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by wendik09225 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just focus on this baby for now. After the baby is born, you will find plenty of men who will want you. Having a child does not mean that you won't find someone.
2006-08-30 16:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry to much about finding a man right now. The focus should be on you and your baby. You have to take care of you right now a man should be the least of your worries. In time you will find someone that will love you for you and want to be with you.
2006-08-30 16:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by cutegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a baby is the most precious gift god gives a person enjoy the time you have with the baby, there will be lots of time for dating and starting a new life when the baby and you get ajusted to your selves, you will be surprised how many men out there love pregnant women. hang in there hon. you'll make it.
2006-08-30 16:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who can see you for yourself and not your past.
You shouldn't be thinking about a relationship right now anyway. you haven't given the coal a chance to cool yet and you are ready to jump in again. Take this time to stay healthy for babies sake and used it to collect your thoughts about managing on your own.......................... You should be just fine.
I find pregnant "Sexy" and your new role as independent is also "attractive".
2006-08-30 16:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by dadnnelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its easy to say.....but maybe u should focus on you, rebuilding your life, and your new baby......i would make sure that leaving husband is the right thing, if so make sure that if there is someone new u dont make same mistake again....there will be another sometime. funny, my lawyer told me that when i got divorced.
2006-08-30 16:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by blkhawk51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOMEONE WILL STILL WANT U BUT U NEED TO WORRY ABOUT YOUR BABY. U DO NOT NEED TO B STRESSED OUT, SO DONT WORRY ABOUT ANYONE WANTING U CONCENTRATE ON U AND THE BABY AND AFTER U HAVE THE BABY I AM SURE SOMEONE WILL STILL FIND U ATTRACTIVE.
WHY R U AND YOUR HUSBAND SEPARATING?
2006-08-30 16:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by TANNER GIRL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋