I have decided Im going to my ex's place to talk to him about my feelings I still have for him...It's been 5 months, but...I'm not over him and I dont think im going to be for a while, the feelings are so real and very true, I never felt this way for someone, he's even in my dreams, he's the 1st thing i think about when i wake in the morning and when I go to sleep. Yea, your probably wondering why we broke up, it was because of me actually, over something that wasnt even worth it...not even a particular reason...just cuz I wanted to be with him more then we were able to and I just got so mad and I spent my last night with him, we didnt even say like, "it's over", or any braking up things you say..lol we just talked like.."Is this my last night sleeping here...stuff like that. Well you's see the point..now im going over there tomorrow..what should I say..what shouldnt I say? thanks alot!!!
2006-08-30 16:36:13 · 13 answers · asked by jackie b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you made a mistake, an that you still want to be with him, and if he is willing to give it another shot... but dont come on too strong cuz u might scare him away!
2006-08-30 16:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, why wasn't he able to be with you?
If he was busy with others tasks that were important, than you should definetly apologize for not respecting that he also has a life. If he is just consuming himself in silly hobbies and not putting any effort into the relationship, than I think you should have talked about that before you broke up.
I don't know if I'm following you here, but I hope this helps a bit.
2006-08-30 23:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to wonder, if you left because of lack of time together, how much time has he spent trying to win you back in the 5 months you have been in splits-ville? If you are thinking of going back to him, expect no more than what you had before. That way if together time increases, great! If not, then at least you won't be disappointed.
2006-08-30 23:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by Big "D" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should say how you really feel! Throw it out there and let him know that you know you need to give him space and that you just want him to know how you feel about him! Thank him for being so wonderful and tell him you would like to keep the doors open!
It sounds like you gave him and ultimatum and scared him, be willing to give him space and let him know that you respect he needs it. If you tell him what is in your heart you don't have to always wish you would have.
I hope things work out for you and good luck!
2006-08-30 23:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not stupid to ask, it is stupid to go. You can't go there still being a needy little girl. You wanted more, he couldn't/wouldn't give it, now you want more. See what I mean? The 'breaking up words' are not magic to make the feelings go away, and it sure seems like you and he said enough of them. If you can get your act together and learn to depend on yourself with or without a guy, then it's time to reconnect. Otherwise, please don't go.
2006-08-30 23:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first find out how he feels about you. then if he feels the same way, tell him yours. that way you won't feel like an idiot telling him how much you missed him and thought about him when he doesn't even love you. if that's the case, just say for old time sake, you just wanted to keep in touch and see how's he doing.
then move on because it's never going to work out if he doesn't feel the same. unless you just both feeling lusty. then get on with it. nothing wrong with that. just stay safe.
2006-08-30 23:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. JSV 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think what you wrote in the first couple of sentences is EXACTLY what you need and should say. You poured yourself out in that text in a very rational, yet heartfelt way.
2006-08-30 23:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth and ask for his forgiveness. And next time, don't be so clingy. That's a turn off to most men.
2006-08-30 23:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i always look at this kinda thing like this: everything u just said now...u said u wanted to tell him ur feelings and yet u had no problem saying everything o so poeticly here so. tell hime these things, tell him ur sorry and u want to give it another try.
2006-08-30 23:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by candybraidz_207 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though stupid, as you say, you should do, if you want.
2006-08-30 23:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋