Hi
I just have a question...
What would you do if you were dating a woman with a kid and was telling you from the first date that she was divorced and the second date she was separated ?
What would be your impression?
Thank you
2006-08-30 16:22:44 · 24 answers · asked by ianquestions 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you guys
Answers were fast!!!
At least I dont feel alone.
I would like to add more details but I think it wouldnt be right.
The only think I can say is that I dont see her anymore and all that you told me I wish I had the time to ask her.
Its my first time that I speak here
I should have done it before.
Thank you all
2006-08-30 16:37:53 · update #1
Wow are you describing me? What a question. I was married for five years and as of January we were seperated! Now 8 month later we're still "doing the paperwork." So legally we're not divorced but don't live together. I wouldn't put any thought into it. I've been on a few dates and I either tell them I'm seperated or divorce whatever comes out I guess. If she's not living with him don't worry about it. If she won't tell you than something fishy is up her sleeve. Yes they may have a kid so hopefully she will let him see her kid, but ya don't worry about it, it's most likely over so enjoy her and her kid and treat them well!!!
2006-08-30 16:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Slim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, im turning the tables on this question, I am the "Divorced" woman who upon meeting you would say just that, "I am divorced". When honestly I am still married. We have been separated for 2 years, not legally but are not together. After we get to know one another a little I will give you all the details on my marital status, its just easier to say divorced, than to say legally separated, or going thru a divorce. Im sure her intentions were not to mislead you or lie to you, she was only avoiding the details until she knew you a little better!
2006-08-30 16:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by jeri_nunez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought she might have said she was divorced meaning she has filed for the divorce, so technically she is legally separated, and filed for divorce, it just hasn't went all the way through. I'm divorced myself, and sometimes, under all the stress and new things going on, words don't always come out as they should. Don't jump to conclusions, as long as you can call her and go to her house, she is definitely separated. If you can't call her, i'd run. Find out why she is divorced and remember there are always 2 sides to every story.
2006-08-30 16:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by Tljabgdvhj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is hiding something from you maybe she really likes you and doesn't want to be prejudged by her current status. If you want to give this a try ask her about why she didn't tell you the whole truth right away and then you need to decide if her reasoning sounds like it all adds up.
2006-08-30 16:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by janedoe_104 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the kid wasn't in the picture, I'd say it wouldn't matter much how she described the relationship with the ex early in your dating, as long as he was clearly gone. But, obviously, you should get more details as you get to know her.
HOWEVER, the kid is a big complication. If she's fighting a custody battle with the ex, your presence can affect it.
2006-08-30 16:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would seriously just come out and ask her. This is something you need to know. Don't want no crazy husband trying to kill you or anything.LOL She might have gotten it mixed up and forgot she told you she was divorce or she could be lying. Only by asking will you find out the truth.
2006-08-30 16:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by happy_cute_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she had a handwritten certificate of divorce from her husband like the bible requires I would be okay with it. However, if she has that she also needs to get some kind of separation papers too (legally) so her husband can't turn around and sue you for alienation of affection.
2006-08-30 16:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being divorced is difficult for a woman even if she initiated the divorce for all the good reasons.
I would clarify it with her, instead of jumping to conclusions.
2006-08-30 16:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by amoreflowers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be asking her which she is. Cause she might even be married who knows? Just teasing ya. Ask the woman what her current marital status is, that's the only way your going to find out. Good luck to you.
2006-08-30 16:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That she is confused? Well she did kind of lie to you. Be careful... Honesty is the best policy. You should just ask her. Is she separated or is she divorced?
2006-08-30 16:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋