He wants to have children with me, has feelings for me, but confused about whether he is ready for committed relationship.
2006-08-30 16:02:59 · 8 answers · asked by * 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO.
This is a very sensitive moment...You need to do this on your own...If you were married, it would one thing, as this would be a joyous event, but this is not the case. As you say things are not working well between you two. Don't have him be there. Call a close girlfriend if you need support.
You have no idea how he is going to react. And you need to go through your own emotions with this rather than have to take the burden of his emotions as well.
Inviting him is a recipe for disaster.
I hope you are not pregnant and that this is a false alarm....If it is not, you do need to tell him, just tell him on your terms, and when you feel comfortable with it. Also you might want someone there when you tell him...
I am not saying that he is not as equally at fault here, all I am saying is it will be easier for you. This is a lot to handle, you don't need to hear his BS at this moment.
Best of Luck Hun.
2006-08-30 16:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by woookin_pa_nub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's unsure whether or not he wants to be with you, he's probably not ready for fatherhood. Are you prepared to raise the baby alone? My advice is, make your doctor's appointment, or buy your pregnancy test (whatever you're planning on doing) and do it without him. If you're thinking of inviting him in on the process of the testing, don't do so simply because you think it will change his mind about your relationship. If he's making noise about not being sure, you can pretty much assume he's telling the truth. Find out for sure if you are, then sit down with him and discuss what you'll do next. Single parenthood is very hard. Consider adoption or abortion if you're not ready to be a full-time parent.
2006-08-30 16:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by inoym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you might be pregnant for him i would bring him if he wants to go. It might help him make a decision. But personally if he doesn't know if he wants a commitment then I would by all means use protection from now on if you are not pregnant because guys tend to tell girls whatever they think will help them get some and most guys just don't like using a condom so they say things like I want a kid with you so that you aren't worried about getting pregnant also you have to think about deceases too...PLEASE use protection.
2006-08-30 17:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite him to come with you, you may need teh support. But whether you are pregnant or not you should really think about whether you should be with him or not.
2006-08-30 16:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by beachchic705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, whoopee! he wants to make babies, and leave them for you to raise? Yeah, right. He's pulling your chain, and getting free nookie at the same time.
He has "feelings" for you? Baby, I have "feelings" for you, and I don't even know you. But does he LOVE you? NO!
Have him go with you to find out if you are pregnant, but put him out of your bed.
Dump this loser!
2006-08-30 16:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should invite him because he needs to know what's going on with you and see what happens........ Good Luck
2006-08-30 16:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by In love with life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think u should invite him u might need his support
2006-08-30 16:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by Dr Luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then why be with him
2006-08-30 16:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋