My child just started Kindergarten this year. He's doing really well, the only complaint the teacher has is that she has to tell him over and over to do stuff which is the same problem my husband and I have at home. It's like he just doesn't hear us sometimes and I know there's nothing wrong with his hearing. Does anybody have any suggestions or any websites that can maybe give me some exercises to go over with my child here at home to help him learn to follow directions better? He does well with everything else. If nothing else he's bored with his work because he already knows so much of the stuff they are learning now. This just really bothers me and I know he has the potential to do better. Please help if you can. Thanks!!
2006-08-30 15:43:00 · 11 answers · asked by Brandy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
My son just started Kdg. and has trouble with talking too much. They use a rainbow chart system for behavior. Kids start out on orange and move across to yellow, blue, green, purple if they are bad, and can move to red if caught doing something good. The first few days he was always on yellow. Once he understood how things worked and we bribed him with a trip to the go carts if he could stay on orange he has had no problem. Does your child's teacher have a behavior chart? Can you offer rewards? Good luck! I am also employed at the school he attends so I have also talked to him about embarrassing mom. Like don't walk into the lunchroom, take a big sniff and announce "it smells just like a margarita on the rocks in here" (he did this!!!!!)
2006-08-30 15:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by thrill88 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my oldest (now 21) and my youngest (now 7). What works is (1) Let the teacher know that you're involved and that you support him or her. It is counterproductive to try to explain or justify your child's behavior. Talk to the teacher about what you are doing, and solicit his or her suggestions for other ideas that you can implement at home. It's important for the teacher to see you as a helpful partner, rather than as an antagonist. (2) Make sure your son knows that you and his teacher want HIS help so that you can ALL work together. (3) Ask the teacher for a daily behavior chart. My daughter's teacher (the one who's now 7) used one that had the day broken down into chunks of time vertically, and different behavioral areas horizontally. This made it easy to see if any particular area or time of day was problematic. She sent this home every day, and my daughter got a reward every day she had no check marks. (4) And this is the hardest, but the most important -- you have to make time to calmly and pleasantly make your child stay on task at home. However that works for you (that's positive) is fine. This is hard if you're easy going, and/or easily distracted, and/or enchanted with your child OR if your child is particularly bright, creative, or rambunctuous.
There's a slight possibility that your son has ADHD. My eldest did, and I'm convinced that medication (which he started in the 3rd grade) changed his life. At this point, that's probably just an idea to keep in the back of your mind.
2006-08-30 17:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like his problem is indeed boredom. And kindergarten just started so some kids take a little longer to adjust to the novelty of the whole thing. The teacher should know this.
My son was bored in kindergarten and 1st, 2nd...etc grades. Sometimes if a kid is unusually bright, they will spend a lifetime bored in class waiting for the other kids to catch up.
Sad but true.
My kid's teachers have had the same complaint about him throughout his schooling. Doesn't pay attention...has to be reminded to do things. But he's in the gifted program in school and somehow absorbs knowledge regardless of how distracted he seems.
I say have your son tested.
2006-08-30 15:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell he needs to listen and obey. Let him know that there will be consequences if he cannot listen and obey and make good choices. Also give him rewards for making good choices and listening, set up with the teacher that she reports to you daily in some form how his day went. I think a big part of it is age, he's testing you to see what you're gonna do, to see if you're gonna step up and be the mom and dad and with the teacher he's not used to her yet I bet and it'll fall into place soon.
2006-08-30 15:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried , encourageing him with a Gold Star chart , put things he can work for - example- makeing bed 1 star, unmade bed no star and set a limit like 10 star gets him a good snack or so on -it work with my kids a they love the little surprises I gave them ,I wish you well lol edi
2006-08-30 15:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by edisquest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a picture schedule, and social stories (picture books showing what a child does everyday at school) and it gets them into a routine. If you want to know more I would be happy to explain more My childs school made him a book to this affect and he loves it and is DOING GREAT!!!!
2006-08-30 16:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by fouracesrwild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like what kinda stuff?....put away your paper, sit down those kinda things..or more like directions over and over..
i had the same sort of trouble with my son who is now 9 and we still have issues. we had both of our children in private school until they all but told me that my son would never make it there academically....so i pulled them out and started homeschooling them both.....best thing i could have ever done....
2006-08-30 17:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by bamafan06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start having consequences for his bad habits. Eventually he'll get tired of "not hearing" mommy or daddy. BE CONSISTENT MOM
2006-08-30 17:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try www.fedup.com.au
it's all about how food additives/colours/flavours & some natural foods etc effect childrens learning and behaviour. It works for my son.
2006-08-30 19:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by deedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found this website, I hope it helps!
http://school.familyeducation.com/behavioral-problems/school/41152.html
2006-08-30 15:51:12 · answer #10 · answered by imreallymesedup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋