alright, it was the first day of school today and i've been dating my boyfriend for about a week now. i was sitting on the bus after school had ended and come to find out i see my boyfriend with this gurl that i know. she is hangin all over him and he isn't doing anything about it but talken and laughing with her(by 'hangin' i mean her arm around him but he's just standing there). i need help!!! wat should i do? please help me! thanx!: )
2006-08-30 15:28:58 · 25 answers · asked by bee.arr.ii.tee.tee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
alright, it was the first day of school today and i've been dating my boyfriend for about a week now. i was sitting on the bus after school had ended and come to find out i see my boyfriend with this gurl that i know. she is hangin all over him and he isn't doing anything about it but talken and laughing with her(by 'hangin' i mean her arm around him but he's just standing there). i need help!!! wat should i do? i need advice of whether i should talk to him about it, give him another chance, or wat!! i don't know if he realized wat she was doing because he's a 7th grader and i'm an 8th grader(so is the gurl that was hangin on him). i mean, maybe he dint know!! please help me! QUICK!! thanx!: )
2006-08-30 15:32:16 · update #1
Let her know who you are and hang close to your guy! OR
He may not be serious about you to be doing this...he doesn't respect you....get rid of him...
2006-08-30 15:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sammyleggs222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rough age my dear.. you are both young he will be interested in many girls before he finds the right one.. i think he is flattered by the attention from other girls and at his age this is so normal.. he is probably very innocent but doesn't know how to stop this girl and doesn't want to hurt feelings .. if he is a flirt and this continues i would say it is time to just move on.. enjoy these young years my dear they go by so quickly . .no need to settle into a relationship with just one young man.. don't put all your feelings into it at this age... laugh enjoy life and be happy.. don't worry about all that dating stuff ... .hang with girlfriends and let these be some of the best memories of your life... A mom of 7 grand ma of 18 and great grand ma of 5... God bless you.............
2006-08-30 15:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by sandi4551 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't jump to conclusions on either side of the fence. If you are dating this guy, then communication is key, as it is in any relationship. I would ask him as casually as "what was up with that girl today" - opening a dialogue.
If he's brushing it off or not wanting to talk about it - then tell him it bothered you and you want to know what's up.
If you don't like his answer - then you can deal with that when the time comes.
Good luck!
2006-08-30 15:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by thoughtfulwind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to be cool, accept it and hold on to your boyfriends hand (get your father's permission first). Remember according to the Bible, polygamy isn't a sin. Look at Jacob having 2 wives and 2 concubines and the 12 tribes of Israel came out of it.
2006-08-30 15:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sandstorm222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd slap her, but that's just me.
Maybe he didn't want to be rude & tell her to get off of him, but he should have told her politely that he did not appreciate the way she was acting.
Be careful how you handle this. You have a long way to go before the end of school this year. Try to resolve it without making a big thing out of it. You don't want to sound too jealous & make your boyfriend mad, but you need to get your point across to him that you didn't like it.
2006-08-30 15:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this makes you feel uncomfortable (which it obviously does) try talking to him. Tell him how you feel,and if he acts stupid then dump him. Also if he promises to say somthing or whatever and you catch him again. Seriously dump him.Or you could try joining them and tell her that he's taken. But your relationship is only one week long and he's already ticking you off imagine what would happen in a year or even a month. Just dump the fool.
2006-08-30 15:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by pinkstar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get mad at the guy first, because a lot of times, the other girl doesn't know he is dating someone. So he should know better. But if she does know, then of course she's in the wrong too. But I'd get rid of him because if he lets her do that, he'll let her do other things too.
2006-08-30 15:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be jealous, just walk up and say hey. If he continues to let her hang on him without acknowledging your prescense, then dump him. He's not worth your time. Don't let anybody make you feel like your less worthy. if you feel bad in a relationship, then move on to something more positive.
It takes a BETTER/STRONGER person to NOT be violent.
2006-08-30 15:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by noOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him about her, say something along the lines of I saw you with one of your fiends she looked pretty cool can you introduce me? This way you can see how he reacts maybe she is just a Friend. Besides if he agrees to introduce you can start out with "Hi, I am your name here, his name here girlfriend." that should clear it up.
2006-08-30 15:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he wants to be free to fool around with any girl he wants. If he says yes then move on. If he says no, he wants only you then tell him to get rid of the 'clinging vine'. It's disrespectful to you.
2006-08-30 15:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋