I just need some help please?

Question

How many other people believe that self esteem and being confident is has nothing to do with how pretty you are...not trying to sound like an arrogant bi*tch..but im really attractive and i find it way more difficult to have self esteem and be confident because i always feel like people are judging me based on just my looks and not my personality or anything else..thats what ive gotten in the past..any thoughts?? and how should i overcome that fact that i will always have people staring me down..i feel so self conscious when people do that...and instead of it making me feel good it makes me feel insecure and awkward..ugggh...i dunno if anyone else out there has felt like this b4..

wow..patrinka..seriouslly i have been told by everyone my whole life that the only reason i have succeeded with things..or have gotten certain jobs etc. is because of my looks..which isnt even true..i really identify with your answer..thank you so much for sharing..

blesss..yea it can be really hard..it makes me feel that if i dont appear perfect at any given second that people wont care about me at all..like all they see is my face and they cant get past it at all..not for personality,brains,or anything else like that..it makes me feel as if im living under a microscope..and that if one day i got in a car crash and half my face burned off i would lose everyone that i have..people can be so superficial..i am not..and i feel like i always get associated with being a snob cuz of how i look..i am shy..and i dont talk much to people i dont know..and people then take that as me being stuck up..id definitly have to say that those people who do have looks have to work 10 times as hard to be recognized as a real person...and not just a face and body..thank you for your answer..its really comforting to know that there are other individuals feel the way i do..cuz there have bee times when i have thought i was going to go insane.take care.

DA Q...what the hell..when did i ever say i was self centered?? and when did i ever say that i spend hours in front of the mirror? i dont...at all..im very low maintanance.you took my question completely the wrong way..there is not a stuck up bone in my body..i have had such a hard time with people throughout my life just based on my looks..jealousy..lust..you name it..it isnt easy at all.i have and always will be a very down to earth person..i am also extremely sensitive and shy..its people like you who make being pretty so hard..(not trying to sound stuck up) you dont even know me at all..and nothing i said in my question sounded self centered or stuck up.i have never been called stuck up by anyone who has ever held a conversation with me..only by those who choose to believe what they want..they see a pretty face and all they can think about is how "stuck up a person they must be"..thank you for proving my point that everyone judges me unfairly..have a nice day...o wait..nevermind

Answer 1

i know what you mean cuz i feel like that too at times...i think everyone does at one time or another.

Just remember tho....it doesn't matter what other people think. if you love yourself then that's all that counts.

Answer 2

Confidence and self-esteem are very tough issues for many people, good-looking or not so much. You know that those who judge you just on your looks or how you dress, etc, they aren't your real friends because they aren't friends with "you" they are friends with the clothes you wear and how much make up you have on that day. If you feel that someone is watching you, do something that will make them embarassed... ask them if those jeans make your *** look as good as you thought they did because you noticed them looking or if they'd like to know what kind of make up or hair product you use to make your hair look so shiny and smooth.

Flaunt it and forget all those people because they are probably just wishing that they put the time into themselves like you do!!

Answer 3

This is my Gf's ID, But she said you sound just like me that everyone is staring me down and it makes me awkward too.I am told by everyone that i am the hottest guy and it makes me feel like that's all there after and if there was an hotter guy I would be second place not that it matters but it just puts more pressure on me then enjoying the gift that was given to me.What i do in these situations is act really stupid and do idiotic things and it takes the pressure off me big good luck.

Answer 4

whoa...quite a problem you've got there... i have never considered that situation b4, I thought that all attractive people never have self-esteem issues... I suggest that all you try to do is ignore the stares and be yourself... I might be hard to ignore all those crazy people staring at you and breathing down the back of your neck waiting for you to do something interesting..or stupid... but just keep in mind that whatever they may think of you is not any of your concern just be yourself and let them accept you for who you are... just think of how comfortable you are going to be when you dont care about their stares, when you can just be yourself without worry... motivate yourself to be true and in no time being yourself will foster confidence... Good Luck..

Answer 5

I personally think that you can be confident and high self esteem no matter how you look. it just all matters on you and how you feel about yourself. ill admit it is hard now a days with everyone thinking you have to dress good, look good, all the cliques in high school putting pressure on people. and honestly because people that judge you before they get to know you are just jealous and have their own issues and prolly have nothing better to do. i hate it but people are sooo judgemental these days, it drives me nuts. but dont worry about how others think of you as long as you feel good about yourself is what really matters.

Answer 6

first of all don't be so self centered it is nice to know you are pretty but there is more to you then looks.people don't judge you cause of your looks they judge you cause you are self centered. you need to stop acting like you are better then everyone.don't be a leader or a follower just be you . you can still keep the pretty face and h air but don't rely on it to get you by in life.try this . wear a pair of pants and a shirt and don't focus on what you look like and spoend hours in front of the mirror maybe someone will compliment you on your choice of clothes not your looks..

Answer 7

Looks can sometimes be a curse when you want to be appreciated for the person you are...but...trust me, its only the icing on the cake...you need to put your focus on being good at something...following a goal, a dream, a career...and be GREAT at it. Your thought process will change and you can prove you are the entire package"looks and brains"...it works better!. I was a product of being pretty and put in situations where everyone thought I got there because of my looks....SURPRISE!!! When you open your mouth...it will show...more to you than just a pretty package. Study hard, do a good job at whatever you choose to do....not only will you be pretty...but you will have LOTS to be proud of~ Good luck & Smile

Answer 8

I do not believe that they go hand in hand. I've seen some really ugly people that have plenty of self confidence. I think it depends on the person and the influences they've had in their life.

Answer 9

Maybe if u show more confidence in your self people will stop judging u.

Answer 10

i hav sympathy for everyone
whether they'r good lookin or not so,seems
we all hav to struggl thru this life
its too bad sometimes we point fingers at ppl and say
oh they hav it easier than us