I have read some "things" in dating that makes me laugh because I can't believe these (usually younger kids), play around with (i love you), and the simular of a chatroom as a relationship. People don't really think that "something" will form from an internet relationship do they?
Is it just me or does it sound really cheesy or Corny; a waste of time?
I can understand if it is two adults, who meet, share a nice chat, and then overtime, one is willing to relocate for a serious relationship.
But, if there is no relocation, how can there be a REAL relationship. Wouldn't trust be of some importance?
If I think about it, I couldn't do it. Because either she or I would be constantly lying to one another...It's either that or we wouldn't be completely honest, nor would I believe it were too healthy.
I'm just trying to understand the foundation for which it's truly necessary if there is really no intention to relocate. What do some of you, men/ women think about this?
--Rob
2006-08-30 15:18:55 · 23 answers · asked by stealth_n700ms 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think the chatroom romances r stupid..i mean how can u fall in love with someone online i mean really u dont know them and online u can be anyone u want to be i mean for real did u know that i am a rap star i mean ya i am and i was in the latest danity kane video ya that was me over to the left ya right u cant trust ppl on the internet but these idiots fall in love n all ...come back to reality ppl
2006-08-30 15:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I guess it has more to do with the sincerity of both of the individuals involved rather than how they meet. If the two sincerely like each other and decide they want to get to know each other further before they decide to meet, it might work. But yes, relocation is necessary because otherwise it really doesn't mean anything more than friendship or one person is kidding them self.
If one person is just passing the time while the other is serious then it wouldn't matter even if they had met face to face in the beginning.
But generally it's difficult to trust people over the internet because you can't really tell if they are genuine or lying.
2006-08-30 22:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by white_falcon21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rob,
I think if you meet the right person, you would relocate...I have done the online dating thing and met several local people. I was in a 2 yr relationship through Yahoo personals and it was good. Trust is a big issue in the beginning, but as you get to know the other person, it develops. It's just another medium for meeting people, some people are fine with it and others still prefer the old fashioned way. Good luck in your search !
2006-08-30 22:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you.
How would you ever know if the person you met on line was being honest with you? They may be typing what they think will attract, not how they actually feel. They could be married, a sicko, a rapist, a murderer, or any number of unappealing things. Unless you meet in person and try to have the long term serious relationship, you would never know the difference.
I understand the convenience of on line dating services, but I still think that there is that danger of a dishonest person. One of my friends made a profile, and when I saw it I was disgusted at some of the men that responded. One of them had in their profile what they were looking for in a woman was discretion. Can you say "married and looking for an affair?"
I think the chat rooms are a waste of time and effort. If I wanted to sit and talk to someone, I'll call a friend or family member. They at least know me, know what's going on in my life, and what kind of person I am. And I know the same about them. I wouldn't be sharing intimate details of my life with a complete stranger who, for all I know, is a wack-job.
Maybe if I was still single and desperate, I might try them out. But I doubt it. I would still prefer to get to know him face to face before I tried to have a relationship with him. He may sound like Mr. RIght in print, but then I would end up meeting Mr. Looser. I would be deeply disappointed that he didn't live up to my expectations. And I don't think he would be too happy about it either.
2006-08-30 22:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll break this down in two parts....
Part 1 - Long Distance relationships never work unless the relationship has been ongoing for many years and then distance came about. Classic example would be the guy that moves away from his family to take on a job in another state and has to save money to move the family.
Part 2 - Relationships strictly online are dumb yes. But I've met women online before whom, inturn, became my girlfriends in real life. Yes I did meet them in person and they did live near me. My brother is a classic case of how he met someone online and now they're engaged and do live together. So love from the internet is possible.
2006-08-30 22:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by The 3rd Nipple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the point in online dating is to meet someone and get to know them, then move the relationship onto the real world...
That is how I met my boyfriend and I am very happy, I couldn't have met him any other way since we live in different countries.. Next month we are going to live together, in the same country, in the same house - and I couldn't be happier!
Internet can connect you to people far away from you with similar interests and similar minds. It's so much better than meeting people in bars!
But I do agree with you, if the relationship exists only online with no real intention to meet the other person, then that's kind of crooked.
2006-08-30 22:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by eufrosyne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never understood why people chat with other people so far away and form a "relationship" Whats the point? If you are both adults you hopefully have lives where you are.
I do have a profile on match.com and never really use it, but when I did I only looked at people in my zipcode. I'm not that desperate to meet someone who lives thousands of miles away. Hell, I've never met anyone online anyway.
I think people are just lazy and are looking a convenince. and talking to someone online and developing a "relationship" where you aren't dealing with real feelings are anything physical makes it easy and a waste of time in my book. I guess in an online relationship you have to have a very vivid imagination.
2006-08-30 22:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by Kayte 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I must really be sad and pathetic then. I met my b/f through a chatroom. We live 2 hours away from each other. We've been together almost 2 years now with plans of marrying. Ummm...no, we're not going to marry and continue to live separately.
The epistolary mask is a powerful thing. It sometimes allows for the "true" person to come out. It also allows for a lot of lies. Ultimately, getting to know someone online is one thing. In order for it to develop into anything more, always face to face.
2006-08-30 22:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by Raggedy Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online dating does work. I met the man I am with now right here on Yahoo personals. We have been together over 7 years now.
I have a girlfriend who met her boyfriend through another dating site. He lives in L.A. and she lives here in Hayward. They have been together for over 2 years now. Yes, the relationship does rely on trust. But if you are not mature enough to have that trust or handle the situation it will never work. They see each other every few months and it works out fine for them. They both do not see other people.
It can be done but like anything else worth having it is work.
2006-08-30 22:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by ladyw0llf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't agree with online "dating". I have to be around a person to know if I like them or not. I could talk to someone online for years and them be a completely different person than I knew of. But the whole younger people doing it, it's probably just kids craving attention.
2006-08-30 22:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by monroe1172002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋