I feel so inferior!?

Question

There r some people I know that just seem 2 have everything they could ever want. They say things 2 me (and sometimes 2 other people) that r just awful. They have nice houses, their families r pretty well off financially. They're very athletic and outgoing. And I know they're immature but lotsa people like them. I know that I'm not inferior than them but it just feels like it. Any advice?

They r bullies 2 and some of the stuff they say hurts so bad. They r everything i could ever wanna be in life but @ the same time they r the exact opposite of everything I ever wanna be.

Answer 1

There are always going to be people who have more then you do, and there are always going to be people who have less then you do.

I used to sit with someone who just spent somuch time telling me what I was doing wrong and how I was investing wrong (we had the approximate same income) and she made me feel really bad, she had a beautiful house on several acres and a whole lot of money saved for her retirement and no car payment and I was struggling with no retirement a 12 year old car and a mortgage. She never told me, her parents gave her the land for her house and her in-laws gave then 25% of the cost of the house for a wedding present. She never said, Mom and Dad put her through college and her car was her graduation present. I was on my own from the time I was 19, and paid my own way through college, my parents never even gave me bus fare.

I then realized, she was not better then me, she was luckier then me. I felt a whole lot better about myself, I realized I went through the school of hard-knocks and came out fine, better then fine, cause I did everything on her own, where her self-esteem was so bad, she had to make people think she was great to make herself feel better.

Remember, these people may have well off parents and have gifts (athletic) but in the long run, it is nothing that they earned. It does not make them better then you, only luckier. When your time comes in, you will appreciate what you have. They never will, and in fact they may end up in trouble, because they are spoiled and greedy.

Trust me, though it may not seem like it now, you are better off.

Answer 2

You have already some things I would suggest, such as trying to see what it is that people like about them. I think the next step is seeing why they like that. If a person has money, they can be used. They have fun toys, money to go places and do things, and parents who probably aren't there a lot. People like people like this especially when they're young because if they're friends with these people then they can use their stuff, go with them places, and party at their houses when their parents aren't around. The thing you may not see is that it's just as hard to have everything and know that some people are only hanging out with you because of that as to have nothing and only a couple of good friends. Actually, it's better to be the less well off one because you know that the people who hang out with you are doing it because they actually like you and not what you can offer them.

Answer 3

Well hold up a minute.

Let's say for the moment that you ARE inferior. Then that would explain why others have it better than you. And if you ARE inferior, then it's all good - if you're inferior, it's not your fault that you don't have what they have. So you wouldn't have to worry about it or put pressure on yourself.

However, what if you are NOT inferior to those people? That would mean that you are SUPERIOR to them. I don't believe everyone is equal. No two people can be EXACTLY equal. So you are either a cut below everyone else, or a cut above.

If you are superior to others, then likewise, you WON'T CARE what they have or do or say or think. Screw 'em.

Usually I find that people like that are talking out their butts anyway.

Love, Jack.

Answer 4

You should ignore what they say. No one is better than anyone else, no matter how much money they have, or the achievements they've made. The same has happened to me, so I know what it's like. Think of the good things that you have in your life, like family, friends, a home, hobbies, or anything that you enjoy. It's easier to deal with the bad stuff when you are thinking of the good stuff, kinda like knowing both sides of an argument. The people that like them, like them because of money, the way they dress, or because they might be cute, or because they think they're better than every one else, not because of personality, or anything that really matters, so don't worry about that. Remember that you aren't better than anyone and no one is better than you, and you'll be fine.

Good Luck!!

Answer 5

Happiness comes from 'within'. People that are truly happy are happy with the day - happy they're alive. It sounds like you need to appreciate what you have. Houses don't make homes - and 'things' don't make people happy. It's short-lived anyway.

Many children are going through chemotherapy and will never be adults. It sounds like you need to appreciate what you have - not what you don't have. If you plant a nice garden in your back yard, you won't be looking in your neighbor's yard for food. Just stay focused on what your gifts are. Every person has something special. The life goal is to find out what that gift is - and do something with it.

Answer 6

Yep..we have all at one time or another felt like you do...but try and remember a couple of corny sayings that really are true...the grass ALWAYS looks greener on the other side...and one that I actually have on my desk at work from Eleanor Roosevelt...NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INFERIOR WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION....pretty great saying huh? Just from your note you sound like a really nice and good person...thats something in itself...stay true to you...be thankful you can look in the mirror and say "I'm real and I'm ok!" If you have a chance, watch the movie A Walk to Remember...its says it better than I ever could. Remember people who have to make others look and feel bad to make themselves feel good and cool...are a joke..it will catch up with them..its pretty sad actually...so stay true to yourself and be real with people...you'll be fine....when the going gets tuff the "tuff get going!" Stay strong..hang in there...good luck

Answer 7

They are not friends.They sound like snobs. OR, they're just covering up their own deficiencies and trying to make themselves look good when they've got a lot more problems than you have. They are just aquaintances, and not very good ones at that. Someone will come along and give them a taste of the junk they're dishing out. Try to avoid them. If you can't, then just frown and look down your nose at them and give them a taste of their own medicine. Remember that things "even out" over time.Try to hang out with people that accept each other without passing judgement.

Answer 8

In my experience, people who spend a lot of time talking about how great their lives are, are usually the ones who are trying to convince themselves of the things they're saying. If someone is truly happy and stable, they don't need to constantly tell people about it.

The next time someone brags to you about how great things are going for them, remember that they're probably trying to make themselves believe it, not you.

Answer 9

BE THE BEST YOU THAT YOU KNOW HOW TO BE. LEARN WAYS TO BE A BETTER YOU.

QUIT COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS BECAUSE YOU WILL ALWAYS FALL SHORT. YOU SHOULD KNOW, THAT THEY ARE DOING THE SAME WITH YOU AND FALLING SHORT.

DO THINGS YOU CAN PRACTICE OVER AND OVER, AND GET REALLY GOOD AT. THAT IS CALLED MATSTERING SOMETHING. GET GOOD ENOUGH TO TEACH IT TO OTHERS.

THIS IS HOW YOU BUILD YOURSELF. ONLY YOU CAN DO THIS FOR YOURSELF. IT TAKES LONGER TO COMPLAIN ABOUT IT THAN TO JUST DO IT. TRY NEW THINGS. YOU MIGHT SUCK AT FIRST, BUT NO ONE IS AN INSTANT EXPERT AT ANYTHING. KEEP DOING IT.

SMILE AT EVERYONE AND COMPLIMENT THEM ON THINGS YOU LIKE ABOUT THEM. ASK PEOPLE QUESTIONS AND GET THEM TALKING ABOUT THEMSELVES. MAKE POSITIVE OBSERVATIONS. "WOW! YOU MAKE VOLLEYBALL LOOK SO EASY! HOW DID YOU GET SO GOOD?" YOU WILL GET THEM TALKING.

THIS IS CALLED BEING EXTROVERTED. TRY IT. IT MAKES OTHER PEOPLE FEEL GOOD WHEN YOU NOTICE GOOD THINGS ABOUT THEM. YOU WILL MAKE YOURSELF POPULAR AND PEOPLE WILL FEEL GOOD AROUND YOU, AND THEY WILL WANT YOU AROUND.

GIVE OTHER PEOPLE THE APPRECIATION, ACCEPTANCE, ADMIRATION, ATTENTION, AND VALIDATION THAT YOU WANT FROM THEM. THESE ARE THINGS WE ALL WANT. IF YOU GIVE TO OTHERS, IT WILL COME BACK TO YOU, I PROMISE.

IT WILL ALSO GET YOU TO FOCUS ON WHAT'S GOOD AND RIGHT, RATHER THAN WHAT'S BAD OR WRONG.

QUIT WORRYING ABOUT LIFE AND START ENJOYING IT!!!

Answer 10

Money doesn't buy happiness. And it's easy to think other people are happy when they aren't. We are all in this together - so hang in there. Help other people as often as you can - this will make you feel really good about yourself. Good luck!