Question for those against gay marriage?

Question

I can't understand why so many people have a problem with gay marriage. I know the bible says it is wrong, but not everyone believes in the bible. I don't see christians trying to make it illegal for buddist or pegans to be married(the bible says they should not even live). They beleive differently. Should atheist not be allowed to marry because they don't beleive in the bible? If you don't understand why they want to be married so what? You are not the one that has to understand. If you don't want to see it or it makes you sick, don't go to the wedding. And what if you are right and god does think it is wrong, shouldn't it be up to him to judge? If he doesn't like it let him tell the gays they are going to hell. It is not your place.

Without quoting the bible or giving any religious reason, why do you think gay marriage is wrong?

Answer 1

I know this question was meant for those against gay marriages, however, I can't keep quiet. :)

I must say that I believe people use the generic phrases, "because it's in the bible" or "it's (not) what God intended" or "It's (not) tradition" because there's a lack of an intellectual or logical answer. I would certainly hope that in this day and age, NO ONE lives their lives avidly by what the bible says . . . or even by what's considered "tradition."

Lev. 25:44 states that I may indeed possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. This USED to be tradition until a few brave people stood up and said, "I don't think so . . ."

The bible says it's okay for a man to have more than one wife. This also USED to be tradition until a few brave people stood up and said, "I don't think so. . ."

The bible suggests women are "property". This USED to be tradition, until a few brave people stood up and said, "I don't think so."

I respect the opinions of everyone, and I do not challenge unless I am challenged. But I can't help but to wonder, (and excuse the cliche,) who died and made you, me, us God? How is it ok to change some things from tradition and the bible, but not others? Who are you, we, to decide what is right and what is wrong for others?

Before I go, I must just say . . .The First Amendment of the Constitution of the United States (the very first of the 10 Bill of Rights) states in its very first entry, "(...the United States government) shall make no law respecting the establishment of religion". These words are important. They mean that the government can not even acknowledge the existence of religion - ANY religion. This means all religions; ones that include a Jesus, an Allah, a Buddha or any other religious figure(s) or religious dogma. And yet it is ILLEGAL for same sex partners to have the same legallities as a legal marriage! Where is the justification?

I am a straight woman who cannot understand for the life of me why people care so much about things such as this and bi-racial couples and so on. YOU are not the one living that lifestyle. The truth is, misery loves company . . . which is why people love complaining about it.

So, is gay marriage morally right? It doesn't matter . . . should it be illegal based on religious standards? Absolutely not! Maybe one day soon, a few brave people will stand up and say, "I don't think so . . ."

Answer 2

Matrimony between a man and a woman is a sacred union, ordered towards a particular purpose, and blessed by God.

Matrimony between anyone other than a man and a woman is not a sacred union, is seriously disordered and offensive to both God and man, and is designated by God as a particularly abominable offense, which cries out to heaven for vengeance.

From a purely practical point of view, ANY married heterosexual couple, no matter how seriously sinful or disordered in their behavior, can still ultimately serve the purpose for which God created them.

NO homosexual couple can.

History also teaches that a society which embraces and condones homosexuality is not likely to survive very much longer.

Answer 3

Having free will is sometimes confusing. Look at every other creature. Humans are the only ones that think gay relationships are okay. Then look at all the other things that humans think is okay that we all know isn't. Now try putting all that together and see if you still think gay relationships are okay. Without scripture, it is just a matter of nature. Our species could not survive as gays. This issue seems to be a bother to you. That means you have morals and are questioning them. That means scripture is part of the answer. No, it is the answer. We don't really understand why people are attracted to the same sex but whatever the reason, a marriage of the same sex is really not possible. Only on paper. Think about it.

Answer 4

Here's the real reason: most people never question what they're taught because it's become such a part of who they are and their worldview that it's either incredibly scary (at an unconscious level) or it's so interwoven that there's little room for self-inquiry. We've had millenia of a Judeo-Christian proscription against homosexuality, something that was added to Leviticus solely because the jewish tribes wanted to divinely mandate procreative sex to increase their numbers (Leviticus also has mandates against cutting sideburns, wearing clothes of 2 different weaves, etc.). It made it into the New Testament in Saul of Tarsus' (Paul) letters to early christian communities (e.g. Romans); Saul of Tarsus was raised in the anti-gay culture of his times. Appeals to natural law don't work because of the vast numbers of species that exhibit homosexuality. And one would do well to do the simple research and read the legal and laymen arguments against interracial marriage - they are startlingly the SAME as the ones against homosexual marriage.

Answer 5

It's not so much of bible as it is of tradition. Politicians and Police officers use standards of what is to be done and what is not to be done in society by humans to be able to justify what is right and what is wrong. If they accept gay marriage all of their standpoints on tradition will be shaken and questioned. And they could have to reamp their whole mentality on thinking of things, which people fear, would change what America is to begin with. The American Dream. I doubt George Washington, John Adams, and Thomas Jefferson signed the declaration of independance so two people of the same gender could touch lips. From a 3rd person perspective, that's how I see it. I came to this conclusion when I asked myself likewise, if this is truly a free country, why can't I sit here on this portion of the parking lot near my car? Why can't I lay on the sidewalk? or any other random number of things that one should supposedly be free to do? because it'd make you seem out of the ordinary and suspicious and that's how police justify to themselves who is to be watched and who isn't. It's how people justify to themselves what is crazy and what is normal. And that's how what and how things have been done in the past. In the past, Christianity was big. Still is to an extent. So marriage was accepted. That goes back into the colonial days and beyond. People had jobs and went to work. Stayed to their business. Always married and liked the other gender, never their own. Always kept moving while on sidwalks. Anything that goes against tradition will be questioned. It's what society was built around. If they questioned what the rules their society goes by eventually the rules themselves would become pointless and people would truly be free. But how free is too free? Say one was so free, that not even one's own cells were held in place. You wouldn't be a human your cells would simply float away, all of the earth and ever cell would simply seperate and float away forever bouncing off of one another. It'd be chaos. So why isn't there gay marriage? It's because of people being traditional, similar to how How rock and roll was to people in the 1950's.

Answer 6

"Without quoting the Bible or giving any religious reason, why do you think gay marriage is wrong?"

Your question is impossible to answer. You made a general moral inquiry into the reasonings behind a certain principle (no gay marriage), and automatically excluded the moral code as an acceptable answer. How does one answer nonsense questions?

This is by nature a religious question. Any given person's concept of marriage, or "right" and "wrong" for that matter, will be based in the religious code to which they conform.

Please try to avoid asking nonsense questions in the future.

Answer 7

I am in agreement with you on this one.

There seems to be a bit of brainwashing and blatant steyrotyping of the homosexual commiunity saying that being gay causes AIDS. AIDS is a condition brought around by a virus, last I checked you cant create a virus by being gay!! Common misconception that was ingrained into the brains of homophobes due to the instance of AIDS being brought to world attention in the 1980's. Yes it was promoted vigoursly in the Gay community to allow people to recognise the potential for catching the virus but since has been in reducing number throughout the community due to this. Mostly hetrosexual people worldwide are contracting the disease as us gays are a more aware of its existance and prevention.

Answer 8

Why is it that being disgusted or repulsed by something unusal is so hard to grasp? Many gay men are disgusted by the thought of sex with women. It is DIFFERENT and whether someone accepts it is a personal choice. I dont condaon acts of hatred against gays, whatsoever. I think that they should be given the same rights and privelidges as anyoneelse. But if the people who came up with the hetero institution of marraige dont want to share it,because it is based on a relationship ofo a man and a woman, why not be trying to generate something with the same priveledges and calling it something else? Just to make a point? Good luck with that, wont work.

My advice is for gays to work towards expanding the scope of the domestic partnerships, and leave people to their customs that they feel so strongly about.

Answer 9

That final caveat on there limits what I can say. I don't have a problem with gays having some sort of civil ceremony if that is what they want. Don't call it marriage though because that was ordained by God for a man and a woman.

Answer 10

Marriage is a Biblical term.
Just as is "Eucharist" "Circumcision" & "Baptism"

When defining the legal union between same sex partners, it simply isn't applicable to use the word "marriage"
That's where the problem lies.

The sacrament of Marriage by definition is the union of a man and a woman.

The moment same sex partners quit trying to reWrite a 3000 year old definition, will be the moment that Same sex unions will be lawful.

It's about reWriting laws, not sacraments.