MY BF of 4 yrs, my mother and best friend all call me retarded and stupid. Have u ever been verbally abused?

Question

does this just happen to me. or is this a common occurrence in relationships. I want all these toxic people out of my life. im beginning to hate them because they are trying to make me unhappy and i think their goal is to try and make me have low self-esteem. It hurts because I have to gewt rid of people I once loved and they are not willing to respect me. Instead, i am beginning to lose respect and affection from them. I don't even trust people anymore because the closest people to me-the ones that are suppost to love and support me are trying to make me miserable and act more like enemies that a friend, family or boyfriend. I never abused anyone yet, should I have to deal with their abuse? its not fair. Have you ever exp. abuse by people like me and from whom? its ironic these losers call me names, yet they are the scum. My BF is an ex-gangbanger, felon
HS drop put. My girlfriend 2 baby daddy's-Married to one guy yet living with another guy. My mother had an abortion & steals.

Answer 1

No I haven't. But good luck to you.

Answer 2

Oh sweetheart I wish you were one of my students!!! I want you to read this and take everything I type to heart ok??? I want you to think of a magic number too, this number is 18. After you reach this age then you have every right to move out on your own and live by your own rules, without someone who is toxic to your soul in your home. Your "best friend" is not someone you should take seriously anyway, do you really want to be like her??? FORGET HER NAME. Your boyfriend is dangerous, and could get you killed, even though you say "EX"- gang banger do you think that if someone from one of his old rival sets would care??? NO BABY, THEY DON'T. LEAVE HIM, but for God's sake be careful, if you are in school tell a teacher , moniter, or someone in authority that you trust if you are afraid of him. Don't let him think that he can trap you by getting you pregnant either. Just get away from him ASAP. Your mother, however, is a bit trickier. Sadly the only thing I can tell you if you are under eighteen is to keep your grades up at school, join some clubs that will help you spend as little time at home and at the same time will improve your grades and self confidance. Stay out of trouble which may also mean that you have to make new friends, which may not be popular with you old ones,but the main thing is to remember is that only YOU can live YOUR life. You don't want to be laying in bed twenty years from now next to someone who has beaten down your soul and hating the choices you made because you feel that you no longer have any freedom.If your mother is doing things that she shouldn't, things that could hurt people, then maybe you should tell the police or CPS, they could provide a safe place for you to fall. Good Luck Honey. Life is Wonderful, and I will bet you money that more people are out there that care about you then don't.

Answer 3

Nobody likes to be put down or abused. It sounds as if your boyfriend/mom/friend are ignorant (unknowing) and might have some moral issues. When they see you are trying to rise above the path they have chosen in their lives, perhaps they get jealous? Do not let them stop your moral compass in life. Keep heading on a good, loving, energy filled path. Finish school and go to college. Yes, you can go even if you are broke. That is what student loans are for. You will be so PROUD of yourself and you will be able to be independent and make your own living. Which might not sound too interesting as a young person, but when you are in your 40's and have a nice job that pays well you will be so glad. I wonder why you would lower yourself to choose a boyfriend who has no ambition in life? A high school dropout is not going to be able to support or help support a family some day with any sense of security. Listen to your heart and head. Be strong and pity them but do not believe them.

Answer 4

you have a lot to figure out. what abuse is , what love is , who you are , what you want, what you will and will not stand for , what retarded means , what is a toxic life , why you put up with it , how and when you will be willing to change it, how long it takes to put on your shoes and get the ____ out of there, why you are not crazy , when will you see your worth, what will it cost you to change your mind and tell them all to go to there final destination, which is out of your face, mind and life, get a definition of what you want and go for it.tomorrow is a new before you go there answer your own questions . hear your answers if you choose to stay in this toxic waste life, then you or nobody else can call you re tared because re tared people don't have a choice, but you do.

Answer 5

you don't mention how old you are.... if under the age of 18, call social services...if over the age of 18... one word : MOVE. they will slowly kill the inner you. I should know, been there, done that. I had been verbally abused as a child and was in counselling for about a year. It was my moither, and I couldn't leave, but when i did, my mom denied any wrong doing, such is the actions of a former drunk. It is called "denial." my family thought my mom could do no wrong and it was bad for me, as no one knew this about my mom, except those in my family ( older siblings) that moved out of the family. they didn't want to believe my mom " capable" of abuse. She was! I said i would never have kids, but hubby wanted them, and I went to counselling to correct the behaviors that I may have had, so that I could be a good mom.

Answer 6

My girl no wonder your getting abused look who you decided to share your hopes and dreams with!!! well if you decide to surround yourself with people with an apparent lower level of intelligence, thats exactly what you will hear from them all day. a lower level of e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g!!! stop selling yourself short realize that the only reason that anyone does abuse another person is because they have figured out that they can!!! you have proved that by letting this game go on and on. they have seen a weakness in you and are playing it for all its worth! these people have a name. they are called the"" i am better than you"" group.they dont feel special until they make you feel unvaluable. you can't change them because thats too much crap to go through, you can only outgrow them and run not walk away, so are you grown already??? best wishes lol

Answer 7

How old are you?

If you're still in school and really want to be free of these people, go talk to your guidance councelor and tell them what you said here. If you're grown up, call a women's crisis hotline and ask for advice. Usually these numbers can be found online, in the front of a phonebook, or by using information.

I don't think you really want to be with a felon gangbanger who calls you horrible things, cuz next, it's him hitting you, then someone is gonna get mixed up with alchohol or drugs and someone is going to get really hurt or die.

Answer 8

WOW. Run. Run far and fast and don't stop until you find someone who will never do that to you again. I heard those type of insults for a long time and the only reason it stopped is because we moved. Please break up with the boyfriend and tell the others to shut the heck up. You are special and good and sweet and you are NOT retarded. Don't listen to them and tell someone if they keep doing this. And don't worry there is someone out there who loves you and who thinks you are smart and pretty. And the last thing on his mind is that you are retarded.

Answer 9

I know how you feel. I have been verbally abused for years by my father and others included ex's....You need to stand up for yourself and let them know that you don't need them in your life and don't need them to put you down like that. Just leave them all behind if you really want to and never look back after leaving them. You don't need that and they are the ones that are the scum and the stupid ones not you. You are the good one and should get out asap. You have very good self asteem for asking a question like this and again you need to get away from all of them. You don't need them to bring you down with them.

Answer 10

It's time to get rid of the things (including people) in your life that pulls you down. What doesn't help build, destroys. You deserve more than to be called by such names. No one should ever have to make you feel less than the person that you really are.

It may be hard to start with, but get rid of the baggages. You will find it liberating. Stay strong.

To quote JSP (paraphrased), "Surround yourself with people who support you just the way you are."

Answer 11

If you are not comfortable about something,let go of it. I do not kno why your own mother,best friend and bf would call you names for no reason. But there's a possibility that you're letting them do this to you thats why they keep on calling you names. You must be going through a very hard time now and my advise is to be strong seek help from other people. You mentioned that its hard for you to trust now because of what you're experiencing, but you need to open your door to people who'd love to help you. Do not put a wall around you from people who might make you happy and help you.