I mean, I am a catch. Im smart, funny, good looking, have good morals, a good job, and make good money. Im a nice guy though, and I always wind up being just a "friend". How can I end this stigma without becoming the rude arrogant loser who always gets the girls?
2006-08-30 14:33:03 · 9 answers · asked by Savant 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Who knows?? Many girls ask the same questions about men, I don't think that men and women are really all that different, there are jerks in each sex and for some reason the good ones always seem to be attracted to them. Men love bitchy, needy, women who see them with dollar signs over their heads, and women love men who use them for sex and beat down their confidance. People are stupid, maybe the jerks can move on one side of the planet and we can live on the other.This is probably just a dry spell and you will meet that great girl sooner then you think. Good Luck.
2006-08-30 14:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by CandyCain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) There are no "right girls" as there are no "right guys". There is only the best possible choice, no one is perfect.
2) Two things: a) if you are truly remarkable, the women are intimidated by you OR b) women will enjoy tearing you a new you-know-what if you are totally full of yourself.
3) "Friends" are safe, potential boyfriends are not. Be willing to tell them to get lost, make it unsafe to be "just be friends" -- be willing to walk away and leave them to their own silly fate. Why do many beautiful women go out with aggressive rear-ends? >>> because those types of men are "unsafe". Stupid, but true -- boyfriends are always a risk (so are girlfriends). A silly mental mechanism: A=A=A >>> "unsafe" = risk = boyfriend or girlfriend = love (not factually true, but that is how the mechanism works; AND that IS what dooms relationships before they even start.)
4) Sometimes life just sucks. There are many incredible women out there going through the exact same things: can't find the "right guy". As well as more men besides you and myself.
5) Make yourself a howling success and wealthy, pay attention to your own personal goals, be happy with yourself as an individual. Do your best to not be concerned about what women think about you. If you do these things, you're more likely to get noticed by a woman who will make the first move. (i.e. -- ignore them, but not really them personally so much as ignoring their shortcomings and lack of perception).
6) Love women anyway, despite all of the above. Love them for who they are. Love them for their faults. Love them as acquaintances, friends, or otherwise. Let them be who and what they want to be, even with the mistakes and errors and problems. And don't find fault with being human, with yourself, with other men, and especially with women. This doesn't mean give up on doing your best to get others to make better choices in life, but realize that none of us are perfect -- we all have sins and shortcomings.
7) In all the above, reverse the "men" and "women" roles and give this advice to women too. Because life is a multi-laned highway going in different directions. >>> It works both ways.
2006-08-30 21:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by kevrob8008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Ben I,
Girls go for guys that have self-confidence. The bad boy guys, who are rude and arrogant also have a lot of confidence, so they are irresistible. I'm sorry, but that's just the way it is. You can chose to be alone, or you can at least try it out to see if it works for you.
Also, you need to check out the Tom Leykis radio show to learn more about what you should do. You definitely need to learn a little Leykis-101 to get women in your life. Find out if this show is broadcast in your area. Here's his web site:
http://www.blowmeuptom.com
I hope that this helps you. Good luck and happy hunting.
--Rick
2006-08-30 21:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to give you the best advice a man can get, stop looking for her it will come to you and by the way stop being the nice guy, girls hate that they think you are their friend. Honestly, they want you to be a bad boy. Best of Luck!
2006-08-30 21:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by maury3222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same as me, it's cuz some girls don't appreciate the good guys instead of the fag scum that seem to dominate lol. Just be more than a friend, compliments the eyes, smile etc, go get em tiger lol
2006-08-30 21:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by Franky Tank Runner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some girls are jus blind besides the good girls are the ones that will be there for u and are hard to fing.
it's like that for ladies it's hard finding guys like u.
there should be more guys like u.
2006-08-30 21:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by star_miranda_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor baby.
Go on use the sypathy approach.
Real class act.
Grow up and be a man or haven't you reached puberty yet???
2006-08-30 21:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by Wayne 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
woah! I, like, just asked the same question!! And while that may not comfort you, know that it isn't just you. And if anyone has ANY good advice, help me too!!!!!
2006-08-30 21:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because good girls are hard to find
2006-08-30 21:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by brazilianbeauty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋