Yes if it is and/or other things which you consider important!
2006-08-30 14:31:57 · 49 answers · asked by shafique_khan83 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love and respect, making each laugh and being best friends is very important. Stimulating each other's minds and spirits. But a healthy sex life is just as important, you need to feed each other's bodies, minds, hearts and souls.
2006-08-30 14:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are MANY elements that make up a healthy realtionship! & Sex is one of them! (yes ONE lol!)
It depends on what elements you're looking for in a relationship. It takes A LOT of intestinal fortitude to take this on as it is... since there's sooooo many risks involved! Financial (most obvious to me...), emotional, physical/intimacy/romance (sex) however you want to call it.
I have been told by a friend, he once said "if the sex is bad there is no relationship". To a point this is true. If there's no sex (or one or the other is with holding it from the other) there IS a reason(/problem) for it. And once it's addressed and resolved... BADA BING! LOL!! I think that's where we got the terminology "make up sex" LOL!! & from what I have heard (YES HEARD mind you LOL!) is the best kind of sex!
Sex, just like if a person does or does NOT want to have kids can be a deal breaker in a relationship. One may want it a lot, where as the other may not want it as often.
I think it should naturally fall into place... when a person is dating, it just seems like a lot of pressure if you expect it so early in a relationship. How do you know if your that compatible!? You should get to know the person well (according to what it is exactly you're looking for in someone & a relationship) before it turns physical.
It takes a lot to accept, love a person in many ways! (going back to the financial bit for a moment...) to tell someone "Yes I'll be with you for better or worse... ie- messed up credit... 2.5 kids... unpottytrained dog, and God know what other faults a person may or maynot have.
People spend a lot of time, energy, & emotion in something so important. Why can't love be the same as money!? We all need it, people fight over it, and clamber and do anything for it... but why not love and all it entails!? Talk about being truly RICH!!
I mean why do something half way!? Is it not the point!? To me it's all or nothing!
Sorry if this seems long winded, I hope I got my point across!
To add a lil bit to thirsty mind's answer... yes it's cool you get to that point where sex isn't such a BIG deal in a relationship... BUT there's other sexual ways to express love... not just intercourse. Over time such as that... you're so connected is nice to communicate w/o words... there's a history there! The experiences you go thru TOGETHER is a sexy thing too!
=)
2006-08-30 17:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by tzbug_ybiaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would say IT IS VERY IMPORTANT, Why because so many marriages/relationships end because of it. It dose not make the relationship but it does add to it, Meaning it is like the Desert after a Full Course meal. Sex is so Wonderful when two person are in love with one another the key word LOVE, when this word is taken for granted then sex that that makes you feel good can be destroyed if it is not express right. Now for a male IT WILL ALWAYS BE GOOD TO HIM, But not for that female many times we females get all caught up in the thought of having that special male so we have sex because we say in our minds he's the one, BUT IN MOST CASES it is not the same for the male it is just SEX, something that he needs/wants at the moment. BUT when sex is express between to people that are IN LOVE or have very strong feelings for each other, THIS CAN BE THE BEGINNING OF A THING THAT SHOULD NEVER END. Thanks and Take Care
2006-08-30 14:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by sweettoni37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person(s). Everyone is different. It is definitely an important part but not everything. I'd say on the top of my list before sex would be: trust, respect, love, being able to count on that person when you can't count on anyone else. These are more important. Sex is also important. It's up to you and the other person to talk about it. Find out how they feel. ( Make sure it's how they really feel. Some people tell you one thing and do another.)
2006-08-30 14:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having sex with another person means the difference between friendship and relationship. Sometimes the couple is too tired or other circumstances may come about that will prevent sex, but I would think that most couples partake at least a couple times a year.
Yes, I think that sex is important in the relationship. As well as being about to enjoy each others company, humor, consideration, and love.
2006-08-30 14:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate you ask this question!!! I am 51 a female and have been married forever. Tough question.My husband can not have sex because of the meds he is on currently. When he first went on the meds I understood. Latter I started getting a little upset. I ask him if his hand or mouth were affected by the meds!! Then I realized he had a broken heart and spirit.I was sorry I had ever ask the Question.Our love has developed in ways I didn,t know were possible. I am lucky now we can ,occasionally have sex. Yet from what I have learned about his devotion since sex.Either is okay with me.
2006-08-30 14:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by thirsty mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a very important part of a healthy relationship, I would say 50%. Other very important aspects are, LOVE, communication, empathy, understanding, respect, sharing, trust, showing affection. There are so many, but every relationship is different, some need more than others. I always say......GIVE WHAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO RECEIVE!
2006-08-30 14:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by ..Luna.. *.. ) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a female point of view sex is an expression of love for each other. If I am in love with the man then the sex is a huge deal. It is an extension of the feelings we share. There is nothing so wonderful as sharing intimate relations with the man you love.
However, if there is no love between the man and myself, the sex is terrible. I don't feel the same closeness in body and soul, and cannot put my heart into it. I try and try, but even though the guy enjoys it, I cannot say the same for myself.
2006-08-30 14:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I as a phycologist know that it matters to both parties no matter what. If someones does not feel satisfied with their sexual life with their partner then there might be a misbalance in the relationship. And to add another point a relationship could not me maintained without a problem existing among both parties. Though to answer your question the other factors are more important than the sexual life.
2006-08-30 14:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is an important part, but there are many facets to a relationship. Love, respect, honesty, compatibility, etc. A relationship strictly based on sex wont last. A relationship without sex may not last either. So, I think if balance it all out, it's a healthy relationship.
2006-08-30 14:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by Lady J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋