Are my dad and my school too strict? I go to school in Texas.
My dad was very upset because he had to miss a few hours of work to visit my school to talk to the principal get my in-school suspension reduced from 3 days to 1 day, and to get the 1 day served taken off of my record. However, I had to agree to 10 days of detention, licks (embarrassing!) from the female vice principal (yes they allow it here, I know how lame) who hates me, writing an essay about why what I did was wrong and I am suspended from cheerleading for until my detention is served.
I am also grounded for 3 weeks (2 originally but I got an extra for talking back) and lost my allowance for a month, with extra chores while I am grounded. All I get to keep is computer and phone, so I guess it could be worse. The worst was he screamed at me. All he cares about is missing work. He does not care about me as much as his job and honestly I would have rather just served the whole in school suspension.
2006-08-30 14:27:41 · 29 answers · asked by Lori 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
BTW...I don't have a mom which is why I didn't mention her.
2006-08-30 14:43:56 · update #1
Wow you sound like you did this for attention from your dad. It seems you and your dad have a lot of issues to work out. Next time talk to him about your problems don't go mooning people you can get negative attention from people that you don't need
2006-08-30 14:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by LOST and CONFUSED 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you moon anybody? We live in Texas and I didn't know they could whip the kids. Well they couldn't in our area anyhow. What were you thinking? I thought girls your age were still a little bit shy about showing everyone their buts. Sounds embarrassing to me. Hate to tell you this, but I think you got off really easy. Got to keep your phone and computer?? That would be the two things not to lose. So you have to stay home and do a couple more chores and no allowance? And I'm sure that your dad wasn't just screaming because he was missing work. He was probably wondering why you would do something like that. It must be hard without a mom. Sounds like your dad went to bat for you, getting the suspension reduces. Give him a break. Sounds like he was more than fair.
2006-08-30 22:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by Vicm0322 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are crying out for your dad's attention, but you are choosing a VERY destructive path to do so. Why was showing your a$$ so much of a priority that you would risk losing as much as you did? I can't even believe you still have a computer and a phone! Your father sounds like he overcompensates for the guilt of your not having a mom. He is too soft on you. He had it taken off your record? Maybe he believes that you are going to turn this around and he doesn't want you paying for it in college application priority. In that case, you better give your dad the biggest hug you've ever given him, because HE LOVES YOU MORE THAN YOU LOVE YOURSELF.
So your dad goes to work for selfish reasons? All of your cheerleading, computer, phone and nice clothes are FREE? You are behaving so selfishly and immaturely. I hope you pay your dad back, someday, for the faith he has in you. It is only a good and admirable parent who will parent his child RIGHT, even at the risk of receiving the child's anger.
2006-08-31 16:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by georgia b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all , if your dad didn't care about you - he would not have bothered taking time off of work and going to the school.
It is frustrating when our children don't understand how hard we work to provide for them their needs AND their wants. You also don't understand how insecure jobs can be sometimes. Bosses often let people go over the smallest infractions. You need to have more respect for your parents , appreciate what they do for you and make an effort to follow hate rules. I mean really, was the mooning worth it, funny for a little bit but quite a bit to pay for an irresponsible and juvenile action. As for me , you would have wound up with a black and blue moon.
Missing a few hours of work means missing out on a few hours of pay- it is STRESSFUL for a man who has to provide for his family and make sure and be confident that they have everything they need- all the time- it is a lot of weight on dad's shoulders that the rest of the family often does not appreciate or recognize. You are 15- receive the consequences, tell your dad you are sorry, and MEAN IT and let him know how much you appreciate the work he does to make sure that you are provided for. Then start making some clean and mature choices and stop showing your butt!
2006-08-30 21:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a brat. You mean your dad was mad? I would have been mad, too! You didn't have to moon anyone, and he had to endure the embarrassment of his daughter getting in trouble for something he didn't do, yet will probably be etched into his brain now. Ugh.
You need to apologise. Then, you need to ask him if he would like to go to the park or lunch or whatever you two could do together. You need to tell him that you want to spend time with him. Men are not usually direct like that, even though they would love to spend time with their daughters - sometimes they are a bit shy or hesitant. Esp. with teenagers.
Anyway, I will tell you that when I went to highschool in Northern Cali 10 years ago, a male student mooned everyone from out the classroom window, and his suspension was at least a week or two. So, apparantly schools really don't like that. Wish I could have told you earlier :)
Good luck.
2006-08-30 21:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, they're not being too strict, though I did not know corporal punishment was still allowed in any states. (That I don't agree with.)
You broke a rule, showed an extreme lack of respect, and suffered the consequences. If you did this as an adult, you could lose a job, get a ticket, go to jail, etc. Think twice next time?
So, your dad gets to yell about losing work. Can you imagine his embarrassment when he had to leave work, and sit in front of the principal and talk about your mooning? Come on.
2006-08-30 21:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by Karen? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All you did was show your butt off at school??? LMMFAOROTFF! That's GREAT! I have 2 daughters, (11/14), and to be honest, that's just one of those silly things that teens do. LOL Okay, of course, at school in front of the principal, I'd have to "seem" mad at you, and you'd have to serve your time...but when we got home, I'd probably fix you a cool dinner and sit around laughing with you all night. You being allowed to be HIT, (lickens), at school by someone other than ME would NEVER happen if you were MY kid! Screw that crap. Yeah, I guess you did kind of get the short end of the punishment stick, but it'll be over soon enough. I guess just don't piss off your dad like that again. What the hell about your mom? How did she feel about this? I'd get HER input too, maybe it'll get you a lighter sentence. LOL I still think this is a funny A $ $ story. My girls would never have the courage to pull something like that off...too bad too. Well, just know you have the "OK" from at least ONE parent out there. :)
2006-08-30 21:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Schools (unless private and paid for by your parents) are usually hypocritical and way too strict.
It's okay for them, to hire perverts (not following their own adult rules and being as thorough as they expect everyone else to be)
but God forbid you ever do anything wrong...
The only thing you have to remember is... the greatest lesson you will learn in school is this: Life is based on a prerequisite expectation that says that there is a hierarchy and you are to learn, maintain and respect your place in it until you are able to change it by gain, age, or merit. Until then, you are there to learn that place and all the rest of the crap they teach you only serves to get you to college where you REALLY begin to actually apply real life use of your understanding and exersize your rights of passage.
Once you realize that, it only feels like everyone is against you, and even if they are... They are just stupid and manipulating the purpose of the whole thing because they are jerks... Jerks do that. Most of the school faculty is made up of idiots who were treated poorly and became school employees to torture everyone else to regain some sense of self respect and dignity through abuse and bullying... Believe me, the days of the alturistic concerned good citizen are dead and gone! They are hired as*sholes working for the man!
"No sense in being an as*shole if you can't prove it right?"
Don't worry about it! I did much, much.... much worse and I lived...
2006-08-30 21:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, first of all your dad doesn't necessarily care about the job more than you. You are the reason he cares about his job, because he has to keep his job to take care of you. A lot of men show their "love" by taking care of things rather than being all mushy. All in all I don't think your punishment is that bad. Oh, remember too you are you dad's little girl & he knows how boys think & he surely doesn't want them seeing your bare booty. You get to keep the computer & the phone! Why that's not real grounding, you get to keep in touch still. Our grounding was no phone, no t.v., nothing . . .
2006-08-30 21:35:44 · answer #9 · answered by Steph 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky you get to keep your computer and phone.
Of course your dad would be mad. Think about the lost money that he didn't make because he had to go and help you out. If he didn't care he wouldn't gone down to your school and got your punishment reduced.
The amount he lost from being off of work is the money he normally pays for your phone bill and your internet bill, right?
2006-08-30 21:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by tmweber 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋