Many people stereotype that just because you had a baby or two as a teen, then that means that they are all high school dropouts that never make it to college. How hard was it to raise a baby & go to school @ the same time?
My best friend proved this theory wrong. She had a baby @ age 15 & she's now 27 with her Master's Degree.
2006-08-30 14:08:00 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes. I am a statistic. I had my son 10 days before my 16th birthday. I graduated number 16 out of 243 with honors. It can be done. It was very hard, but I never lost focus of what was number one in my life. That, of course, was my son. Everything I have done since then has been for him and I don't regret one moment of it. I had tons of family support though, which a lot of teen moms don't have. My son's father was not a help, but I was very fortunate to have parents with descent jobs that took care of the both of us. I had him in 10th grade. I have never been on any public assistance. When I graduated from high school, I worked full time, went to school full time, and was a full time mom. It was definitely hard...but worth every moment. He is my only child, so I beat the odds in that way as well...by the time I turned 18 I DIDN'T have another one.
2006-08-30 14:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by BQ1982 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two kids and a couple of college degrees. I had my daughter at the age of 18, fresh outta high school (like 10 days out) and I had a VERY VERY hard pregnancy, but i still managed to graduate in the top 15% of my class.
Now at 23, I have also been helping to raise my wonderful boyfriends son. Four years into it, and I could not imagine my life with out my babies. Solacia and Jayden are my life.
By the age of 26 I will have my masters degree in special education grades K-12. It has been a long road, but my endurance keeps me going.
I am so many things: a mother, a worker, a student and a wifey.
Many people would like to believe that teen mothers can not become anything, but you would be suprised at who was a teen mother.
2006-08-30 21:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by cookies_n_cream0218 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 16 when I had my first child.
I was able to get back to School finish my Junior & Senior year together so that I could be home with my baby.
I did it and graduated High School.
I was lucky because I was living with my b/f and his Parents at that time. My b/f's Mother babysat while I was at School and my b/f was working.
So it can be done. Some Teens though like to use the excuse of a child as a way out of School. I have not yet gone to College because I haven't fully decided on what I want for a degree. I am now 23 and have another son.
2006-08-30 21:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by tigergirl301 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My daughter had a baby before graduating high school. It is not easy to handle being a mother and trying to get educated at the same time. Perhaps it will help you decide what path to take if I tell you what she decided and how well it worked out. As it turned out she decided to marry the guy. That would have been ok except that he got heavily into the drug scene and they eventually devorced. In the meantime she managed to get her diploma and then started working which made it necessary to get child care. That all worked out pretty well and she eventually met another guy who she married and that made it possible for her to attend college and get her degree. she now has a very good job with all benifits. If you are currently pregnant you have many choices you can make. My daughter's mistake was jumping into marriage too soon. If she had made different choices she might have been better off but I would not have such a wonderful grandson who has made us very proud.
2006-08-30 21:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by Tinman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend must have had a lot of help to graduate college i had my son at 19 and i decieded to leave college i think if you are going to have a child you need to be there for that child and when you are working full time to support your baby you dont want to then be in college full time as well and have daycares raise your child i think if you make the choice to have a baby then you need to give up some of the things you want to be home with the baby. the great thing now days is that you can take online course's and still be home with baby and i think that is a great way for young mothers to have the best of both worlds. and if you happen to get pregant in high school you should absolutly not drop out then you are no good to your baby or yourslef.
2006-08-30 21:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by heather d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant at the age of 15, had my child when I was 16, graduated high school a year early by taking extra classes through a local community college, and went right on to nursing scholl and graduated with my bachelors of science in nursing. Don't let me lie, it was terribly hard, but it is possible! And for the record I am still with her dad, we are happily married and have another little girl and are doing wonderful!
2006-08-30 22:29:25 · answer #6 · answered by mlhjerp2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my daughter at 17 and graduated that same year. When I began college she was 1 year old. It was really rough completing assignments with a baby but it is possible, it just takes a lot of patience and motivation. A person can still have a rewarding life even if they had a child at a young age they just have to set goals and work as hard as they can to accomplish them.
2006-08-31 03:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well why would you want kids while still in high school. Kids are great, but I'm pulling my hair out. I don't have to do anything but raise my kids. And I have a good income and a very stable life, and it's still tough. So she must have suffered. But if you are contemplating having children before you finish school I would highly reconsider it. You kids will not get to see you as much as they should, you will have to pay for daycare or rely on your parents, and you don't want that. Just think about having a life first before you give it up.
2006-08-30 21:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by DnBprincess850 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that they say that because as far as the percentages go, it's true. Most people who have children at such a young age aren't equipped to deal with it, and certainly aren't equipped to deal with their life as well. I know my cousin finished High School after having a baby at 16, but it was very hard. Even though she had the support of her parents and the father, it was a struggle. Also, later she married the father and he turned out to be an abuser. I guess you take your chances.
2006-08-30 21:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom had me when she was 17, my sister when she was 20, and my brother when she was 24. She graduated high school and got three associates degrees in the process of all the baby making. It can be done but it takes alot of work.
2006-08-30 21:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋