someone to have sadistic tendencies. okay, whenever i look at a picture of someone(usually a woman), about 5 seconds into vieiwing the picture, i have thoughts of causing them pain.
with plyers, claw hammers, powertools, and other regular tools, nad i mean like breaking bones, pulling teeth out.
it gets so bad that i can't look at the there face anymore, then eventually i have to close the page down, as its mostly people i like, so i kinda feel guilty. it's starting to bother me alot now.
i was abused as a child and teen, but its only recently that i could put a name to it.
it wasn't sexual abuse tho, it was mental and emotional abuse, and it was from my dad.
thats why it doesnt add up for me, as the tendencie seems to be towards women
2006-08-30 13:58:35 · 18 answers · asked by Brutal_Yet_Beautiful 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
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2006-08-30 13:59:06 · update #1
obviously i don't want to be this way, i'd prefer to just enjoy women/girls in a normal natural way
2006-08-30 14:02:17 · update #2
If your mom and/or female guardian was not able to protect you from your abusive father then you feel betrayed by her and therefore by women at large.
It's good to hear that you are figuring it out; and the very fact that it "bothers you enough to close the page" shows that you are not sadistic but human and deeply hurt.
The best thing you could do for yourself is first forgive yourself because you were powerless to the situation; then try to forgive women because your mom/female caregiver probably felt as afraid as you. As you grow stronger, hopefully you will grow to realize that truly weak people (inside) are typically abusive on the outside - it's how they protect themself.
Food for thought!
2006-08-30 14:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Admitting you have an issue is the first step, the second is seeking help. If your an adult most health coverage allows for conseling or other mental health services with a small co-pay. If you are a teen then start with a school conselor or adult you trust and ask them to get you help.
A good psychiatrist or psychologist should be able to help you work through those feelings and gain understanding and control of them, eventually with time and work from you and the doctors you should be able to completly eliminate them as new associations are made in your mind that is more pleasing to you then causing pain.
Abuse can spawn many mental issues when a child is involved, the feeling you have may be from unremembered abuse toward a female that you witnessed at a young age or simply hearing someone like your father refer to women with cruel intentions such as you feel now.
We don't always realize the full impact of the things we say as adults around children that can be misunderstood and cause mental associations later in life that are harmful.
I'm glad you can identify where some of your issues may lie with the abuse you sufferred and I hope you truly get the help you need. If you can't find help look in your local phone book for a crisis hotline (most are 24hrs) and call they can help you and get you assistance as well.
2006-08-30 21:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey there - if you were abused by your Dad in any way then having these feelings is understandable. But you need to get them sorted out as you clearly are not happy with them.
It's weird isn't it that being treated badly by your Dad makes you feel like this toward women but that's sometimes the way it is. It's like how they get people to torture others by torturing them first.
These thoughts are a way for you to channel your feelings into a sort of revenge but in a way where you have control. I wonder what your Mum was like when you were being abused by your Dad. And how did he treat her?
Anyway, though Yahoo Answers is a good place to start you do need to get proper help. Try and get some sort of counselling to talk about your thoughts and feelings - you don't have to tell them everything at first if you feel uncomfortable about admitting stuff. There are lots of help lines about and a lot of them are confidential. Samaritans are excellent as they won't judge you, will be warm and kind and let you talk in your own time. They deal with your kind of worries the whole time. No matter what you tell them, they won't tell anyone about their callers - not even the police (or you can visit or email).
Finally, good luck and try not to worry.
2006-08-31 06:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by Belinda B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the answer above-Your problem is too big for this forum! You can get help though-have you tried to talk to your family doctor,or if you feel you can't do that try contacting The samaritans I,m sure they would be able to point you in the right direction to get the help you need.Just a thought-I know you said it was your dad who mentally abused you-but do you maybe without thinking,partly blame your mam for not stopping it.
2006-08-30 21:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I won't say that it's normal, but considering the things that you've been through in the past, it's just an expected outcome... I'm going to go out on a limb and say maybe you want control because you lacked that when you were younger... maybe your father was like that too or maybe you just want to take out your anger on other women... yeah, you may no agree with that but I read a lot of books (as if that adds to my limited intelligence) and I'm far from a shrink but that seems like the most possible explanation... but, dude, just don't hurt anybody. your thoughts are okay as long as they aren't acted out because you know how it's like to be hurt. hurting sucks. so don't hurt others.
2006-08-30 21:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by misery 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay you need to get help now, there is something wrong with your brain, it is never normal to have these kinds of thoughts, with some psycho- therapy and some medication therapy, you can stop thinking this way..and for real I am not kidding, if I were you I'd go to a therapist and tell him(not a her/ stay away from women for now) what you just told us, and you will get some much needed help.
2006-08-30 21:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by hahaha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
please if you are serious, contact your GP and get psychiatric counselling. You need to have this thought suppressed. Every human being have these thoughts buried down deep. look at the Rwandan genocide when neighbours who have lived together side by side including lawyers and priests started an orgy of killing.
So every human being has it deep down but the fact that you think often about it means that you need professional help.
2006-08-30 21:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by olayinka o 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there's a lot of anger bubbling around inside you (not surprisingly, from what you say). You need to get a referral to a psychologist - get some of those issues put to rest. Good luck.
2006-08-30 21:15:57 · answer #8 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The ideations you are having are disturbing. I recommend seeing a psychiatrist for an evaluation. You need treatment that goes beyond the scope of this forum.
2006-08-30 21:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you're really wanting to punish your mother for not being able to protect you or take you out of the situation.
Go get some help, NOW!
2006-08-31 02:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by honey lugs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋