I scream on the inside when people touch me... if it's a casual pat on the back or a brief touch on the arm, I'm okay with it but anything more than that, I just... I don't know... I just don't like it... I never actually hugged my parents and I'm wondering if that's a factor or if I'm just screwed up in my head... I really hate it when people actually feel concerned about me or show any forms of affection and it freaks me out that I'm actually THINKING about that... it just doesn't seem right...
2006-08-30 13:47:20 · 18 answers · asked by misery 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Oh yeah, and I forgot to mention... i don't see the point of talking to the counselor at my school because i don't see how-- or why-- my "problem" should be resolved... it seems pointless...
2006-08-30 13:55:11 · update #1
I'm like that too. I don't even like to hug my parents or anyone else I'm close to. And I also really hate having people be concerned about me. I don't know that it's normal, but it works for me :)
If it's only ok to be just like everyone else, then we both need some serious therapy. But I don't see why everyone should have to be the same. What's wrong with being different just so long as you're happy, and can function productively in society?
2006-08-30 13:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All right , I will throw a completely different answer in here. I have/had the same problem, its gotten better. I have ADHD for starters. I also have what is called Sensory Integration Dysfunction (often gos with ADD/ADHD). It means my body doesn't process sensroy information the best way. In particular, I am tactilly defensive, what is normal touch feels bad to me at times. HEavy pressure is easier to deal with than light touch. Certain kinds of clothing bothers me. But I also get overly sensitive to people being too close, or touching/hugging me. Knowing why helped. It wasn't psychological for me, it was pysiological (re: more medical badis than psychology basis). It caused psychology problems cause I thought something was "wrong" with me for it. There is also a variance in people's tactile (touch) system so that some love touch and all along a spectrum. Try looking up sensory integration dysfucntion in google. It might fit you, it might not.
2006-08-30 14:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by TheyreComingToTakeMeAwayHaHa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, your child hood probably does play a factor here. However, you notice that something is wrong so you should try to get the help you need to get through it. On the other hand, I don't like being touched either..I mean not even a pat on the back and I grew up in a very affectionate home???? You may just want your "you" space, and there isn't anything wrong with that.
2006-08-30 13:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by wizardburg28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to not want a lot of people to touch you. But your own parents or close friends? I don't know. I'd just talk to a counselor or psychologist about it. It doesn't mean you're a freak or anything, just maybe there is some deeper issue there that you will feel better about if you talk to someone who can help you figure it out.
2006-08-30 13:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by Eric H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people feel the same way you do. I am one of them and so is one of my children. It just means you have a larger area of "personal space" that you like to maintain.
Without knowing more about you, it is hard to say whether this stems from something more or just your personal preference. My son was a preemie baby and I wonder sometimes if that contributes to his desire for more space and dislike of being touched. Hard to say.
If this is bothering you this much, do a bit of your own research (or see a counselor if you really want to, but I bet they tell you this is pretty normal). You can also read studies on body language and learn how to position your body during conversation with others so they are less likely to intrude on your space and so you feel more relaxed.
Good luck!!!
2006-08-30 14:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by hrh_gracee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that to a certain degree. When I would sleep I could not have any other person's skin touching me. Made it very hard when I moved in with my boyfriend!! If you are just not wanting to be touched it could be because the lack of physical contact with your family. If it is because you are afraid of germs then that could be a problem you need to have checked out. It took me a couple months to get over being touched while I sleep and I still don't want to cuddle but I enjoy the closeness with my boyfriend.
2006-08-30 13:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by mlc24_1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No honey, it's not abnormal. Some people are naturally "touchy" and some don't like it. If you grew up with little touching, that probably has a lot to do with how you feel about it now.
You can try to re-program yourself, try to touch other people, let them hug you, but don't force it.
It's not abnormal, but it's not permanent, either. It can be reversed.
2006-08-30 13:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by deb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds alot like the way I feel but I never put into words, I guess. I don't have many people I'm that close with anymore other than two sons. I'm OK with hugging them. I'm too old and messed up for romantic relationships though there have been attempts at it. I can't trust myself to follow through with anything.
I don't if it's anything like yours but that's my situation.
2006-08-30 13:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by Gregg J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not abnormal to feel that way. I for instance can only stand to be touched by my children and significant other. Anyone else and I just want to scream. As for the rest once again unless it is the above mentioned people keep it to yourself.
2006-08-30 13:55:45 · answer #9 · answered by butterfly02012001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you look at it. If something caused it then yeah I'd go for treatment to get help. If it's always been normal for you and you're fine with it.... IT's up to you.
Best of luck
2006-08-30 14:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by Stina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋