My 6yr old play on a softball team with other girls. There is one inpaticular who is always being a bully. She push other children including mine. She call them names. Their coach is not willing to do anything other than telling her to stop. I have told my kid not to talk to her and if this other girl says something mean to just walk away. I have also talk to this other girls mom still no change. Short of leaving the team does any one have any suggestion on how to deal with this child.
2006-08-30 13:44:25 · 19 answers · asked by jagbeeton 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Okay, first of all, the "ignore her and walk away" advice NEVER works. Because it takes like, 20+ incidents before the bully gets tired of it.
Try talking to this girl yourself. Be firm with her, and yell at her if you have to! That should convey the message enough. Hey, if her mother won't tell her off, someone should.
2006-08-30 13:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think the coach should be the one to step up to the plate. It's not your responsiblity to talk to the children and keep them in line. Everyone on of the children should be able to enjoy being a part of the team. My suggestion would be to sit down with the coach and ask him/her if just telling this little girl to stop is working? When you ask a question to someone you are in control of the conversation. Explain to the coach that this behaviour from this child should be put to and end quickly or none of these children will want to be on the team. The coach should be talking to the child's parents about her behaviour and if need be maybe the child should sit out and watch until she can learn to behave properly. It's sad when nothing is done with these children who act out like this, it ruins what all kids just want to be doing at age 6... Having Fun. I Wish I could talk to her coach for you:)
2006-08-30 20:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you may know bullies pick on others because they are jealous, low self esteem. Maybe if your daughter and the other girls on the team try and become her friend, and/or if you and the other parents are that worried and concerned tell the coach, that something must be done, or your girls won't play in the next game. It is a principle, if no one is willing to do anything then, the last and final thing I would say is actually get BOLD in the parents face and tell them. You have to do things for your children, to protect them.
2006-08-30 20:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the board of the softball team and tell the directors. Seems the coach won't take charge and manage his own team. Get the coach kicked off the team and let your husband coach the team. Then kick the snotty brat bully off the team
2006-08-31 10:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by swept away in hopes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant teach your 6 year old to walk away from things she enjoys because other people are rude. if this other child is just being kind of a meaning tell your daughter to avoid her if the girl is being phsyicaly violent or intolerable go above the coach who runs the league? it's extreme for a little bulling but if she is really being intolerable ask to have her removed from your daugthers team but your daughter cant go through her whole life having people kicked off teams and out of classrooms or wherever so teach her to brush name calling off her shoulder and kill her with kindness. after all at 6 years old its not this others girls fault shes a bully its her parents.
2006-08-30 20:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by heather d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that the best and/or only solution would be to go to the head of the organization. It seems you wouldn't be going over anyones head because you've exhausted all avenues but that. Good Luck. I know how hard it is to have a child that's being bullied, just be glad it's not at school. My heart goes out to you and your daughter. By the way I think someone should report "sweetness". It seems she just wanted an excuse to proclaim her hate.
2006-08-31 02:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by skip_2015 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the other parents with kids on the team and ask them their feelings about this, if other parents feel the same way ,you can force the soft ball association to get the harassment to stop
by being a bully the kid is harassing other players..it`s a shame the coach is letting this affect the whole team. if all else fails go to another team with your kid.
2006-08-30 21:02:55 · answer #7 · answered by alleykhad607 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes bullies need a good push back, not saying she should hit her back!
Just keep telling her to ignore her and walk away if she starts to bug her! She should be ok. of course unless this bully beats her up, then talk to this girls parents or some sort of authority!
2006-08-30 20:48:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
~~~ I used to coach little leauge soccar,,,,you should call the person incharge of the orginazain and let them know what is going on and let them know you have tried to talk to the coach about the situation and he does nothing about it, Its not right that little kids who want to learn and play are being bullied,,,the bullie is the one who needs to transferd to a different team,,,,not your child or any other child. At this age it is suppose to be about learning the fundimentals of the game and learning team work.
2006-08-30 20:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by ~~Penny~~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a parent who will address the child that is having trouble too. I simply have told other children (if doing something inapropriate) that what they have done with my child is not okay, and if they can't be nice (or behave) they won't be allowed to play with my child. Ushually it works for me. You could go above the coaches head and report to his/her boss the situation also.
Good Luck
2006-08-31 13:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋