ok ppl, me and my dad are ALWAYS fighting about the stupidest reasons like him not likeing my friends and school mainly...its really depressing how we cant get alone! i really wanna make peace with him...but i dont know what to do because for one i love my friends and for two i really do try at school...i just started another years heres hopeing it will be a good one.
But im still here to hear what you think i should do about this problem...WHAT SHOULD I DO!?
2006-08-30 13:34:15 · 7 answers · asked by Pretty Smiles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was raised by my father and I understand the arguing part of it. All I can tell you is... the older I get the smarter my dad gets.
2006-08-30 13:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by stand_nxt2_my_fire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad and I were the same way. i learned that i had to do what i felt was right. WHen i did things that i knew would make him happy, i was depressed for days or weeks. I felt as though I had done wrong by my self. sometimes i gave, but not on things that really mattered. you may want to try and find out what is going on-it might be that he is depressed seeing you grow up and wants more time together with you. i lost my dad almost a year ago, and i never asked. something i will regret because now i don't have the chance. good luck
2006-08-30 20:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by heaven help me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is it that he doesn't like about your friends? And what's wrong with school? Well, if I were you, the first thing I'd do is try to see everything from his point of view with a completely clear mind (free of any bias). When you've understood everything, look at all the same things how you see it and see if you can balance things out. You can get someone you're very close to to help you out, like your best friend or something. Did you get along with your Dad very well earlier on? If so, then hopefully you should be able to sit down and have chat with him. You just have to keep the mood calm and make sure you don't frustrate yourselves. That way, you might be able to iron things out.
I'm not sure if I've helped much, but you can contact me if you want.
2006-08-30 20:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Skitch_™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember -- he is probably just trying to protect you from making many of the mistakes he made at your age. Try to benefit from that. It may take a lot of work to learn how to put your own reactions aside and just listen to him and try to understand the important experiences he is trying to pass on to you.
You are in a very tough stage in life right now, as your own self-identity is forming more completely and you want to assert who YOU are rather than be who someone ELSE wnats you to be. But remember, your parents went through that too -- they've been beat up by the world and know how nasty it can get out there. They know how decisions can come out with bad consequences that you never intended, even though your initial intent was good. They are probably just trying to protect you against doing permanent harm to your future, but don't quite have the words to express to you what they see.
Sometimes parents won't like some of your friends, because they knew other people like them in some way and didn't like how those people turned out. You need to either listen to and accept your folks advice about this, or at least listen to it and figure out where it is wrong and discuss that with them. Just remember that they love you (even though it sometimes doesn't seem like it) and are trying to protect you. They still want you to be YOU, but they want you to understand the ramifications of the choices you make.
2006-08-30 20:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mustela Frenata 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation. I am 15 and my mom passed away and it has been rough. I mean we usually get along well except for well let's just say I did something stupid at school and am in trouble. But what gets me is he cares more about work than me.
Maybe just tell him how you feel or write a letter. I know it's hard I sometimes get so embarrassed when I try to say what I am really feeling. Good luck!
2006-08-30 21:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lori 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dads has a different way of raising their kids. he may not like your friends at school coz maybe he had seen something that he can relate when he was at your age. true enough its depressing. my dad is my favorite, everytime we fought on something, i make sure that i listen to his point and he would listen to mine so we can compromise. i know this is quite hard, yet there is no harm in trying. u never know. g'luck girl!
2006-08-30 20:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by yfort 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't fighting with your Dad disrespectful? Show respect for him, keep doing your best in school and he will probably come around. He needs to see, that you are responsible, maybe when he sees this, he will trust your taste in friends.
2006-08-30 20:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋