Uncle A wants to make a rather large party with fifty-sixty ppl (inlaws, friends, other relatives etc) for my grandfathers bday (70). Now, with only the children+grandchildren, its 20 people. The other 30-40 people are mostly people that aren't even friendly or know my grandfather and the other three children. Some of them my grandfather dislikes greatly. Even though thats what Uncle A wants to do and he doesn't want to change it. The four children (of my g-father) would split the cost, but he doesn't want to listen to any suggestions and wants to invite all these "strangers". The price would end up being $100 a head, which is rather pricy, and my family and my other uncle's family would have to make travel expenses to go to a party with people we don't know that we're paying for... So we're not going but Uncle A is angry I believe because we don't want anything to do with that. He was also a real jerk on the phone. Let me also include that during the week of the party, there's also
2006-08-30 13:28:04 · 6 answers · asked by Bob S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Xmas, bdays of myself and my sister.... What should be done to make amends?
2006-08-30 13:29:06 · update #1
Grow up? You don't know the crowd that's going to be at this thing. They're a rowdy bunch. I don't like them and never will, and neither does my grandfather. It'll be for 60 people and somehow 100+ people will show up, and the cost will be over the expected prices, which is so much to begin with, meaning he's lying about the actual cost since we've searched for venues and catering and such for my sisters wedding a year ago, to provide entertainment. I've had some of them come for a visit, just a 4 person family and 15 other relatives end up dropping by... more than once. It's ridiculous. Basically, the families don't spend much time together as it is, and doing a party like that where we are with "other people" is worthless. My family agrees with this, as does my other uncle. Previously it was discussed that we would do something by ourselves.
2006-08-30 13:56:30 · update #2
Unless it's a 'Surprise B-Day Party' ... Grandpa should approve the invatation list ... haven't you heard that really old song, "It's my party and I'll cry if I want to"??? Well, if it's his party he should be the invitor.
Your Dad doesn't have to pay if he's not satisfied ... you all can simply go before or after this party and celebrate with your grandfather if that's what you wish to do (and can afford).
2006-09-01 03:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that all parties involved should get together with your Uncle and really explain why everyone feels the way they do... Let him know that you guys know, he means well and wants to do something big for him. But somehow try to make him understand that the party is for your grandfather and not him and that your grandfather prefers it, to just be family... He is 70 years old, he should be able to enjoy the party and not be agitated with people that he does not know or dislikes....
Also, show him on paper how costly the party will be... He needs to understand people are on budgets... If he doesn't take anything into consideration, just let him know you love him, but that you guys can't be part of it...
You can always have a little dinner with your grandfather at your own time.../
GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!
2006-08-30 13:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If grandfather and the other family members don't like the other people that Uncle A wants to invite, the other family members can get together and tell him they refuse to split the cost of that and that all they will do is for family or particular friends of grandfather.
we had this issue last year for Mom and Dads 50th anniversary. One sister wanted alcohol served while several others didn't agree. Finally a compromise was met in that it was a cash bar and didn't serve "hard" alcohol.
2006-08-30 13:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell uncle a ,that the party is for grampa`s family and grampa`s friends. only, not people that uncle a ,is friend with [grampa should be making the choice of who is invited] if uncle a keeps it
up have every body call , and say they can`t make it ..
have your own party for grampa and the other people who have b-days that month... it`s the only way [ don`t pay uncle a anything if you are not going to his party].
2006-08-30 13:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by alleykhad607 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The party is for your grandfather, it is not a party about you. Grow up and go for petes sake.Its just money and i would hope your Grandfather is more important to you than that!!
2006-08-30 13:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by ricksliss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't go yourself and have gramp's over to your place for the type of thing HE wants for HIS b-day. uncle A can just get over it.
2006-08-30 13:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋