how do you get your children to help you with your house work that you can no longer do?

Question

i had brain and neck surgury about 5 months ago and now i have vertigo and balance trouble and need help

Answer 1

Your children should have been doing these tasks as a part of daily life. But now, you will have to ease them into it with lots of patience, remember they are used to you doing it all.

You must relate to them that this is something that has to get done and they are the ones that will do it. Sounds harsh, I know, but, unspoiling children is so much harder than spoiling them and doing everything for them.
Over here things run on a timetable and kids are great for doing washer to dryer, folding, putting away (exactly where they go), running vacuum, etc, etc --
Empower your kids, it will be so good for them. Be firm, stay firm. Kids with responsibilities function better and handle life situations better. Good Luck and speedy recovery.

Answer 2

Hello. I wish you a speedy recovery and lots of assistance and support.

How old are your children? You need to be clear about your expectations - what tasks need doing and how shall they be done. If your children are over 10 and still live at home, I'd say there's no choice in the matter about doing this housework. The family must function as a unit and they must help the family in this hard time. Period.

If they don't live at home anymore, you need to again be very specific about what help you need and ask when they can do it or if they can help pay to have someone do it.

Hopefully, if they're already grown, you set a good example and raised decent kids. If they're still at home, now is the time they learn what it means to be put your family first, the time to see how truly important they are to the family's healthy functioning.

And if they have trouble getting with the program, I'd suggest only letting them on tv/computer/instant messaging - whatever their passions are - after the work is done.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Ask them nicely and set up a rewards system, like allowance. Keep track of the work they do and tell them once they've completed the work, you will get them ice cream, money, or take them somewhere special. That way you skip the arguing completely because there is nothing for them to argue about. Everyone is happy! Good luck & feel better!

Answer 4

What a question! Just tell them you can't do it for a while and that they need to do it for you because you can't afford to hire someone to do it. Make a list of things they need to do and make a schedule so that they won't fight about whose turn it is to clean the toilet or do the dishes.

And say thank you regularly.

Answer 5

Short of bribes, try taking priviliges away

Answer 6

no rewards...just tell them to help out around the house
if they don't, then punish them
that's how my parents got me to help out, and in my teenage years i would feel guilty if i didn't help out

Answer 7

explain to them the serious nature ..and how important it would be to help out....trust me they'll be happy to help...good luck on your recovery