confused?? please give me your honest advice, thanks.?
Please help me understand these confusing signals.??
Ok this girl i like sent me and email, replying to mine on asking her how she felt about me..heres what it said
hey,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
Now, shes 13, and I'm 15. She used to be all over me, but then backed off. Her and her mom are really close, and her mom told me she want me to date her daughter, she said that she is just really scared of ruining the friendship. Now based on this email, do you think she is just scared, or do you think she is letting me down easy?
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Now, my question is this. She mad it very clear, she want to be no more than friends. Is that because she is scared, or because she doesnt see me like that, because she states both in the email. If she does still like me, what should i do withouth smuthering her?
2006-08-30 12:27:58 · 15 answers · asked by robinson z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-08-30 12:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 13, she is young, she is confused and she is pretending to be mature. Well you have one good thing on your side, her mom likes you, not much guys can say that. Do not smuther her, but it seems to me like something changed somewhere. She was crazy about you and then backed off, what is that about? Did someone tell her something, say like her mom? It's possible her mother told her not to come on so strong. If she is afraid of the transition from friend to personal, then you need to reassure her that even if you two don't work out as boyfriend/girlfriend you will always remain best friends and nothing can change that.
2006-08-30 19:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think i cant tell you if shes scared or not, only she can tell. but if she wants to be just friends, well listen to her cause thats what she needs right now, not you making a move on her. she might need time, who knows but her? still it sounds like your a good friend to her, and the times might change you or she might feel differently. still wait and see, just keep on being the good friend that you are. i hate to sound cheesy but if you like her you'll wait for her and when she's ready, well u just might have ur chance.
2006-08-30 19:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by andria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because she's only 13 and doesn't want to be tied down with a boyfriend? Either way, she is saying she doesn't want to be more than friends, so let it go.
2006-08-30 19:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want to ruin the friendship and she doesn't want to be with you as more than friends, it's pretty clear. The reason really doesn't matter that much. She dumped you, you should move on.
2006-08-30 19:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by interpreters_are_hot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her mother, it's best to that when they have a close relationship and then when her mom gets the dish on how she feels about you. just go with the flow. You can't force something to fit in a place when it's not meant to be there.
2006-08-30 19:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just not ready. But the moment you move on with another girl, she would want you. Believe me. Happens all the time.
It's just too bad that you have to lose her (when you're with someone else) to win her (for you to get her attention).
2006-08-30 19:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by Wondering myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever her reasons are, she has made it clear that she wants you to back off. She sounds too young & too immature to be thinking about relationships now anyway. Find someone else!!
2006-08-30 19:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lorrie A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is always more important than friends. But...you are young. Don't worry about it. Just be her friend and maybe things will eventually progress from there.
2006-08-30 19:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by trovanhawk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends mayb she still likes u but doesn't want to get hurt so u should try asking her in person if u two got close she probably just wants to be friends and mayb even for the same reason she doesn't want ya'll to feel weird and is scared of wat might happen.
you should really try talking to her in person good luck!!!
2006-08-30 19:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by star_miranda_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she stills wants you but you keep putting her back so she finally realizes you don't like her (so your say) if you are real friends that shouldn't come between you but if you don't talk soon it's ruin your relationship anyway
2006-08-30 19:33:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋