i am 145 lbs. and 5'6 inches...?

Question

i want to get a boyfriend but im shy around boys and dont know how to talk to them.. also, i want to get thinner and lose some weight but i dont know how. i would like to play a sport like tennis. how do i talk to guys and get a boyfriend and how do i lose weight and get skinnier? thanx!

Answer 1

If you want to get skinnier make sure you do it for yourself and not because you want to impress other people.

Answer 2

At 5'6 and 145 lbs. you are at a normal BMI level - weight and height ratio. Don't let the toothpick thin media effect how thin you think you should be. If you feel uncomfortable with your body, focus more on getting into shape. Try weight lifting or as you mentioned some type of sport. Tennis would be great for both, weight loss and fat loss- it's also a great cardio exercise. You could also try racket ball, volleyball or basket ball. All require a lot of moving and endurance. All are great sports for getting into shape. As far as finding a boyfriend, don't focus so much on that, focus more on becoming happy within yourself and the rest will come.

Answer 3

The general guidelines for height/weight ratio is 100 pounds for the first 5 feet and 5 pounds for every inch over 5 feet. This means you should weigh 130 pounds, so you are not far off. There is so secret to losing weight. Cut your caloric intake to 1200 a day consisting primarily of protein, fresh fruits and vegetable and exercise 3-5 times a week (anything that raises your heart rate) and you will drop you weight within 3 months . When you lose the weight you will become more confident and things will fall into place. Be patient.

Answer 4

I agree with whoever said that if you want to lose weight, do it for yourself not for some future boyfriend. At 5'6" and 145lbs you probably aren't over weight. I would just incorporate a little but of cardio a few times a week (30 mins at least) and maybe some light strength training to sculpt. Try pilates or something that won't bulk you up.

As far as the guys are concerned...they're easy. They all like attention so all you have to do is get a little self confidence. Try meeting new people (women as well) and just strengthen your social circle. The more people you know, the easier it'll be to meet guys. You're going to want to be friends with you ever you date anyhow right?

Good luck hon and remember...Confidence can go a long ways. It can make up for those 5 vanity pounds you want to lose!

Answer 5

Allisha, If you want a guy and think he will only be interested in you if you are thinner, then what on earth makes you think you are going to get something decent? You have a beautiful physic I don't see where you have to lose weight in the least! I'm 5'3" and 1/2 and I'm 155. I don't feel fat at all. My goodness, you need to have someone who loves you for who you are. Besides you wind up with someone who only wants rail thin women-warning-they are superficial type of men! Egomaniacs are going to be interested in you for a short period of time. They must always feed the bottomless pit of EGO and it is never satisfied EVER! The closer you come to finding a real person is the person who will always accept you for who you are and never want any changes from you. Take some advice from an older women who has been around the block a time or two. Always be who you are! Don't change for anyone but just yourself or your in for a big disappointment!

Answer 6

Diet and exercise will make you lose weight, become more flexible and healthier. Your weight is at the 53rd percentile which is close to normal weight at a BMI of 23.4.Do not consider that losing weight is the key to romance, though.

Actually, you will find a boyfriend who is more likely to be faithful to you and to love you for yourself rather than to use your body if you look for a guy with brains. Spend your time studying and become an honors student. Do not even worry about your popularity with boys. Your education is the key to making you attractive for more than just your body. Plan to get a master's degree so you may be well-educated and successful. Look for guys that are interested in math and science.

Once you find a guy that you like, give the romance a lot of time. The guy who studies is likely shy too. Do not be forward, just give it time. You will never regret doing this. Although it may seem like a great idea now just to lose some weight, get a boyfriend and participate in dating and all that goes with it, you may find that it brings you momentary happiness but ultimately will give you a lot of grief.

Do consider my advice carefully. It comes from my mother.

Answer 7

Those are two separate issues babe.

To get a guy, maybe you can join some clubs, go to a bar with friends, or try online dating. BTW: I think you will really benefit by joining toastmasters club because you get chance to conquer shyness and speak up in public. You may meet some decent guys there too.

To lose weight, watch out your diet and workout at least 45 min a day and three times a week. Working out will make you feel happy and confident (even with out a guy).

Good luck.

Answer 8

Just talk to a guy your intrested an talk
to them more an more an more.

It works.

Every Guy i ever had a boyfriend
with
I had talked with them A LOT before
i went out with them,

Just be Confident. Dont be self constious

An dont be shy. Ask them stuff about
them self
then make a convo about that
for exsample
have you even been to the beach?
"yeah"
"omg. last time i went........"

like that.

Good Luck. Play
TenniS if you want to!
You will prob
loose weight.

Answer 9

You've answered your own question. Start playing tennis -- the exercise will help you lose weight, you'll find you have a topic of conversation to share with others, and you'll meet boys who play tennis and are looking for partners!

Good luck, even though I don't really think you'll need it.

Answer 10

You should worry about your weight for the sake of your health. Not to get a bf. The most important thing is to be yourself because the last thing you want is for someone to like you for something you're not.