wanna know how to get past the unattractivness and focus on the good person?

Question

i wanna know how to get past the not being attracted to a guy and focus on the good person cuz good looks don't matter if someone is treating u bad. my boyfriend is so sweet and i like him but at times i feel myself pulling away. how do i look past his unattractive looks.

he is also too lovey dovey and he gets mad when i tell him to calm that down how do i go about handling that also?

Answer 1

focus on the things that you do like about him. it is natural to be attracted to attractive guys and if you get tired of your boyfriend and find some1 with good looks and a good personality then i think you should go for it

Answer 2

Take a few minutes to focus on his least attractive features and try looking at them as things that make him unique and maybe even positive. If he has a receding hairline, that just gives you more forehead to love. The same with his belly if he's overweight. If he has a crooked nose, it can be cute or distinguished depending on the face. If he has scars, think about how he got them. Surviving a bad accident or vicious fight could make him a hero in your eyes. Try kissing all his worst parts and appreciate how they are special parts of him too.

You really do need to look at why you're so determined to stay with a guy you're not attracted to tho. Love usually makes people blind to that kind of stuff. Have you been treated badly by goodlooking guys or is your selfesteem too low to consider them as possibilities? Don't stress yourself too much over it. Eventually, you'll most likely get less shallow or your standards will get low enough to find and keep a good man.

Answer 3

You say that ‘good looks’ don’t matter, yet after reading your previous questions, they obviously do matter to you!!!
“I don't find him attractive he really isn't my type at all!… I do want to be with him i'm just not attracted to him… I wanna know how to get past the looks and focus on the good person”
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Beauty' they say 'is in the eyes of the beholder',
and how 'beauty is only skin deep'!
'Looks' they say 'can be deceiving'...
so 'never judge a book by its cover!'
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I speak of a 'beauty' which comes deep from within,
and touches the very core of the heart.
It is beauty you feel, rather than see,
and it is felt from the 'heart'... not the hands!

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From reading your previous questions, I don’t think ‘looks’ are what you should be focusing your concerns on… You have mentioned a few times about him cheating on you.

Sort out the ‘trust’ factor, because if he is cheating on you, and can’t be trusted, you shouldn’t be in a relationship with him, no matter what he looks like!!!

Answer 4

You can't, and thats the sad truth. Trying to 'get past' his unattractiveness isn't fair to him. You're really doing him a disservice by forcing yourself to have feelings for him - he could be out spending his time finding someone who thinks that he has everything they could possibly want. Someone out there in the world will find him attractive. So, let him go and try to find someone that makes you happy in all aspects. And give him that same chance. But, like I said, don't stay together just because he is nice to you.

Answer 5

its what is in the heart that matters. Its is how he treats you that matters. maybe you both need to do things together more often, that will keep him from being a pest and he wont have a lot of time to be overly lovey dovey.

Answer 6

Try to focus on his good features

Answer 7

attraction is a very important part of being with someone, you can't pretend.. this person is not for you. sorry but its the truth

Answer 8

you cant judge a book by its cover,what you need is whats in the heart,if your with him now it may be a reason to stay,he thinks hes in heaven with you

Answer 9

wear a blindfold

Answer 10

bag over head?