heartache...?

Question

my baby kitty died 4 months ago. he was my only family besides my mom. i'm so devastated, i feel like part of me died with him. i raised him and bottle fed him since he was a couple of days old. he was with me though everything growing up. i feel like after he died my youth went with him, that whole mentality that "nothing bad will ever happen to me". it kills me to go home and not have him waiting for me. or every time i cry he'd jump up on my lap and kiss my face. i miss him sooo much. my heart and soul is dying without him. i feel like my son died and even now i see him everywhere, standing in the window or sleeping on my couch..i think about him constantly. i've been thinking about getting a kitten to ease the heartache, but i'm always at work when the humane society is open, by the time i get off it's already closed. i wish my partner would surprise me with a kitten, but i know it's silly of me to have expectations. next month i'll also be in school. would this be fair to a kitten

would this be fair to a young kitten since i'll be working and going to school? i don't even have the time during the day to go adopt one, should i even think about getting one? i'm so depressed and miserable without a baby to take care of :(( what should i do? should i just not get a cat? maybe i can get a turtle or something. i miss my baby so much. rip iris :(

my partner has a quaker parrot, and i love her to death. we don't live together though, and it's not the same as having my own "kid" ya know?

Answer 1

I'm so sorry about your kitty! It's terrible to lose a friend, including (especially?) the furry ones.

I have 2 cats, both of whom I adopted when I was in your same situation -- working plus going to school. It was very, very tough on the cats, though we survived. You know from your other kitty that cats are very sociable animals, very much attached to the people with whom they live. If you're not home much, the cat will be lonely, and when you get home, he is going to demand your attention. You may be too tired. You may need to study for an exam or write a paper or finish a project. The cat's not going to understand this. And you know how cats are -- they can tell, when they really have your attention and when you're trying to take shortcuts.

If you're on a tight budget, as many students are, then money might also be a factor. Daily maintenance of a cat is not much at all, but then there may be vet bills.

Also, if you're moving (dorms? apartments?), this might be difficult for the cat. (Some cats do cope with moving better than others, though.) And it's harder on you too -- harder to find living spaces that accept cats, and then there's the worry of how your cat will like moving from place to place.

If you can wait, I recommend waiting and giving yourself a wonderful graduation gift -- a fuzzy, purring one! Until then, consider catsitting, fostering a cat now and then for shelters, volunteering with an organization that helps rescue cats or cares for alley cats. These are great ways to be with cats and to help them. Who knows, you may end up meeting the perfect cat to come and live with you after all.

Good luck with your decision!

Answer 2

I'm so sorry for your loss:( I dread losing either of my kitties.

I don't think there's anything wrong with getting another cat. But since you're going to be starting school soon, you may want to consider adopting an older cat. Then you wouldn't have to worry about the kitten being monitored while you're away. Adult cats rarely find good homes because everyone wants kittens. That's why I love adopting adults. Our male was about 2 when we adopted him last year, and he's been the best cat! We adopted a 3 year old female last week, and she's been very well behaved and sweet.

Answer 3

luckily i have never had to go through this, but if i lost my kitten, i would never get over it completely. you will probably never forget her or really let go completely. i have a friend who i cruised on a boat with and she forgot to take the litterbox of the transum (back of the boat) and it was really rough and her cat fell in the water. she never saw it again. now she has a new cat named Oreo, who she loves. also, i am in middle school, and i got my kitten a little before 6th grade started. i see her a lot and she always looks for me whenever i get home. if you are in high school, i would not get a kitten. were will it go when you go off to college? get a cat when you are settled down. in the meantime, try to remember and think if your kitten ever cried out for something and you didn't give it to him/her. you sound like a very caring person and i doubt that your kitten could have had a better life anywhere else.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry about your loss. People without pets just don't understand how you can become so attached to your pet, but they actually are your family.

If you can afford it and take care of cleaning a litter box every day, 2 cats would keep each other company when you are gone for long periods of time. I have 2 that share a very large litter pan which wasn't a litter box but a large shallow plastic storage container but I still have to clean it every day. They have access to dry food and water around the clock and I give them wet food in the morning. It works well.

Again, I am sorry about your loss. My heart goes out to you.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this.

I think that if you want to get a new kitty, and if you spend a lot of time with him/her when you ARE home, the cat will be fine while you are at school and work. Many cat owners do work and/or go to school, and the cats manage, although many are really glad once we get back!

You have a lot of love to give, and I think a new cat won't totally erase the loss of your dear one, but it will be a nice new adventure of friendship!

Answer 6

That is exactly what Cats, kittens, puppies, and dogs are for. Pets are the best kinds of things to keep humans company, they never ask for anything but for a little bit of your attention. They are always happy to see you and love to keep you company. Open your home up to a couple of cats or kittens. They need you just as much as you need them.

Answer 7

Good thing about a kitty or a cat is that they are very indpendant and don't need much care. I mean if you leave them home alone they aren't going to bark like a dog or whine, Make sure it has plenty of food and water and toys to play with. Then when you get home have cuddle time.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

losing a pet is like losing a member of your family,and the best remedy is to get another, but if your not going to have time for it then it wont be fair to the animal, unless you get two so when your not home they have each other