Today, i told my boyfriend then i have a lump underneath my arm, it hurts and it won't go away. Its happened on and off for a year, and I finally told him... He's really worried that i have breast cancer or somthing and he thinks I should get it checked out. He won't stop bugging me about, but hes worried because his grandpa died from it. I hate doctors so i told him i'm not going to get it checked. He won't stop bugging me he said till i get it checked... How can i make him believe that im ok... and i'm sure i don't have cancer...??? because i aint steppin a foot in that docs. office. But i understand why he's worried....
2006-08-30 11:35:29 · 28 answers · asked by Skye 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please read this story very carefully...
Pam, a 23 year old woman, discovered a lump under her arm in April. She ignored it for a while. It got bigger. She finally went to her doctor who determined it was an enlarged lymph node. They biopsied it. It came back as malignant melanoma (from a spot on her back that was a cancerous mole). It had spread from her back. She had the node removed. They thought it was okay. She started to feel sick a month later. She went to her doctor (reluctantly) in June. Her doctor did blood work and determined that she had a high white blood count. they did further tests. The melanoma (again which started as an undetected skin cancer) had spread to her liver. They did chemo and radiation. Pam passed away two weeks after her 24th birthday... it was only September...
If Pam had gotten that node checked earlier she may still be alive today. She was one of my best friends and I will never ever forget her.
Please, learn from this....
2006-08-30 11:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by cyndi71mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all theres no damn way you know for a fact that its not a cancer or a tumor you need to go see a doctor..... it could be very serious...besides how do you think your bf will feel if you die becausee you didn't want some married old guy to look underneath your arm to tell you to get a cat scan then if necessary get it treated....but hey he's only worried to death for you and wants you to be ok...so no big deal if you put him in unnecessary stress all day everyday because you dont want to go to the doctor.... thats your choice!!!!
2006-08-30 11:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by E R I C K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your boyfriend has reason to be concerned -- whether or not it is cancer it does not sound like a good situation. You really really need to get it checked out at the doctor's office, and soon. If they catch something, the earlier they catch it the better. If you are afraid of the doctor's office, understand that a lot of people (including me) have the same fear that you do. But you need to be brave and get it looked at for your boyfriend's sake and yours.
2006-08-30 11:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get it checked. Breast cancer is very dangerous and you are stupid if you think you are immune. Famous last words, " it is not going to happen to me." Wake up. You obviously do not care for him or yourself at all. He cares for you but you do not care for him. Stop being a dumb @ss and get it checked. The mammogram is not that bad, and it is not a typical doctors office. Get it done. If you do not, than you will probably die a horrible death. You must be very young if you think like that. I pity you. It runs in my family and I get checked twice a year when I turned 18. I know it is young but I do not want to die like that. You are a selfish little girl. Even if you are an older women but you are immature. Get it checked, or die.
2006-08-30 11:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by gin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though you dont like doctors, I have to agree with your boyfriend. Today, any kind of lump that appears and disappears for a year can be dangerous. If I were you, I would quickly get it checked out to make sure that it wasn't.
2006-08-30 11:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by mooglie8895 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds to me like you have an inflamed lymphoid, which in of itself is not life threatening; however, I HIGHLY recommend that you do go to the doctors just for verification. Your boyfriend won't stop bugging you because he CARES for you, and probably wants you around for a long time. If you won't go to the doctors for your own sake, at least think about going for his.
2006-08-30 11:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by Roy W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is definitely something you need to get checked. It may not be cancer just a cyst. But you could have a lot of future complications if you don't have it checked. For your boyfriends piece of mind and for your own, get it checked out.
2006-08-30 11:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by meggiek97 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you frightened about your relationship fairly or in basic terms issues mostly? If i turned right into a guy and my woman changed into consistently asking/demanding about the state of our relationship, i ought to certainly get aggravated. when you're in basic terms lower than pressure out mostly and difficulty plenty, then i imagine it relies upon on the guy if he cares or not. Why do not you ask him?
2016-11-23 15:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a cyst. Those can kill if left untreated. Breast cancer can kill, too. I would say that you need to go to the doctor, regardless of how uncomfortable it might be.
2006-08-30 11:42:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mindy, you are being very foolish. Have the lump checked out. Your BF only wants you to be around and healthy.
2006-08-30 11:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by rilindy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋