How do my husband and I talk to his parents about going to an assisted living home?

Question

We are worried about them because their health is getting worse and we live so far away but we're all they have. They just need some assistance on a daily basis but we don't want them to feel as if we're trying to take their independence away entirely.

Answer 1

If they're still mostly independent maybe you can find a program where someone will check in on them every day and maybe do some light cleaning or cooking. It would certainly be a lot less than moving them to a home. If you really think a home is necessary, there are many out there that are really very nice with very social atmospheres for the residents. Involve them in the decision--take them to a few places to see how they like it.

Answer 2

My mom is currently looking for a new place to live. Independent living for now, but a place that also has assisted living. The new places are great. It's a hard thing to talk to them about, but if you're honest, hopefully they'll understand that you're trying to take care of them as they took care of you. Having them move in with you could be very discouraging to them. Why take away independence? We're called the sandwich generation and it's not easy. Good luck.

Answer 3

You might suggest that they move closer to you. That you want to be able to spend more time with them. If that goes well, when looking for a place to live, suggest that they look at a senior community. Several senior communities have assisted living that they could move into later.
What ever you do remember when talking to them to let them know that you love them and are concerned.

Answer 4

You tell them that you want them to live with you and you will care for them...I am sure that is what you meant. A son knows his dities are to care for his family jusdt like they took care of him all his life.

Answer 5

u don't. your both adults, if you want to go to an old folk's home then go.