I have been with my wife for 5-6 years.
My mother thinks that my in-laws are now HER family too.
She tries to go to my brother-in-laws soccer games and wants to be invited to dinner when I go to my in-laws house.
She has even asked if she could call my wife’s mother to talk about getting everyone together.
My mother is not married, has no boyfriend, and has minimal friends.
Her side of the family lives 2 hours away so she doesn’t see them that much.
We don’t have children yet, but as soon as we do should we expect our families to mingle all of the time?
My mother believes that this is how it will be, but when I was a kid she never had her or my father's family around each other.
I wish to keep my mother away from my in-laws since she has talked badly about them and has been rude to them in the past.
Is this normal behavior?
2006-08-30 11:20:21 · 9 answers · asked by HappyHippo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
wow... wish my mom can do that..
2006-08-30 11:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by AzNgUrL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your mom a break - she's obviously quite lonely, and has decided that this could be some "family" that she can safely claim for her own. And...in many ways they are.
My husband and I have become pretty good friends with my daughters' in-laws and invite them to share Christmas Eve, Fathers/Mother's day, birthday parties, etc. all the time. It's alot better than trying to divide the time between us and them for holidays. Their in-laws don't really have many friends, and love sharing our parties with us - and I entertain quite alot. As a matter of fact, we're all going to the American Idol concert tonight together!
2006-08-30 11:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by suzieq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously lonely. Cut her some slack.
Invite her to bigger occasions, where she'll have more opportunity to talk to different people (mingle, of sorts).
You might encourage her to get active in a group around some of her interests. Women scrapbook, take photos, go to plays/movies... all in groups. Have her find something like that.
2006-08-30 11:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by Jim I 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother sounds like she is very lonley. Try to include her sometimes, but you don't have to include her everytime you go to your in-laws. You can hope she will get a boyfriend at some point and she will have less time on her hands.
2006-08-30 11:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it run for a time to see whats out come, but the first sign of trouble step in and stop it.
2006-08-30 11:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by junior23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS NORMAL FOR SOME AND NOT FOR OTHERS. ITS REALLY GREAT WHEN BOTH SETS OF PARENTS ARE FRIENDS SEEING HOW THEY BOTH HAVE SOMETHING VERY IMPORTANT IN COMMON, THAT BEING THE LIVES OF THEIR CHILDREN AND EVENTUALLY IF LUCKY THEIR GRANDCHILDREN. I AM DIVORCED NOW FOR MANY YEARS AND LIVE ALONE AND HAVE NO FAMILY LEFT EXCEPT MY SON,HIS WIFE,AND MY GRANDSON SO I ENJOY BEING INVITED TO DO THINGS WITH MY DAUGHTER IN LAWS FAMILY.
2006-08-30 11:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes lonely
2006-08-30 11:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y E A H
2006-08-30 11:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit being a whinner .and being selfish, let it be one big family.it will be in your favor
2006-08-30 11:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by mejoe39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋