I love my girlfriend very deeply. I am always showering her with affection and complementing her. Most of the time she is good when it comes to physical affection but she has a hard time telling me that she loves me or when she is away that she misses me. I am always telling her that I love her sooo much and she tells me that she loves hearing it, but why can't she reciprocate? Her mother is not affectionate and she doesn't want to be like her, but she is. I feel like I am the one constantly chasing after her and that she doesn't appreciate me. She tells me that she loves me but it is hard for her to say it. I know that she cares, and loves me. She always tells me that she has never felt so close to anyone the way she has for me. Am I wrong in wanting affection? What more should I do for her?
2006-08-30 10:56:15 · 9 answers · asked by TheT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had a talk about this with her. That is when she told me that she does love me, but it is hard for her to express it.
2006-08-30 11:09:15 · update #1
If you know that she loves you and you know she grew up in a family that was not affectionate, why can't you just accept that instead of trying to force her to be someone else? This need for verbal affirmation is your problem. Not hers.
2006-08-30 11:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by naughtybabyjesus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If her mother is not affectionate she definitely isn't used to it, so it will be hard for her to open up. It also depends how long you have been together because it may time her time to get used to all this open affection. You are not wrong in wanting affection so tell her how you feel. Maybe if she can't verbally say things to you she could leave you a post it on the fridge or mirror saying i love you or something. (thats how i started i'm the same find it hard to express myself.) Give her time and maybe ease off on your side because she may feel pressured to be the same if you do it alot give her time and space to express herself. Be patient and feel lucky like you say you know she loves you so you must get that from something she does. Good luck
2006-08-30 11:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure..and i don't think your wrong..every one needs a lil affection every now and then.but i think the same when I'm with my gf...we've been dating for like 3 yrs now and at the beginning we were all over each other like non stop...now we barley do the things we use to do..i guess we just get use to each other and some parts jus die down. its not like i wanna leave her or n e thing but i do wish that sometimes it wud be like how we use to be...but hey u cant have everything right.
2006-08-30 11:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First take a be conscious that this has not befell to you. you're in ordinary words attempting to emphasise your self to that this has befell to you! all is ideas .. of yours... that are teasing. there is not something like that! 2ndly, a thanks to dodge that? you want to be a touch tender at heart and a lover can do this interest.. you realize questioning about someone, doing something for someone, having all some time spared for someone is the in ordinary words reason we people are on the planet.. flow get a "someone" who prepare u to love, hug and kiss... and melt ur heart so as that u sense affectionate for proper human beings round you!
2016-12-06 00:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am in the same boat as you are... my boyfriend stop telling me he loves me or misses me and that makes me sad everyday, i don't know what his problem is and it hurts deep down but i cant seem to get myself to leave him because i do love him...i don't know maybe he wasn't raised like i was telling my mom i love her and the rest of my family. HURTS I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL BUT I DONT KNOW WHY
2006-08-30 11:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by sweetjrluve19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just ease off a little, till she notices and then only a few times, so this way when you do something wrong it will still mean something
2006-08-30 10:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by Big D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time, i felt like that once, she just doesnt want her heart broken. she wants to be sure you really love her before she tells you, also its hard to show affection when you dont recieve affection from family
2006-08-30 11:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by soccerchik898 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love to the deepest level.
2006-08-30 10:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit being a p u s s y
2006-08-30 11:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Bob Onya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋